In every relationship, there will always be ups and downs. You and your partner may be fighting, or their soul is drifting away from you. If communication doesn't solve the problem, try new tactics to solve it. Sometimes, you may even need to distance yourself from the person, or even ignore them on purpose!
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Method 1 of 4: Checking the Relationship Situation
Step 1. Pay attention to your relationship situation with the him
Know when their behavior starts to irritate you, and think about how your behavior might affect the situation.
- Are her mood swings the result of a grueling week at school or work, or have they been going on for months? He may accidentally ignore you out of exhaustion.
- Are you burdening him with unrealistic expectations? Are you littering his phone's inbox, or constantly asking him where he is? Or, have you become a partner who is calm, patient, and always believes in him? It could be, your current relationship is one-sided, and you are the one who is always trying to maintain it.
Step 2. Pay attention to your feelings
Ask yourself the question, why do you want to avoid him? Are you fighting with him? Did he shut down? Know why you feel resentful of him. Is this relationship one sided? Remember that you may feel resentful, disappointed, angry, or ignored.
- Record your thoughts in a diary.
- Pour your heart out to someone you trust, such as a close friend.
Step 3. Talk to him, and express all your complaints
Use the pronoun "I", instead of "you". Allow him to respond, and don't cut him off. If he keeps trying to divert the conversation or ignore your complaints, stop the conversation and act.
- Take responsibility for your feelings. Use the pronoun "I", for example "I feel neglected", "I'm confused, where is our relationship going?" or "I'm sad, because you chose to go to Bali with friends instead of celebrating birthdays together."
- Avoid the pronoun "you". The pronoun means that you put all the blame in the relationship on the other person. For example, avoid statements like "Why are you ignoring me?" or "Why don't you care about our relationship?"
Method 2 of 4: Reset Time
Step 1. Make a distance with him on purpose
Don't spend all your free time with him. Limit the time you spend with him so he misses you.
- Get busy. If you live alone with him, do not focus on him. Read a book, go around the complex, cook something, clean the house, or do something else so you don't get close to him.
- Don't spend every night at her house. Instead, try spending the night alone at home to let him know that he may miss your presence.
Step 2. Focus on your work or hobbies
Once you have free time, use it to improve your career or pursue a hobby. Filling time with new activities and setting professional goals for yourself will make it easier for you to avoid him.
- Focus on improving professional performance. Take on a new project or responsibility at the office.
- Spend your free time making crafts, or joining new clubs and sports. Finding activities that allow you to meet new people is a good way to pass the time.
- Move your body! Join the gym, or run a new route.
- Spend time outdoors. Head to the beach, or rest under a tree while reading a book.
Step 3. Spend time with family and friends instead of alone
Enjoy an evening with friends, or set aside time to visit family. Fill the days with fun socializing and adventurous activities. By keeping in touch with friends and family, it will be easier for you to ignore him.
- Visit the nearest art museum with friends.
- Invite close family to your home to enjoy dinner together.
- Have a party with a specific theme.
Method 3 of 4: Changing Body Language
Step 1. Reduce physical contact
If you go on a date, avoid showing off your affection. If he wants to kiss you, avoid kissing lips, and let him kiss your cheek. When he will hold your hand, put your hand in your pocket.
Don't play with her feelings by initiating an affectionate touch. Avoid the urge to stroke his shoulder, or rest your head on his shoulder
Step 2. Keep yourself away from it
Expand the physical distance between you and the him. When sitting on the sofa, don't sit next to him, but sit one seat apart or sit in another chair. At night, keep your physical distance with him.
- Don't hug him in bed.
- If you and he take the same class, sit in different rows.
- Separating yourself physically will make it easier for you to avoid his advances. On the other hand, it will be easier for you to avoid the temptation to seduce him.
Step 3. Limit eye contact when you meet him in public
Instead, look at something else in the distance, or look left and right. The point is, do not let your gaze and the he met.
Don't turn around when you meet him. Look at his reaction with the corner of your eye
Method 4 of 4: Reducing Communication
Step 1. Stop initiating communication
Don't call or text him. Instead, let him call or text you. If you really want to contact him, distract him by calling a friend. Invite your friends to watch or eat.
- Contact your partner only when absolutely necessary.
- Avoid him on social media. If you are easily tempted to poke him, stay away from social media for a while, or block his account.
Step 2. Ignore calls and messages from him
Let the call go to voicemail, and don't open messages from him. Force him to wait for a reply from you.
- Avoid the urge to check your phone regularly. Leave your phone in another room, turn it off, or turn it on silent mode.
- Leave the phone with friends or family.
- Ignore his attempts to contact you via social media. Do not reply to comments or messages. If necessary, block his account for a few days.
Step 3. Shorten your response when talking to him
Answer the question briefly, instead of going into detail. Don't ask questions about the day or her plans, and make the impression that you're cold and uninterested in her.
- Nod, and say "yes" when he invites you to talk.
- Shorten your response. Use one-word replies, such as "Yes", "No", "Okay" and "Fine."
