Pride is usually considered a negative character quality. However, arrogance displayed in the right way will actually be an attraction and excellence in your personal and professional relationships. You can learn to be this kind of person who excels in every aspect of life, showing your best qualities, without being the annoying person for being overly arrogant.
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Part 1 of 3: Be Right
Step 1. Be the best
It's much easier to show arrogance if you really are the best of the lot. The less you need to prove your superiority, the more convincing your arrogant words will be. Often, we think of pride as having to do with competition in sporting events or in a work environment, but in fact, pride can be applied to social situations, everyday life, relationships and many other fields. Try to be the best person in your field.
Train yourself hard and devote your time to doing whatever you are aiming for yourself. Pride won't do you any good if you brag about something you don't really understand or practice
Step 2. Develop a firm posture
While people may not like you, they need to know when you enter a room. Give off a bold aura without making a sound, by displaying body language that conveys your status and your superior self-worth. Here are some ways to master situations and people without saying a word:
- Always stand straight. Pull your shoulders back and lift your head as if in a ready position.
- Move with certainty. Do not pace around the room, or stop by too often to certain corners. Walk with a definite step in the direction you are going and take a certain position for yourself.
- Don't smile too much. If you want to give the impression of superiority, try to stay cool and give a critical look when you see someone else doing something.
Step 3. Demonstrate your skills in public
Compete regularly to keep your skills honed and you still have the ambition to win. It's much better if you brag about things that other people have seen/know you're capable of, because then your arrogance will appear much more convincing. Try to win at the things you know you can win with your skill and cocky style.
- The sooner you start getting involved in various competitions, the better the results. If you get used to competing seriously early on, you'll carry this passion into adulthood.
- Have a competitive nature in all areas of life. When tennis player Rafael Nadal got injured and had to take a break from playing tennis, he learned to play high-stakes poker and soon became addicted to the game, only to maintain his cocky and competitive style.
Step 4. Use the weakest link as an example (bad)
Arrogant people will always show their superior status, and this means they often use the least superior people around them as bad examples of things. Perhaps they will name the worst performing employee in the office, assign a specific task that will expose the employee's weaknesses, or challenge a weaker "opponent" to compete with him or her. The point is, if you want to come across as arrogant, you need to dominate the situation constantly.
- Under no circumstances should ever belittle other people. Arrogant people always compete very hard all the time.
- You also need to give a competitive challenge to "opponents" who are superior to yourself, to improve your own abilities while getting the opportunity to compete seriously at any time.
Step 5. Show a satisfied attitude towards yourself, or pretend to be satisfied
Arrogant people must appear as if they have really struggled to achieve their successes without giving any credit to the coaches, teachers, or any other party. They must appear as if they were born with wealth and achievements, and display a domineering attitude around them every day.
What's important is not whether this actually happened or not. Act as if all of this is true by making such an impression. Let everyone see and know your success
Step 6. Dress like the person you want to impress
Dress as if you are the person you are showing it to. A high-quality coat or jacket or outerwear can cost 50 times the standard version. However, the life of her clothes is much longer and she will make a very strong impression too.
- Appearing arrogant also means that you have to display a certain style of behavior and appearance that shows an influence on the environment around you. You should present yourself as a “snobby athlete” or “arrogant senior” and wear clothing and attributes that match that image.
- Have a look that fits your cocky style. For example, a snobby rock star has to look as if he doesn't care about his hairdo (which is really cool), and as if he just grabbed a leather jacket that just happens to be in his closet (but looks so cut to his body).
Part 2 of 3: Speak Properly
Step 1. Talk about your achievements
Pride is all about showing excellence in everything, and you'll find it easier to do so if you actually have accomplishments to brag about. If you have an advantage over others around you, for example, you finish your work the fastest, or you beat your sibling in a race, make sure that everyone knows about your accomplishments.
- Don't brag about accomplishments that aren't extraordinary. You will have a hard time if you try to brag about the things you do with mediocre accomplishments, and your arrogance will be ignored by others. If you want to sound assertive and great, only brag when you really have a reason to.
- If you want to appear even more arrogant, you don't have to wait for the right moment. Just start bragging about yourself. Arrogance is something that will appear obvious and intimidating, and arrogant people don't care about being perceived as such.
- Sometimes, talk about your accomplishments with a bit of exaggeration. It's better to be exaggerating a bit than actually lying, because you'll fail to brag when others discover that you're actually lying.
Step 2. Set really high standards
If you want to appear cocky, start by setting big goals and working your way up to them. Your standard of achievement must be higher than everyone else's, while remaining within your capabilities. Make sure that your standards are too high for everyone else.
- Make sure that your standards continue to rise as your skills improve. The higher your achievement, the higher your standards should be. Don't just win a game, but defend the title, be the champion for three seasons in a row, win the Most Valuable Player (MVP) trophy, and you will be the best person among the people around you.
- If someone gave a compliment, the arrogant person would give an answer like, “Oh, that's nothing. I didn't even try…”
Step 3. Criticize the weaknesses you find
When people fail to meet the standards you have set for yourself and for them, criticize those failures publicly. This may sound cruel because you're blatantly exposing other people's weaknesses and failures, but it's actually a great way to position yourself above others. This is as important as bragging about yourself.
You don't have to be an impolite snob, but you do need to be tough sometimes. If your teammate or opponent in the game makes a mistake, show that you don't like it firmly but quietly: “You and I both know it was a bad game. You made a mistake and cost us all. Next time pass the ball to me."
