Ending a relationship with your boyfriend isn't easy, especially when your ex-boyfriend is acting badly and wants revenge. The best way to deal with a bad ex-boyfriend is to ignore him as much as possible and move on with life without thinking about or relating to him. If life's routine requires you to see him almost every day, you can handle the situation gracefully by showing him that his bad attitude is not having any impact on your life.
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Part 1 of 2: Keeping Away from Your Ex-Girlfriend
Step 1. Avoid social interaction with him
Don't contact your ex-girlfriend, such as calling, texting, writing email (email), contacting her via social media, and talking to her in person. If he tries to contact you, it's best to just ignore his attempts.
- Depending on the situation, you may be able to reply to his text or email to let him know that you are no longer interested in talking to him. If he's being rude, you don't need to text him back.
- If you receive threats from your ex-boyfriend or if he is following you secretly, report his actions to the police immediately. You can threaten to report it to the police to get him to stop contacting and approaching you.
- If your ex is constantly calling, texting, or e-mailing you, you can block both the number and the e-mail address. If he's very stubborn and starts calling you using someone else's cell phone or sending emails using a different email address, you might want to consider changing your phone number and email address.
- Almost all social media websites offer a variety of options to block or ignore someone. If you want to prevent your ex-boyfriend from seeing your social media profiles and want to implicitly tell him that you don't want him to contact you, block him on social media. If you are reluctant to block him and do not want to get any information related to him, ignore him or use the Unfollow option on social media.
- Avoid places your ex-boyfriend likes to go to whenever possible. If you must visit the place and meet him, keep walking and ignore him instead of stopping to talk to him.
Step 2. Don't talk to him directly
If you study at school and in the same room with your ex, have a friend who is friends with him, or work in the same place, you may have no choice but to spend time in the same room with him. In the beginning, living life in this kind of situation was hard to do. However, the best thing you can do is to interact socially with other people as usual and try not to talk to your ex as much as possible.
- Don't pretend you don't see it. This will only make him think that you are uncomfortable around him. Of course you don't want him to think that way. Instead, think of him as someone you don't know. Make sure your interactions with them are brief and avoid showing affectionate body language, such as making eye contact with them.
- If you're with a group of people, try to talk to other people instead of your ex.
- If your ex starts talking to you, respond politely and briefly. This way, he'll know that you're not interested in talking to him. For example, if he says "That math quiz was really hard. Can you do it?", you can simply say, "Yes." After that, make it explicit that you're not interested in continuing the conversation.
- If your ex asks someone else to message you, your response should be tailored to the person delivering the message. If the person sending the message is your friend, let them know that you're not interested in knowing what your ex-boyfriend has to say. After that, tell him that you hope your problems with your ex-girlfriend won't interfere with your friendship with them. If the person sending the message isn't your friend and he's texting your ex that hurt your feelings, you can just ignore it.
Step 3. Find a replacement boyfriend figure
If your dating style is similar to that of most people, your ex-boyfriend may be the first person you turn to for comfort when something bad happens to you. In addition, he may also be the first person you tell when something exciting is happening in your life. This makes trying to get over your ex-boyfriend difficult because you still have the urge to contact him when something happens in your life. Try to get into the habit of contacting friends, family, brothers or sisters when something happens in your life.
Getting a new girlfriend to replace the role of an ex-boyfriend may be a temptation in itself. However, it's best not to rush into finding a new boyfriend unless you're really ready to reconnect with someone. Once you feel ready, you can date other people
Step 4. Keep yourself busy
You can get over your ex more easily if you are busy. Try doing activities with friends, joining a club, or having a new hobby to help you get over it and make it easier for you to ignore it.
If you and your ex share the same circle of friends, show them that you are still happy and can enjoy life without them when hanging out with your group of friends. This will make him realize that his bad behavior towards you is not having any impact on your life
Part 2 of 2: Coping With Your Ex-Girlfriend's Bad Behavior
Step 1. Don't let your ex's bad behavior interfere with your life
If he calls you fat or ugly, don't believe him. Remember that he's behaving this way because he's sad that your relationship with him is over and he doesn't know how to deal with it maturely.
Step 2. Respond to your ex-boyfriend's behavior with kindness
You don't have to give him credit to show that you are a better person than him. You also shouldn't return the hurtful words with bad actions. Calm yourself down and show him that what he's saying doesn't interfere with your life.
Step 3. Be a better person
If your ex says hurtful things, you can prove to him and those around you that you can be a better person than him. To do this, you have to be nice when you meet him and not talk about him when he's not with you. Don't try to spread bad rumors about her for revenge. If you do this, your attitude will be no different from that of your ex-boyfriend because you are being mean and childish like him. In addition, this can make your relationship with him worse.
Step 4. Talk to a friend
If you and your ex have a friend in common and their bad behavior makes social interactions with them difficult, tell your friend what happened to you. He might be able to make his ex-girlfriend aware that her attitude has been wrong all this time. In addition, he may also stop inviting her to events organized by him as long as he is still being mean to you.
- You may have to unfriend some of your best friends who are also friends with your ex. Some of your friends may be siding with your ex and they may instigate him or her to be mean to you. Note that people who encourage your ex to be mean to you are not very good friends.
- Talking to a friend about the situation at hand can give you an opportunity to vent. A supportive friend will calm and comfort you so you won't think badly of yourself. This can help you deal with your ex's bad attitude.
Step 5. Report your ex-boyfriend's behavior that is harmful to you
If your ex's behavior becomes dangerous and makes you feel threatened, report him or her to the teacher or the police. You have the right to live without fear. So don't be afraid to ask for help.
