Pleasing others purely out of sincerity can bring an indescribable feeling of happiness in this world. Brightening someone's day, whether it's your best friend or the waitress serving you, can bring in good karma and brighten your day too. To please others, you must be sincere, open, and willing to work on making a difference.
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Method 1 of 3: Fun Friends
Step 1. Provide emotional support
Everyone wants to know that they are loved and appreciated. Give your friend encouragement to pursue their dreams, especially if no one else does. Find ways to convey how much he means to you, even if it's casual or subtle. Be a friend who cares and is considerate of everything he faces. Being with your friend at any time, whether she's having a big life problem or just wants to complain about work, is one of the best ways to make her feel happier.
Another way to provide emotional support is to remind your friend when he or she is self-destructing. Find subtle ways to talk if he's in an unhealthy relationship, makes bad life choices, or is wasting talent. He can choose to listen to your advice or not, but at least you've taken the opportunity to be honest
Step 2. Encourage him when he is sad
Smile and if your relationship is close enough, give him a hug. Suggest fun activities like camping indoors with blankets like you did when you were a kid, bringing some other friends over to your house, or playing with a silly putty -especially if you're "too old" for such games. Collect a collection of pictures, videos, and gifts, then go ahead and bet he won't feel better after seeing it.
- Silly behavior won't necessarily make someone happier, but it's worth a try. He will appreciate your efforts to do whatever it takes to make him smile.
- If she's really sad, sometimes the best way to comfort her is just to be by her side, providing a place to lean on when she wants to cry. Don't force yourself to act silly to make her feel better, especially if the situation isn't right.
- Sometimes it doesn't matter even though you've been talking to him for a long time, and have hugged and embraced him, he'll still be upset. In fact, to help this type of person you just have to share in their grief. If he is empathetic, seeing you sad will make him anxious and he will try to make amends. And usually, his mood will improve, and even better than what you can do.
Step 3. Be a good listener
One easy way to make others feel valued and recognized is to listen. Try to understand your friend's thoughts and put yourself in their shoes. Ask something that shows you care, don't interrupt, and if there's something you don't understand, say something, don't pretend you understand. Maybe you have a friend who feels like he's not getting enough attention and needs a listening ear, you can make him happier by being next to him and listening to him talk.
- To listen to your friend well, turn your body towards him, make eye contact, and don't give unsolicited advice. Let him see that you are focused on listening to him and that you are by his side to make his life better, not judgmental.
- Keep your phone on when he's talking to show you're giving him the attention he deserves.
Step 4. Give meaningful gifts
Take the time to choose a special gift that is suitable for your friend. The more seriously you think about this special gift, the better it will appear as an expression of positive energy and concern. Give him something he really likes or needs, don't give random gifts; You can give her a rare album she's sure to love, or the first edition of her favorite novel. The extra effort to find a unique gift is sure to make him feel good right away.
While a meaningful gift on a birthday or special celebration can be very impressive, you don't have to wait that long, sometimes nothing will make someone happier than a gift given at an unexpected time
Step 5. Call him just to say hello
One way to please a friend is to say hello on the phone. These small efforts have a big impact and show that you really care about him and want to know the latest news in his life. Call her when she has the chance, ask her how her day was and what she has planned at work, school, or with friends. Take the time to show you care without expecting anything in return, and you're sure to make your day.
- Usually over time we no longer call each other as often as before. Make your friend happy by calling him or her wanting nothing more than to say hello.
- If you know that your friend has just had an important week, such as starting a new job, call her to ask how her new job is.
Step 6. Help your friends for nothing
Another way to make your friend happy is to offer to help. You don't have to do anything really big, or just help out when he's having a hard time. If one day he is very busy, get him lunch or offer to walk the dog in the morning. You can pick him up if you know his car is in the repair shop, or help him set up an IKEA table that has been left in a box for weeks. Even a small favor was enough to make him smile.
- Some people may be reluctant to ask for help even if they need it. Let him know that you genuinely want to help, and he will usually be eager to accept.
- Observe carefully. Watch your friend and see what he needs the most. Maybe he actually wanted an iced coffee but was embarrassed to say it.
