Has your little brother ever walked into your room and ate your candy? Has he ever repeated what you said rudely? Worst of all, have you ever scolded or annoyed him and cried, and he actually got you into trouble? Fights between siblings are normal and many children are annoyed with their younger brothers. If you want to bond with him, determine how to resolve the conflict and show respect. Involve your parents if all the steps you've tried don't work.
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Method 1 of 3: Treat Her With Respect
Step 1. Think about how you treated him during the day
Do you often push him when you pass him? Do you often lock him in the bathroom to piss him off? Did you take his stuff without permission? It's usually easy for someone to prank their little sister without thinking about the repercussions, especially since she's younger and can't do anything about it. Therefore, start paying attention to how you treat him.
Sometimes, the ignorance you do is the fruit of his fault. He irritates you so you retaliate, and he bully you again. This vicious circle will not stop until you take another step
Step 2. Think about how he feels
Maybe it's hard being a sister. He may think you're cool and want to spend time with you, but he's not mature enough to play the games you love or spend time with you like your friends. It could be that he often starts fights or annoys you because he wants your attention.
Your ability to imagine what someone else is feeling is known as empathy. This helps you determine your actions towards someone by encouraging you to imagine how he or she is feeling and responding with something you find most helpful. Empathy also encourages you to imagine how you would feel when you were in his position
Step 3. Treat him the way you want to be treated
You've probably heard this saying (known as the "Golden Rule"). The concept is the right rule to treat your sister. Just because he's your brother doesn't mean he doesn't deserve equal respect!
Treat him the way you want him to treat you. Do not scold him, take his belongings without permission, or complain about him. He may not treat him the same way, but if you show him respect and a friendly attitude, you won't be blamed for starting the fight
Step 4. Approach him in a friendly tone of voice
Never start a conversation with a shout. His feelings hurt when you yell at him, and he can yell back at you.
Try saying "Good morning!" in a positive tone every day. Your words will make the day happy
Method 2 of 3: Troubleshooting with it
Step 1. Invite him to have a heart-to-heart talk
If you've been fighting a lot lately, or he's done something that upsets you, you should talk to him about it so he knows how you feel.
- Make sure you don't make him cry. Try not to speak in a high-pitched or commanding tone. Let him join the conversation and share how he feels.
- Begin your speech with the word "I" to describe how you feel. Instead of blaming her by saying, for example, "You're always so loud and rude!", you could say "I get annoyed every time you come into my room without knocking on the door. I feel like you can't respect my privacy."
Step 2. Apologize for your rudeness
Maybe you've teased or scolded him when he pissed you off. Apologize for those moments and show that you want to have a better relationship with them.
Try saying, "I'm sorry for being so rude and scolding you. I don't know why I act like that sometimes, but I'll try to be nicer to you."
Step 3. Make a list of things you can change
The two of you may often irritate or be rude to each other. Take note of the things you wish he wouldn't do, and ask him the things he wished you wouldn't.
- Keep the list short and focus on the things that are most important. Try noting two or three things. You can ask him not to bother you when your friends are coming, knock on the door before entering your room, and not to borrow your toys without permission.
- You both have to agree that each side will try not to do things that annoy the other.
Step 4. Remain calm when he is being childish
It will be difficult for you to have a serious conversation with your sister. If he makes weird noises or makes fun of you while you're talking, just stand up and say "I've been trying to talk to you…" and walk away.
If he calls you, look at him (without saying anything) and wait for him to speak. If he says something, sit next to him and finish your conversation
Step 5. Listen to what he has to say and show that you care what he thinks
When he's done talking, hug him and remind him that you love him, even if you two fight sometimes.
Step 6. Know the right reaction when you fight
Even if you've spoken to him and agreed to be more friendly, there's a chance that you'll still have fights in the future. If you feel like you're going to yell at her or scold her, say "I don't want to fight with you."
- If you start arguing, let him win once in a while. This will surprise him and the fight can end quickly. Say, “Okay! You're right. Forgive me. I'll go into my room and read."
- If you're really mad at him, leave him and tell him you don't want to say something hurtful that you need to walk away from. Show that you don't want to fight.
Method 3 of 3: Finding Ways to Familiarize Yourself
Step 1. Play his favorite game or read a book he likes
By spending time with him while doing the things he enjoys, he will not seek your attention when your friends come or you do your homework.
Schedule time to play, go to the park, or just color a picture together
Step 2. Encourage him to play with other siblings
If you have several siblings, make them play together. That way, they will be busy playing together and not bother you. If they start fighting, mediate the situation and remind them that they are brothers, and not enemies. Play together for a few minutes until they get along, then resume your work.
You can take them to play vet with some stuffed animals, or prepare a simple board game like Ludo or Snakes and Ladders
Step 3. Give him something to do if he starts to piss you off
If you're working on something and he won't stop bothering you, ask him to draw a picture or color a page in a coloring book. Show that he has an “important” job by doing something for you. He will also feel special when doing the "task" that you give.
Make sure you thank him and hang the painting he made in your room to let him know that you really appreciate it
Step 4. Show him that you love him
Make sure you tell him regularly that you love him. Even if it sounds weird or “crunchy”, he needs to know that you are always there for him and care for him.
Try saying "I love you!" in the morning when he leaves for school or in the evening before you go to bed
Tips
- If you're fighting and he's still upset, give him some time alone so he can calm down.
- If he wants to play outside or play a video game, but you are busy, ask him to prepare the game while waiting for you. If you need to do something for a longer period of time, encourage him to do or take care of his own tasks and responsibilities.
- If he's trying to piss you off, don't yell at him. Keep in mind that he just wants your attention. He may reflect on you so try to set a good example and control your anger or irritation.
- If he's annoying or does something bad, take deep breaths so you don't get annoyed.
