When you were in school, have you ever heard the expression "Words can't slow me down?" Those words are irrelevant to the current situation. Three of the four children admitted to having been bullied or bullied. Bullying and bullying sometimes seem similar, the difference is in the intentions of the perpetrator. Evil will turn into bullying if the action is done repeatedly and is based on the awareness to hurt or injure other people. Bullying is one of the biggest problems in schools. The percentage of students in the United States who report bullying at least once a week has risen steadily since 1999, according to FBI data. Bullying can make a child feel hurt, scared, lonely, and sad. In addition, these problems can make children feel threatened and reluctant to come to school. Here are some tips for dealing with bullies at school.
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Method 1 of 4: Complaining to Someone
Step 1. Report bullying against a parent or trusted person
If you are being bullied, it is very important to tell an adult about it first.
- Tell the complete chronology to your parents. Parents will want to help and know your condition. In addition, your parents may be able to contact the school to prevent the bullying from happening again. This is important, especially if you feel reluctant to complain to the teacher for fear that the bully will retaliate.
- It's a good idea to record everything that happens in your diary. This way, parents and other adults can find out exactly what happened.
Step 2. Report bullying and threats to schools
Inform teachers, principals, and other school officials. These individuals have the power to intervene and help stop bullying. Sometimes, bullies will stop when the teacher knows what they're doing so they don't get into trouble.
- The teacher is a very important person if you are a victim of bullying. They can provide protection from bullying by letting you feel in class during recess or by having a child accompany you around the clock (buddy system).
- It is very important to report bullying to schools because other children may become victims of the same perpetrator.
Step 3. Speak openly about acts of bullying
Just talking about personal experiences can give you some relief. Trusted people to contact are school counselors, siblings, or friends. They may be able to provide effective solutions, but still cannot replace the role of parents or the school. Just tell what you're going through so you don't feel alone.
Some children reported that peer counseling programs at school were helpful
Step 4. Don't be afraid to complain
Complaining to adults does not mean weak. Bullying is not small or trivial; the act is wrong and the victims or witnesses of the bullying should complain about the matter.
Remember that you cannot solve the problem of bullying alone. No one can, not even adults. Asking for help is the best way to deal with violence, bullying, harassment, or assault
Method 2 of 4: Avoiding Bullying
Step 1. Avoid the bully as much as possible
Don't give him the opportunity to bully you by avoiding him as much as possible.
- Remember a place where you often run into the bully. Avoid these places.
- Take a different route from home to school, as well as a different route when doing activities in the school environment.
- Don't miss class or hide. You have the right to come to school and get an education.
Step 2. Improve yourself
Ask yourself what makes you look and feel great. Sharpen your strengths, talents, and ideals.
- For example, do you want to feel healthier? If so, you may need to watch less television and exercise more often.
- Feeling satisfied with yourself will make you feel more confident and can help you appreciate yourself more. It will also make you feel more secure at school and less afraid of dealing with people who bullied you.
- Spend time with friends who are a positive influence. Exercising or participating in clubs are good activities that can help build positive friendships and self-confidence.
Step 3. Stand straight and stay calm
Sometimes, pretending to be brave is enough to stop a bully from approaching and intimidating you.
- By standing up straight and not looking down, you are sending the message that you are not someone to be played with.
- Acting and being brave will be easier when you feel confident and satisfied with yourself. It can also be trained. Practice walking upright, looking at other people, and greeting your acquaintances on the street. Practice using a strong, firm tone of voice (without shouting). Remember, lots of practice will make you good.
Step 4. Use buddy-system
If you're trying to prevent bullying, remember that two people are stronger than one. For example, walk with one or more friends to school, and hang out with them at recess. In other words, make sure you always have friends when you run into a bully at school.
If you have friends, remember to be friends with other victims of bullying. Offer to support a friend who is having a bullying problem. Take action immediately if a friend becomes a victim of bullying; In the end, you know how hard it is to be a victim of bullying. Report the problem to an adult and accompany your friend who is being bullied, and ask the bully to stop the behavior. Support those who are bullied with words and kindness
Step 5. Ignore the bully if he says or does something to you
As much as possible, try to ignore the bully's threats. Pretend you didn't hear it and get out of there to a safer place.
Bullies are always looking for a reaction from their victims. Pretending you don't hear or care (even if you're upset inside) may end the bully's behavior because he's not getting the reaction he wants
Method 3 of 4: Defending Yourself
Step 1. Understand that you have the right not to be bullied
It's not your fault for being a victim of bullying. You, like everyone else, deserve to feel safe.
Step 2. Say "no
"Tell the bully "No! Stop it!" in a loud, firm voice, then walk away if necessary.
- Dealing with a bully by saying “No” will send the message that you are not afraid and do not accept the treatment. Bullies tend to target children who lack self-confidence and people who are willing to accept inappropriate treatment and are willing to do whatever they are told.
- Number always reflects strength. Children can defend each other from bullies who are scaring or pranking their victims, then walk away together from the place.
Step 3. Take control of your feelings
Plan ahead. How do you stop yourself from getting angry or showing that you are upset?
Try to distract yourself. Countdown from 100, sing your favorite song in your head, spell a word backwards, etc. Keep your mind busy until you get out of the situation and control your feelings, and don't have the reaction the bully wants
Step 4. Don't bully back
Don't hit, kick, or push the bully in defense of yourself or your friend. Fighting back will make the bully happy because it shows that he has succeeded in upsetting you.
Fighting back can be dangerous too. If you fight the bully and win, you may feel like a hero and turn into a bully. Someone can get hurt and you will get into trouble. Stay in touch with others, keep yourself safe, and seek help from nearby adults
Method 4 of 4: Removing Bullying at School
Step 1. Get everyone to work together
All elements of the school – teachers, administrators, and students – must agree to make schools a bullying-free zone.
People who are not directly involved with schools should also participate, for example school bus drivers, and receive training to deal with bullying
Step 2. Take concrete action
It takes more than just a bully-free area sign in a school to create an environment that is truly clean of such acts.
- Change the way students view other students. For example, creating an anti-bullying program may need to be accompanied by a lesson plan so that children can learn about the behavior of other children, especially those from different backgrounds, ethnicities and cultures, and with unique learning styles and abilities. Teachers can also teach cooperation by giving assignments in groups so that students can learn to blend in and adapt without depending on others.
- Regulations related to bullying and its consequences should be discussed and posted clearly in school areas, given to parents, and posted in local newspapers to create collective awareness of the issue. This will trigger a transformation on a large scale.
Step 3. Carry out broader surveillance
Most bullying in schools occurs in areas that are rarely supervised by adults, such as school buses, cafeterias, bathrooms, classrooms, and storage areas.
- Schools need to secure the area by tightening surveillance through additional officers or the use of security techniques, such as the installation of surveillance cameras.
- Schools can also provide an anonymous complaint service, for example via a suggestion box or a special telephone line so that students can send short messages or voice messages.
Tips
- Don't think that you are a bad person. You are extraordinary! You have to love yourself for who you are! Bullies usually feel less confident. That's why they are bullying!
- Complaining to an adult does NOT make you a crybaby. A whiny child will say something like "So and so and so eat chewing gum in class!" instead of "So and so hit me during recess!". A whiny child will complain about issues that are NOT physical violence and are NOT their business.
