Cheerfulness is special because of the effect it has on other people. This is not only something you feel for yourself, but also includes expressing positive feelings to those around you. Being cheerful when you're not truly happy can actually have a positive impact on others around you. You may think you're good at faking your emotions, but your body language and facial expressions can reveal your true feelings. By focusing on what you are passionate about and learning to share it with others, you can become happier.
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Part 1 of 3: Finding Happiness Within You
Step 1. Find your passion
Being cheerful isn't something that just comes out of nowhere. To spread joy to others, you must truly love your life. This means finding and pursuing activities that are your passion.
- Make a list of the times in your life that made you truly happy. Write down as many details as possible. Enter who was with you at the time, whether indoors or outdoors, what activities, and maybe even the temperature. These details will be different for each person. Therefore it is important to present it.
- Look for patterns in the details. Do you feel happiest when you are outdoors enjoying nature, or when you are surrounded by people who give you a challenge. Find out what conditions bring the greatest happiness. Then try to share this situation with others. Increase the time you spend in these situations. Happiness can come naturally to you without realizing it.
- If nothing comes to mind when you think about your passion, it may take some time and effort on your part. You have to feel sure that everyone has potential desire within them. Try different activities and situations until the desire begins to emerge.
Step 2. Be comfortable with yourself
Being cheerful requires being comfortable with yourself. You are a unique person with your own characteristics, strengths and challenges. Be proud of your abilities and try to be happy with yourself.
Avoid trying to achieve perfection. Instead, think of yourself and your life as something that is developing. This will make it easier for you to accept yourself
Step 3. Accept your feelings
Humans are complex creatures. Even people who appear cheerful most of the time feel a range of emotions throughout the day. Don't try to force yourself to be happy all the time.
- Sometimes, you may find that being cheerful isn't something you can do right now. There's nothing wrong with that. The important thing is that you learn to accept your emotions.
- Learn to deal with how you feel instead of trying to focus on the emotions that you think are most positive. For example, if you're angry with someone, don't try to deny the feeling just because it's "bad." Instead, accept your anger and think about what you can do to make yourself feel better or forgive the person.
Step 4. Look on the bright side, but be honest
If you're having a bad day, admit it. Don't just ignore that fact and try to always be happy. Then, after accepting the fact that you're having a bad day, look for the positives and think of ways to make things better.
- For example, imagine you were laid off from your job. It will probably upset you, and it's okay to accept those emotions. But once the initial shock is over, start thinking about ways to improve your situation. Make a plan to find a new job. Perhaps this could be an opportunity to find a job that you enjoy more.
- This will help you accept the complexities of life. Faking fun can have the opposite effect. People may be able to pick up on the conflicting messages between your body language and facial expressions. So it's best to just let all the emotions run through you, whatever they may be.
- At the same time, don't dwell on a particular emotion, but try to learn why you are feeling it. For example, if you're feeling angry, it may be because you're feeling uncomfortable and don't know how to express it. Or you may have unreasonably high expectations for the circumstances you are in.
- Maybe this doesn't feel easy at first. But by continuing to try to relate your emotions to the present, you can learn to control them.
Step 5. Learn how negative experiences from past events can affect you now
Negative experiences can have a lasting impact on how the brain works and our ability to control our emotions. This includes events that cause prolonged trauma and depression. Past events like this can make it hard to be cheerful.
- This does not mean that you are completely controlled by the past. The brain and body have a certain discretion in it. This allows us to try to forget negative experiences and make new and positive changes in the way our brains work. Over time, you will be able to overcome the experiences that make it difficult for you to be cheerful.
- If there's an incident in the past that you can't forget, see a counselor or other mental health professional. They will listen to anything that is a problem for you. They will also provide helpful exercises or strategies for getting through difficult emotions.
- If you can, feel free to try different advisors. Sometimes it will take a long time to find the right advisor for you.
- Many health insurance programs offer a number of mental health visit services. Find out if your insurance is one of them.
