The story is that you are attracted to the boy you see every day at school and you want to know how to win his heart. While you can't really make someone fall in love with you, there are a few ways and rules you can follow to get their attention and get them to start thinking about you. See Step 1 to get started.
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Part 1 of 2: Getting His Attention
Step 1. Be confident
The most important way to attract the man of your dreams is to be confident and happy with yourself. You can do this by wearing nice clothes, doing something with your hair, trying to dress up, or just by thinking positive, because confidence is the most attractive quality a person can have and it will make you less anxious about failure, the worry that will lead you to failure. make it harder for you to take the leap and enter into a potential relationship.
- Don't judge yourself or others harshly. When you focus on all your own flaws, you think that's all you have, and when you focus on other people's flaws, you poison your own head with negative thoughts.
- Don't compare yourself to other people. There will always be people who are more attractive, more successful, and have more romantic partners than you. It's better to focus on what you have than what someone else has.
Step 2. Smile
If you want people to notice you, especially the man of your dreams, you have to send him a small smile and cultivate a positive attitude. Better yet, make eye contact with your crush and give him a small smile. This will signal your interest in a non-threatening way and may pique his interest.
Step 3. Put yourself in his path
This doesn't mean you have to follow him where he goes, but if you know he often goes to a particular coffee shop or bookstore, you can pass the time there and "pass" with him.
- That will give you fewer opportunities to talk to each other without the crowds like at parties.
- Don't keep doing this, or he'll think you're stalking him. Once or twice is fine, but more than that your intentions will be clear. (There's nothing wrong with being outspoken about asking her out, but if you're not feeling brave enough then this is a great nerve exercise to get her).
Step 4. Just relax
You don't want to be blatantly and excessively trying to win her over, because that's just not going to work out well. However, this doesn't mean you have to hide your interest or pretend you're not. You just want to show that you're interested but don't overdo it.
- You can give a compliment or two; something moderate (an exaggeration could be, "You're the most handsome boy I've ever met") like, "Hey, your shirt is so cool" or "I love your new haircut."
- Show that you have a life other than thinking about him. As the two of you talk, casually mention some of the fun things you did that week (a good book you read, a video game tournament you participated in, or a soccer game you won). It shows that you have your own interests and life.
- When you run into him, after a little chat, say that you have to go see a friend or that you need to be somewhere. That way you'll appear busy, with lots of things to do and people to meet, and not seem like someone waiting to see them.
Step 5. Make him laugh
Often the key to someone's heart is humor. The saying goes, "a couple that laughs together stays together." If you can make him laugh at what you have to say then you will make him happy to be around and want to be around you more often.
- A great way to do this is to mention something rather embarrassing that happened to you. Tell me about a time when you mistakenly recognized a stranger as your best friend and slapped him on the ass, or when you were on your way to a date and missed a flight of stairs on the bus and then fell in front of everyone. This shows that you are relaxed and can laugh at yourself.
- You don't have to play down or talk about how stupid you are. Confident people don't need to belittle themselves, because they know they are amazing! Confidence is attractive!
Step 6. Be nice to his friends
He'll listen to his friends' suggestions if he wants to date you, so you'll want to make sure you're number one on their list. This doesn't mean you have to agree with everything they say or let them treat you the way they want (if the friend isn't nice, you'll have to think again about wanting to attract them), but it does mean that you're being nice to them.
- When you're out with him and his friends, really listen to what they have to say and show that you're interested in what they're interested in. You don't have to pretend to be an expert in whatever they're talking about if you're not. Just ask a question and listen.
- Don't feel like you have to set yourself aside when you're with him and his friends. Take part in activities and introduce them to things you like and what they might like too. This will show that you have respect for them and that you are interested in getting to know them better.
Step 7. Use the "3 chance and pass" rule
This rule allows you to avoid committing to a relationship that is essentially pointless, because who has the energy for it? This means if you give him the opportunity to try and get to know you better and he doesn't take the opportunity after 3 tries, then he probably doesn't deserve more effort than you.
- If you think he might be interested but shy, there's no reason you shouldn't ask him out. That way, even if he says "no," you'll get a firm answer and not be left wondering.
- The reason it's a good rule to follow is because you don't want to chase it like a desperate, mad puppy. If he doesn't show interest after a while, then he won't be interested, or he'll just be interested in having sex with you because he knows you're desperate (keep your distance from guys like that). Unless you're only interested in sex, you'll end up hurting the deal.
- An example in action is you might meet him at a party and chat with him, then show up at his favorite coffee shop, and then chat in class. If you give him the hint to ask you out (or even have coffee), and he doesn't do it after 3 times, stop trying and move on with your life.
