Maybe you've been sending the right signals all along, but are still having a hard time knowing if the girl you like has feelings for you. There's no denying that every girl is different, but there are often pretty clear clues as to whether she likes you or not. By knowing what to pay attention to, you can reduce anxiety about this uncertainty.
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Part 1 of 3: Understanding His Body Language
Step 1. Notice if he's making more and more eye contact
Usually an increased frequency of eye contact can be a good sign that someone likes you. It would have been better if he kept eye contact for a while and didn't look away.
- Keeping constant eye contact with you can be his preferred way of signaling that he is willing to be approached.
- Keep in mind that shy girls may prefer not to make eye contact as often. If you know he's shy, don't jump to the conclusion that a lack of eye contact is a sign he doesn't like you.
Step 2. Watch for increased physical contact
Simple attitudes that are easy to understand and pay attention to are flirtatious behavior and physical contact. If he suddenly touches your shoulder or lightly rubs your hand, chances are he's interested in you.
- Asking for a hug before saying goodbye can also be an indication of his feelings.
- Some women are more subtle in their approach. They may ask you for help or want to show you something on their phone. This is the way they choose to close the distance between the two of you.
- Keep in mind that not all physical contact is a sign that he likes you. A girl might pat you on the shoulder or ask for a friendly hug without any other intention. It's important to look for signs other than physical contact.
Step 3. See if he continues to tease you non-stop
Whether he's making fun of your hairstyle or bothering you about always being late, flirting can be a sign of affection. It would be even better if the teasing was also accompanied by a smile!
- If he's smiling after teasing you, he's probably just joking.
- He may tease you about your age, ex-girlfriend or hobbies. This could be his strategy to get a response from you.
- Being mean or hurtful is not a sign that he is attracted to you. So don't waste time with someone who wants to put you down.
Step 4. Watch her smile
Of all the clues he might give, facial expressions are the easiest to understand and read. If his face looks bright when you enter the room, you may be able to convince yourself that he likes you too.
- If he's always smiling every time you look at him (or even when you're not), there's no doubt that he likes you.
- Smiling and laughing go hand in hand. If you notice him laughing at all the jokes you make (even if they aren't funny), it can be a way to show his feelings.
Part 2 of 3: Looking for Further Hints on Social Media
Step 1. Notice if he suddenly becomes interested in your social media accounts
If he suddenly sends friend requests to all your social media accounts, he's most likely trying to get to know you better.
- It is possible that you will get several friend requests from him at the same time. If he doesn't just want to be friends on Facebook, but wants to follow your Twitter account as well, that's definitely a positive sign.
- If he says you can look him up on Facebook or you need to connect on Instagram, that could be a good sign that he likes you.
- A girl who likes you may also be attracted to your friends. Try asking friends if they accept friend requests from him.
Step 2. See if the activity increases
Whether she's giving a "thumbs up" to your status or receiving a message that simply says "Hi!", in short, if you see an increase in activity from the girl you like, it means she's sending a signal that she likes you.
- If you're dealing with a shy girl, this may be one of the best ways to find out if she likes you. Social media gives people the opportunity to open up in a less intimidating environment.
- Notice if you receive more private messages. Just like text messages, if someone responds quickly to a message, it's a sign of how much they care about you.
- You may notice that he uploads and tags lots of pictures of the two of you together. This can be his way of telling other girls to stay away because he wants to be your girlfriend.
Step 3. Watch for changes in relationship status
You may have noticed him publicizing his new status as single. If he seems happy with his status and tries to get your attention with his single status, it can be a way to signal that he is ready for a new relationship.
If you're not sure how she feels about being single again, try sending a private message. If he responds quickly and includes lots of positive emoticons, he's trying to let you know that he's okay
Step 4. Wait for your message reply
If you feel more comfortable talking about your feelings for a girl through social media, try sending her a private message. Tell him how you feel and wait for a reply.
- Even though people have a habit of sharing their thoughts and feelings through social media, that doesn't mean you have to publish your feelings openly.
- Instead of announcing your feelings on social media so everyone knows, just send him a private message.
- If the girl is shy, this can be an effective way to try to approach her through a platform that makes her feel comfortable.
- It can also give him the opportunity to carefully consider his response to your feelings, in case he doesn't feel the same way you do.
Part 3 of 3: Trying to Be More Than Just Friends
Step 1. Notice if he cancels plans with other people
If you cancel your date with another guy and choose to go out with you, consider this. If you notice that he's also reluctant to talk about his ex-girlfriend, it's likely that he sees you as more than just a friend and wants to be in a relationship with you.
- This fact will be even stronger if previously he didn't hesitate to talk about his exes, but suddenly changes the subject if you mention it.
- If he no longer sees you like his other friends and refuses to talk about his love life, you can be sure that he feels the same way.
Step 2. Notice if he shows anger when you talk about other girls
In the past, you used to ask his opinion about your love life, but now he looks angry when you mention other women's names. If this is the case, it's no exaggeration to assume that he wants to be the only woman in your life.
He may make jokes about your past relationships, but if you mention someone you liked at the time, he won't take it very well. He may have used past relationships to flirt with you, but mentioning someone you currently like will make him frown for a long time
Step 3. See if he suggests going out alone
In the past, you tended to go out for fun with a group. Now, he's constantly urging him to go alone with you. This change can be a signal that he likes you.
If he's constantly inviting you to accompany him to events he used to go to with his ex-girlfriend, like weddings or dance parties, it might be time to talk about whether you're more than just friends
Step 4. Observe his reaction when you tell him how you feel
If he is a good friend, he will appreciate your honesty. It may feel awkward at first, but eventually you'll feel relieved to be honest.
- Tell him how you feel. You may feel awkward and very nervous about expressing your feelings to him, but you'll be glad you did. It's much better to say something than to say nothing at all.
- You may notice the relief on his face when you express your feelings to him.
- If his face lights up when you confess your feelings, he probably feels the same way.
- Start the conversation by saying that you really value her friendship, but recently your feelings have grown beyond that of a friend. Say you're not offended if he doesn't feel the same way, but that you feel it's important to be honest with him and tell him how you really feel.
- Don't worry if you don't reciprocate your feelings. If he's a good friend, the two of you will still be friends and will probably laugh at him someday. Most importantly, if he doesn't feel the same way you do, don't act like it's all a joke and you don't really care about it either.
Tips
- If he makes a lot of eye contact and only seems to want to talk to you when you're in a group, that can be a very good sign.
- Watch for “accidental” touches.
Warning
- You have to be willing to lose the friendship if the relationship doesn't end well. One of the risks of dating a friend is that you could lose them if the relationship breaks up halfway.
- Every girl has a different character. Sometimes, he gives a lot of positive signals, but that could mean he just likes you as a friend.