Step 7. Write a thank you note on a card
Your friend will definitely feel good right away if you send them a thank you card that shows you appreciate what he or she has done for you. You might think that this kind of card is only for teachers or parents, but it's actually a unique and meaningful way to thank a friend and make him or her feel happier. You don't need to thank him for a specific reason, take a more general note and thank him for being a great friend and a great listener.
Leave the card on his doorstep, in his mailbox, or tucked in a book he's reading. The element of surprise will make him feel happier
Step 8. Compliment your friend in front of others
Another way to please a friend is to praise him in front of other friends when he is not around. Instead of gossiping and saying unkind words, spread positivity and say nice things about one of your friends, either by complimenting his sense of dress or his amazing guitar playing, so he'll be happy when he hears that you compliment him. Rest assured that like any negative gossip, he will definitely hear if you say words of praise behind your back.
Plus, if you say nice things about a friend behind their back, it will also encourage them to say nice things about you; positive energy will spread
Step 9. Make the cake
Baking a cake is one way to keep your friends happy, and it never goes stale. Take the time to bake chocolate chip cookies, banana bread, apple pie, or some other treat that is sure to make your friend happy and make her appreciate the effort you put into brightening her day. You can surprise him by placing the cake you've made on his desk or on his doorstep.
- If you don't know what his favorite cake is, find out smartly so that your cake will be even more special.
- Making a cake for a friend's birthday will make him feel even more happy.
Method 2 of 3: Pleasing Parents
Step 1. Be a trustworthy person and child
Making grandiose promises from time to time will not mean the same as fulfilling small promises in everyday life. Prioritize honesty. Even a harmless lie can be considered a petty betrayal. Make sure your every action matches the words-and vice versa. One of the things you can do to please your parents is to make yourself worthy of their trust.
- Maybe your parents often worry about you not opening up to them. The best thing you can do is show that you are open to talking about whatever is going on in your life.
- Parents will be very happy if they feel that their relationship with the child is open, and if they know that you have nothing to hide.
Step 2. Spend quality time with them
Show that you not only love, but also enjoy being around them. You don't need any extra effort: start by turning off the TV, sitting down together, and talking. You can also take them bowling, swimming, or other fun activities. Family events don't always have to be boring, you can have fun with your family whether by eating at a new restaurant or playing cards. Your parents will want to spend time with you, more than anything else in the world, so this is sure to make them very happy.
- Leave your bedroom door open, not always closed, it shows that you want to spend time with your parents and not make them another part of your world.
- Choose one night a week for family time, for example every Sunday or every two weeks. Incorporating family time into your routine is sure to please your parents.
- An important key when spending time with your parents is to show that you really want them, not only to make them happy but secretly wishing you were out with friends.
Step 3. Make parents feel valued
Give them a sincere compliment by saying the one thing you love the most about them. Make them feel that you are grateful to have them and that you are grateful for everything they do for you. Don't let a day go by without saying thank you, and without showing that you couldn't have done it without them. Your parents will be happier because they will see how much you appreciate them.
- Let's admit it: most parents get less credit for their role, but this should not be allowed to happen. Don't let yourself be one of those people and show that you really love them.
- Remember that your parents are not just parents; they are also human beings with goals and needs. They are not “asked” to take care of you; they choose to take care of you, and you should respect that.
Step 4. Be a happy person
One way to please your parents is to try to make yourself a happy person, whether that means finding love, a meaningful career, or pursuing a hobby that makes you happy. Studies show that parents want their children to be happy, regardless of whether their child is an adult or a child, so you should always try to be happy and show that happiness if you want your parents to be happy too.
Maybe you're in the habit of calling your parents to complain about work or some other annoying aspect of your life. However, you should also call them to talk about things you enjoy. Honesty is important, but there's nothing wrong with showing joy on the surface
Step 5. Help with homework
Another way to please your parents is to help with the housework as much as you can. This doesn't mean you have to finish your homework faster, but that you have to do what's not asked for, like doing the laundry, wiping down the kitchen table, or even vacuuming when your parents are out. They will definitely appreciate your extra effort and they will feel happier as a result.
- Helping with housework will make your parents even more happy if they are very busy and really want to shift the burden of housework on to someone else for a while.
- You don't have to show what you've done; they will surely notice and immediately feel happy.