Part 2 of 2: Deepening Relationships
Step 1. Achieve success on the first date
Now that you're past the flirting stage, you should go on a first date. The way to win her heart is with a successful first date that you both enjoy. This will make him want to spend more time with you.
- Make sure you have topics to talk about, as it can be awkward if during the first date there isn't a conversation that is appropriate for a closer relationship (perhaps it's not yet time to talk about your anxiety issues). Some of the conversation starters include: what do you usually do on Sundays, what band or album do you like, what was the last movie you watched and what was your opinion about it, what was the funniest thing you've ever seen in public.
- Dress appropriately. This means you're wearing something that feels comfortable, but also fits the mood. So when you go to a 4-star restaurant, wear something nice (a dress, long pants, and a shirt or blouse). If you are going to a coffee shop, dress more neatly than your everyday clothes (a shirt instead of a t-shirt, no worn out jeans, and so on).
- Remember that you want to be yourself on the date. You don't want him to expect you to be someone you're not in the relationship later on. It's not fair to both of you. You don't have to show all your habits right away, but you can't hide anything.
Step 2. Pay attention to his interests
The way to let someone know that you are interested in and care about them is to show concern for their interests and their opinions on things. You don't have to understand the interest and you don't have to enjoy it either, but being interested enough to talk about it will show that you're interested in it.
- For example, if he's good at skiing and you prefer books, that's okay! Make sure you ask about his ski trip and even offer to go skiing. Find out some special terms so you can chat more freely.
- Make sure he also appreciates and is interested in your interests and hobbies. If he's not interested, that's a good enough sign that he may just like himself or not be too committed to a relationship with you.
Step 3. Don't ignore him
Nothing makes someone more happy and cared for than showing them that you care about them. Find ways to show that you care about what he does for you and that you appreciate him.
- Honestly saying, "I'm glad you're in my life" is a beautiful and easy way to make sure he knows that you appreciate him.
- Do the little things that show you appreciate them. If you are skilled with the handwork you can make something for him (knit a hat, carve a special little box, paint something).
- You can also do him a favor, especially if he is very busy or going through a difficult time. Bring her a special cake, help her edit her resume or essay, or offer to take her sister to the airport so she has more time to study.
Step 4. Give yourself space
This step is important for both of you. You don't want to get into the kind of relationship that is interdependent and can't live without the other, even though in the movies it looks good. Make sure you both have some space apart from each other and from the relationship itself.
- Take care of your relationship with your friends. Get together with them. Hold sleepovers and movie watching parties only between friends, no couples allowed.
- Pursue your hobbies and interests. Go skiing alone or with family, take knitting lessons, learn karate. This way, when the two of you are together, there's a lot to talk about!
Step 5. Decide if he's really worth it
He may seem like a great guy at first, but it's a good idea to reassess the relationship before you start doing anything to win him over. You need to make sure that his heart is really what you want, or even if there is a chance of winning his heart.
- Of course, if he's been abusive emotionally, physically or sexually, you should leave now. If he isolates you from friends and family, if he belittles you or hurts your feelings either alone or in front of people, if he manipulates you or forces you to have sex when you don't want to, if he says he will kill himself if you leave it, all these signs mean you have to go.
- Some examples to ask yourself about your relationship: Are you both honest and open with each other? Do you feel better with him, or do you feel like you are walking on the edge? Does he appreciate you? Do you feel like you're the best version of yourself when you're with him? Is he like that too?
- You don't have to feel like you have to "change her" or "make her better." You should be in a relationship with someone who doesn't need you as a therapist or his mother.
Step 6. Say how you feel
Sometimes the surefire way to get what you want is to tell him how you feel and ask him if he feels the same way. Every so often, you give hint after hint for so long and do everything "should" be done and still you don't know if you've won her heart.
- Be open and honest. Tell him that you really like him and you want to know how he feels about you, or what he might feel for you in the future.
- Be ready to hear an answer, even if it's not the answer you want to hear. He may not have the same feelings as you and that's fine. Remember, it's not you who lose, but him.
Tips
- Wear fragrance. This is the same as seduction which only takes less than a second!
- Don't be afraid to take risks! It's the only way to win her heart.
- Body language! Twist a strand of hair with your fingers - it gives that sexy feeling when you need it!
- Learn something every day! Something smart but trivial, like, "Did you know in Thailand people use scorpion serum as body lotion?" Instead of just "What's up?" Spice up your conversation!
Warning
- NEVER change yourself completely no matter what. If you really are stupid let him know, otherwise he will fall in love with the person he thinks is you instead of the real you.
- Don't make it up to impress him. I know some of you may think this is ridiculous but it's true, people still tend to do it. Sooner or later he will find out who you really are.
