You've found a guy who just seems to qualify-he's smart, handsome, attractive. He even enjoys chatting with you on a regular basis. Getting him to notice you in a romantic way may be more difficult than building a friendship. While you can't get someone to like you, you can make them notice you in other ways.
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Method 1 of 2: Approaching Your Girlfriend
Step 1. Make eye contact when you chat with your crush
Eye contact is very important in the approach.
- You can signal your attraction to a guy by making eye contact with him.
- Let eye contact last for 1-2 seconds, then avert your gaze.
- Prolonged eye contact before chatting can be damaging. Staring at people can make him uncomfortable.
- A good rule of thumb for making eye contact in a successful conversation is to look at his face as you listen, then look away occasionally as you converse.
Step 2. Smile when you see a guy you like
A smile is the key to friendly non-verbal communication.
- This shows that you are confident.
- A smile sets the mood for your interactions.
- A smile as a body language signifies approval and concern.
- Let your face be relaxed and casual.
- Don't force a smile that's too wide or fake.
Step 3. Keep your approach and start of conversation light and cheerful
You don't need to show your crush your deepest feelings when you're just getting close to him.
- Keep the topic of conversation light. Think about things like school, your pets, sports or other activities.
- Don't be afraid to be cheerful in conversation. Add a little humor by making small jokes.
- Keep your facial expression cheerful and happy.
- For example, if you are in the same class, you can talk about assignments or exams and offer to study together.
- If you know he has a dog or cat, ask to see pictures of him.
- Talk about the sport or yours. If he is not involved in sports, choose something he does like drama, reading, art, etc. to talk about.
Step 4. Use proper body language when interacting with a guy you like
You don't want to look closed or nervous.
- Posture is very important in the approach. Don't use a "closed" posture; this is when you stand or sit with your arms or legs crossed.
- If you turn your back on your crush, you will appear disinterested.
- In your approach, try to keep your body relaxed and open. Let your hands relax and not cross, and lean toward your crush.
- Imitate Adna's crush's body language. If he has an open, relaxed posture, re-communicate the same body language.
- For example, if your crush is leaning against a wall, maintain a relaxed body language. Lean against a wall too, or stand in a relaxed position.
Step 5. Compliment her at the start of the conversation
Say something nice about his accomplishments or appearance.
- Be honest and tell the truth when you give compliments.
- Try to give indirect compliments to his outward appearance. Give compliments like "You did great at last night's game" or "You really are a good partner on group work."
- If you know he's working on an assignment at school you can focus on that achievement: "I saw your art at the fair. That's really cool."
- You can compliment a guy on how he looks, but don't focus your good comments on his personal appearance. This can make you look too focused on their physical appearance.
Step 6. Don't talk too much about yourself
Talking about yourself and your likes endlessly will make you look selfish.
- This gives the impression of being arrogant and self-focused.
- When you interact with your crush, you can tell them a little about yourself.
- However, just tell a few relevant facts or stories about yourself.
- For example, if he talks about sports and you play them too, reply with a comment or story about your sports game.
- Listening is a very important skill in the approach.
- Instead of focusing on yourself in the conversation, say a few things about yourself and then ask about him. Listen carefully to what he has to say.
- For example, "I was involved in a drama last year and it was a lot of fun. Are you going to try a role this year?"
- Nod and show that you are listening when he is talking.
Step 7. Chat and flirt on social media
Follow some ideas for this type of conversation.
- Keep your initial message casual. Say "Hi, how are you?" or "Hi, what are you doing now?"
- Ask the guy you like about his family, pets, sports or hobbies.
- You can also say something like "I see you have some photos playing with your little brother. So funny. What do you guys usually do for fun?"
- Comment on the photo on Facebook or Twitter.
Step 8. Ask your crush for a date
Try not to be stiff, nervous, or formal when you do it.
- Bring it naturally to the conversation. If you're talking about sports, for example, you might start with "Would you like to go to the game together on Friday?"
- Offer to do something he's interested in: "So you like rock music? Shall we go to a concert next week?"
- You can also directly say "Hi, I like you and want to go out with you one day."
- Remember to be confident. Confidence is very attractive and shows the guy you like that you are attracted to him.
- Don't mumble or stutter when asking a question. You want to look happy and confident.
Method 2 of 2: Attracting Your Crush's Attention
Step 1. Be yourself
Believe in yourself. You don't want to lose yourself.
- Remember, you have many great qualities that can make the guy you like attracted to you.
- Confidence attracts others.
- Don't be afraid to be yourself. You have your own interests and likes.
- You don't have to make yourself an imitation of your crush to get him to like you. Being different might make you look more attractive to him.
- Keep your friendship even if you have feelings for them. Inviting him to do activities with your friends may be a good way to lighten the mood.
- For example, if you're going to watch a sports game or go ice skating with your friends, invite them to come along. Invite him to bring a friend or two if it feels awkward at first.
Step 2. Do nice things for the guy you like
Find things he likes and surprise him.
- Find out what kind of cake or snack he likes. Take it to school and put it in his locker with a note.
- Make a list of her favorite songs and send it to her.
- Give him his favorite team's sports shirt or his favorite band's t-shirt.
Step 3. Get involved in school activities together
If he's involved in a sporting activity or is in a club, find ways you can join in.
- For example, if he plays a sport try volunteering to help out at team events.
- At the very least, show up at his matches or other extracurricular events to show support.
- Being interested in the same activities as her will let her know that you are interested in her.
- If you can't join the same club or activity as her, offer to help her out at an event.
- For example: "I'm really good at painting. I can help your drama group create a scene for this month's drama" or "I'm with your team going to be selling a cake for a charity. I'd like to help out by helping with the cake."
Step 4. Get to know his friends
Be friendly and relaxed around them.
- By joining social groups, you may be able to spend more time with your crush or learn more about them.
- Being friendly and friendly with his friends will let your crush know that you can spend time with his social groups.
- For example, if you know they're going to an event, ask if you can come along.
- Invite his friends to come along when you go out with your friends.
- Don't get involved in gossip or rumors about him and his friends. Gossip can be something that men don't like.
Step 5. Dress beautifully to impress your crush
Wear clothes that suit your body type. Make sure your clothes match and neat.
- Keep your hair in good shape. Make sure your hair is in a good style for school or other occasions.
- You don't have to wear a particular style, you can even experiment with a few looks to see what she likes.
- Keep your makeup simple. Using heavy makeup can make you look like you're working too hard.
- Use natural makeup that plays with your eyes and lips. Try eating simple mascara and neutral-colored lipstick or lip balm.
- Working on your appearance can get your crush to notice, but you don't have to dress in a style that's not "you." Plan a neat appearance with a style that suits your personality.