Step 6. Cook something delicious
Another way to please parents is to surprise them with delicious homemade dishes. You don't need to cook big, just make simple dishes like pasta with lettuce and chicken or fish. What's important isn't serving restaurant-class food, but the time you've devoted to helping them, and doing it well so your parents don't have to cook for the day.
- Surprise yourself by preparing a meal one night when your parents usually cook. Nothing will make them happier than going home and seeing your homemade food on the table.
- You'll get extra points if you help clean up after eating.
Step 7. Express your affection physically
Physical affection can make parents happy. Hugs when they meet, kisses on the cheek, a gentle pat on the arm or shoulder, and all these little gestures can really brighten up your parents' life. Maybe at your age you think it's embarrassing to show physical affection with your parents, but you need to push those thoughts away and give them the affection they need if you want them to be happy.
- A kiss or hug before leaving for school will make all the difference to their day.
- Don't stay in your room when your parents come home from work, welcome them even if you are on the far side of the house. Come down if your room is upstairs, give them a hug, and ask how their day was.
Step 8. Treat your brothers and sisters well
If you want to please your parents, one of the best things you can do is to develop positive relationships with your siblings. Being kind to your brother or sister can please parents, because they see that their children get along well, and good relationships will keep the home peaceful and smooth. If you're the eldest child, taking on a little bit of responsibility to take care of your younger siblings can also please your parents because you've lifted one worry off their shoulders.
- If your sister needs help with her homework, help her out if your parents are busy.
- If you are a younger child, being nice to your siblings and avoiding fights can also make parents happy.
Step 9. Call them for nothing
Your parents may be used to hearing from you when you call to ask something that only they can answer. But if you want to make them happy, you should call them just to ask how they're doing and find out what they're doing. They will feel appreciated and cared for, and will definitely feel good that you took the time to chat with them, not because you need something.
- If your day is busy, you can make a difference to their day, even if it's just to ask how they're doing and say hello via text message.
- If you're busy at work, you can brighten their day by sending them a quick email or linking to a new article they might like.
Method 3 of 3: Pleasing Acquaintances or Strangers
Step 1. Do small acts of kindness to show you care
Call someone over the phone, send a message or email to let them know you're thinking of them. Send a letter you wrote yourself, a silly cartoon, or a funny photo in the mail; very few people still receive postal mail these days so your shipments are sure to be gladly received. Pick a flower for her, help carry groceries, or offer a big favor like moving house
- Doing good sincerely will bring good karma and the rest of your day will feel better.
- Look around you. If you see someone who seems to be in dire need of a smile or kindness, direct your attention to that person-as long as you're not pushy.
Step 2. Make other people laugh
Laughter reduces tension and is highly contagious. A funny joke that you tell on ordinary occasions like when you are shopping or waiting in line to buy a movie ticket can bring a smile to someone's face. If you don't have any ideas, find something funny online and send it to them. The most important thing here is to show that you are a cheerful person and willing to do anything to make other people laugh.
- In life sometimes people don't laugh enough. You can make someone's day happier just by making them laugh once or twice.
- You can also do silly things like picking a wildflower or a blade of grass and giving it to someone saying, “I picked this flower especially for you!” or "I picked this grass just for you!"
Step 3. Make eye contact and say hello
It is an easy and simple way to make a change in one's life. Eye contact is enough to make someone feel appreciated, and a friendly greeting will brighten up the day. You never know what he's thinking, so greeting and treating them that makes them special even if only briefly may serve as the boost he needs to get through the day.
Maybe that day you were the only person who smiled at him. Think about the difference you have made
Step 4. Donate your belongings
Another way to please someone is to donate clothes, cutlery, or other items you no longer need to help others who can use them. You never know how much your used clothes or plates mean to someone in need, and donating items is a guarantee that you've made someone smile, even if they're far away and you can't see them.
- If you keep clothes that you haven't worn for more than a year, now is a great time to put them in the hands of someone else in need.
- Although sometimes there is a sentimental feeling about old things that are no longer used, think about the more meaning and happiness that other people can get from them.
Step 5. Give the other person sincere compliments
You can make someone smile and feel happier with just a small compliment. As long as your compliments are kind and genuine, you'll make his life a little better. All you need to do if you want to compliment her is say that you like the necklace she's wearing, that her smile is really cute, or that you like the trendy pants she's wearing. Sincere compliments can make the other person feel good instantly, as long as you don't cross the line or make them uncomfortable.