Step 4. Don't let other people put you down
In the end, you may end up getting verbal attacks because you appear arrogant. Other people who are trying to come off as arrogant will try to bring you down in some ways, and it's important that you stay strong in your own way of speaking. Don't allow witty ridicule or jokes to get to you, and practice so you can dodge and counterattack quickly to stay ahead of the competition.
Most of these things will happen before the actual competition begins. Learn to recognize the emergence of competition and take a safe position by choosing the superior side and working together to dominate, or by beating the other party at some point before they become confident and pose a challenge to you
Step 5. Have fun
Ideally, your arrogance should be a special attraction so that other people want to get close to you, especially the opposite sex. The right little grin at someone who is acting silly or at an idea that doesn't make sense can show arrogance, but it can also appear playful and attractive. Imagine the style of these overbearing but attractive characters:
- David Letterman
- Chandler in the series "Friends"
- Barney in the series "How I Met Your Mother"
- Lady Gaga
- Ron Burgundy
- Terry Crews
- Oprah Winfrey
- Phil McGraw
Step 6. Believe that you are as superior as you claim to be
Remind yourself that you are the best and take pride in everything you do. Keep this attitude always in your mind and remove all doubts that bother you, if any. Recognize that you are an extraordinary person in many ways, and let this confidence change your speech and behavior.
- In some cases, collecting insults from others may help motivate you. Basketball player Michael Jordan used to record the words of other players who belittled him and kept this recording in his locker to serve as motivation to get him excited to dominate the game.
- Imagine a different story to keep you motivated to pursue an achievement. Position yourself as a new player who still has to prove yourself, even though you may already be the best of the lot. Act as if you have very little chance of winning, even in things you know you're good at. Let this spirit continue to burn within you.
Step 7. Find the right points to stand out
One of the easiest ways to appear arrogant is through everyday conversation. If someone tells you something, especially their achievements, ignore them and don't congratulate them. Instead, you should immediately tell the same thing about yourself/achievement but in a bigger and more spectacular version.
- What if a friend just returned from a vacation trip at the beach? This should immediately remind you of the times you snorkelled in Malaysia with the native fishermen and stayed on the beach in a thatched hut.
- If you teach a friend to do something, you can say that you learned it in a few seconds (or sooner than them). This possibility will make them feel less superior than you and feel that they can never do anything as fast as you.
Part 3 of 3: Stay Respectful
Step 1. Respect those who deserve respect
Never underestimate the people you truly value and respect. Your goal in appearing arrogant is to silence the mouths of critics and those who are too arrogant about their lives and themselves. It also means you need to keep the work environment admiring you, while being careful not to overdo it. The best option is not to act too arrogantly in front of the following people:
- Your boss/supervisor
- Your coach/mentor
- Your parents
- General service staff (restaurant waiters, cleaning staff, security, etc.)
- Your date
Step 2. Always use good manners to benefit yourself
There's a fine line between appearing arrogant and being a bitch who is too arrogant. Appearing arrogant does not mean being rude and forgetting basic ethical norms when interacting with others. After all, these things actually keep you attractive while being cool and maintaining an acceptable distance in your social circle.
- When trying to appear arrogant, never speak in a disdainful manner to people who work in the public service sector. This will only make you look small, lousy and childish.
- Forgetting someone's name may seem like an attractive way of belittling other people, but it can actually make you seem annoying. Treat others fairly by treating them with general respect, even when you are dominating them in a competitive arena.
Step 3. Know your limits
If you claim to excel in a field where you actually lack expertise or experience, your pride will be crushed and become completely useless. You will look very stupid. Make sure that you do not enter any arena of competition, conflict or confrontation where you have absolutely no chance of winning.
Learning to deal with defeat is a good thing. This is useful so that you don't sulk when you lose (which is sometimes thin). Learn to face defeat with dignity, because even if your self-image is very superior and you have managed to present yourself as an arrogant person, sometimes defeat will still happen
Step 4. Achieve new milestones
Pride should be a form of self-development. Imagine Michael Jordan or Steve Jobs, those snobs who came, saw, and won. They are not people who have just won in the past. Likewise, let that prideful self-image spur you on to new achievements at a higher level.
Always keep your promises and commitments. You have to reach the standard you have set for yourself. If you don't, you'll be just like a loser swelled up by unfounded arrogance, and that means you're just like a lot of other people. When you enter the competitive arena, give your best effort
Step 5. Find the new steps you need to climb
Many arrogant people could easily turn into jobless losers in their 30s strutting around the courtyards of the high school they used to attend, boasting about their past accomplishments. You certainly don't want to be these kinds of people, do you? Always finding new stairs to climb and new challenges to conquer.
After winning in a competition, do a victory dance and then try to compete in other related fields. Try to be the best person in the related field too. For example, after dominating the industry, you can try to be the best fisherman. Set new targets constantly and make sure that you achieve them
Tips
- True arrogance, when done properly, will give the impression that you have superiority, wealth and accomplishments, without you having to say it. This aura will radiate by itself.
- Arrogance is very good when combined with sarcasm or harsh words that do not directly attack others, but use puns to get other people's words to themselves. This means you'll have to put in a lot of practice to be able to counterattack, clever words, and sharp sarcasm.
- Appearing arrogant is not bragging about your achievements or wealth. Arrogant people need not boast about the common achievements of life.
- Being the best at everything is a very difficult thing. So, boast only in those areas where you can no longer be challenged. This means you need to focus on the areas where you really excel.
Warning
- You're just trying to step over people you don't trust and who you don't like. Don't be arrogant in front of family, close friends, or co-workers you respect.
- Some people may not like you and think you're a show off.