- Don't compliment the bodies of people you don't know. Direct your compliments on clothing, jewelry, or something else that won't be misunderstood.
- Just look at the person and say “that sweater is great” or something. Don't feel compelled to deliver the perfect compliment.
Step 6. Spread your positive energy
Another way to please someone is to be happy and spread your positive energy and joy to those around you. Put a smile on your face, talk about the things you enjoy, make positive comments about your surroundings, and make other people comfortable. Happiness is contagious, and if you make an effort to spread joy, they'll catch on quickly.
- Even if you don't feel very positive, you will feel happier and can bring joy to others by trying to smile.
- If you unconsciously make one negative comment, try to counter it with two positive comments.
Step 7. Help carry heavy items
You can make other people happy just by helping them carry their heavy stuff. You'll brighten up someone else's day just by lightening their load a little, whether it's bringing an old woman's groceries to her car or carrying a man's heavy package at the post office all the way to his car. If a neighbor of yours is lifting something heavy, ask if you can help, and you'll make him feel happier.
- You can please others this way because you make their life easier.
- But of course you have to be careful not to get yourself in a dangerous situation when you help someone you don't know carry something to your car or house. As long as you help out in a public and safe place, you will make the difference you want.
Step 8. Spread the word on Facebook
Today most people use Facebook to nag or complain about something that irritated them that day, or to share a sad article about a world about to fall. While this may be true, sometimes, you can try to make other people feel happier by sharing positive news (yes, positive news exists), cat videos, funny comics or stories, or anything else that makes people smile. You will make other people feel happier even if you don't realize it.
It's true that a lot of terrible things happen in this world, but let your 1,000 Facebook friends remind us of that. Why don't you share something positive and give your virtual friends some fresh air?
Tips
- Eye contact is very important, don't be afraid to do it. Keep your gaze straight into the eyes of a friend or whoever you're in contact with.
- A little hug, a smile or a compliment are enough to brighten someone's day. If you don't want a drastic effort to please people, do just one of those simple actions.
- Dedicate some of your time to people who are sad or depressed.
- Make sure he knows that you will always be there for him no matter what.
- Surprise without waiting for a special event.
- Let him know that you feel comfortable around him, saying, "Vera! I love you!", "I miss you!", "I love being around you!", "It's great to be here with you," and so on. They will really appreciate the feeling of being appreciated! Say sweet words that really come from the heart, but you never say. It will make him smile both physically and mentally, because he knows those words come from your heart.
- Be a happy person. In this way, you express, “I know how to be happy, come follow me!” It can fade their sadness, and touch their desire to feel happy, not to shed tears.
- You will make the other person happy by making him laugh and being nice. Show that you are sorry for what happened. He will be happy to be with someone who makes him feel comfortable. Or play something he likes. Make him feel better.
- If he doesn't want to talk about what's bothering him, don't bother him even more by asking questions. It's better to ask something else, like, "What are your plans this weekend?" etc.
- Go to the cinema to see a family movie. Try to be nice and buy some treats.
- Laugh when you hear other people's jokes. It would be embarrassing to be together, telling jokes, and no one would find the jokes funny. So at least try to smile.
- Meet a friend or someone who is sad at the right time according to him. If you meet him at the wrong time, he may get angry and the relationship will be disrupted.
- Do activities that can sweat together, such as football, basketball, jogging, dancing, bowling, cleaning the garage, etc.
- You can write him a letter.
- Take them to see animals, especially if he is an animal lover!
- Compliment even if you're not sure if it will brighten his day.
Warning
- Excessive effort or being too presumptuous may actually make the other person feel strange.
- If your friend wants to be alone, give her some space, but let her know that you want to hear whatever she has to say if she changes her mind.
- Make sure none of your loving support comes across as pitying or sarcastic.
- Don't be a buffer. This means that if someone is depending on you to make them feel better, your unhealthy (or even destructive) dynamics will make them feel worse than they were before you came along.
- Never fool people.
- Don't push the other person over any problem he's having; it will give rise to more negative emotions.
- If your friend is mad at someone, don't spice things up again. It will only encourage negative feelings in the person who is the object of his anger.
- Don't scream.