Step 6. Keep a journal
Keeping a journal has many mental health benefits that can help you feel comfortable with past events. Especially if there has been a traumatic event in your past, try to write down your feelings in a journal every day.
- Writing about your past negative experiences or feelings is a particularly useful method of dealing with past trauma. Sit down and write down as many details as you can remember from the experience that is stuck in your mind. Or simply describe the emotions you are feeling in this moment.
- Writing down negative emotions and experiences in the past can give you some distance from them. It can also enable you to handle it in later situations.
- If you find this too overwhelming, or more annoying than helpful, you may need professional help. Consider talking to a counselor or therapist.
Step 7. Try meditating
Meditation and/or breathing exercises can also help you control emotions associated with the past. Some psychologists call this the developing "mindight". It is the ability to make decisions about how we respond to emotions.
- Sit in a comfortable place with your legs crossed and your hands in your lap. Close your eyes and take deep, steady breaths. Focus on your breathing and try to let go of other things in your mind.
- There are CDs and MP3s for sale to help guide you through the meditation process.
- Maybe you won't be able to stop feeling certain emotions. But you can learn to control it in terms of how you let it affect your daily life. Learning to meditate will help you gain more control over your emotional state. Research shows that meditation helps regulate the function of the amygdala, the part of the brain that controls your emotional responses.
Step 8. Live a healthy life
Get enough sleep and eat well. You need energy and strength to feel and be your best self every day.
- This could mean exercising a bit more. Try at least 150 minutes of moderate exercise or 75 minutes of vigorous aerobic exercise each week. It can lower blood pressure and reduce stress and anxiety levels.
- If you want to be a cheerful person, your body must be taken care of. You have to exercise the right amount of exercise and consume the right amount of nutrition to be your best self.
Part 2 of 3: Be Cheerful
Step 1. Smile
When you feel happy, let it show on your face! Smiling will not only show others that you are happy, but it can also cheer others up.
What's more, smiling can also make you feel happier
Step 2. Use body language
Use your body to show joy. Avoid slouching, as this can make you look tired and unhappy. Maintain an open and relaxed posture.
- Open body language means not crossing your arms or legs. Keep your feet pointed toward the person you are talking to.
- Relaxed body language means keeping your muscles relaxed, especially your arms and hands. Your arms should be at your sides freely. Often people can notice when your muscles are tense.
Step 3. Speak cheerfully
Use tone of voice, rhythm of speech, and words to communicate your joy. Specifically:
- Use a varied tone of voice and avoid speaking flatly.
- Speak quickly (but not so fast that your speech is difficult to understand).
- Use positive words like "love" and "great". Be positive and focus the conversation on the other person, not just yourself.
Step 4. Be friendly
Be a sociable person, and if you see someone who looks like they need a friend, try to be their friend.
- Greet people you don't know, and be open if they want to talk to you.
- Compliment others and do fun things, such as bringing food to gatherings to share with others.
- Try to include new people in your activities and social circle, especially if they seem to need friends.
- For example, imagine someone who has moved from far away and has just walked into your classroom or office. You can take him to lunch with you and your friends. Chances are, this person doesn't know many of the people around them and will really appreciate you trying to get close to them.
Part 3 of 3: Increase Your Daily Fun
Step 1. Do something now
When you feel lethargic or uninspired, try to do something; whatever that is! Being active will help you stay cheerful.
Move. Clean your house, wash the dishes, fold clothes, or start exercising. You'll feel like you've accomplished something, and this can help you feel more positive
Step 2. Do things you enjoy
It's easier to feel happy if you enjoy life. Make sure to set aside some time, every day, at least once a day to do something you enjoy. This will vary from person to person, here are some suggestions:
- Play your favorite song and have a one-of-a-kind dance party.
- Take a walk in the forest.
- Pamper yourself by buying your favorite food or drink. Have a cup of coffee or a piece of pie.
- You don't have to plan or wait for a certain time of day, just do it when it feels right.
Step 3. Learn to be grateful
Focus on the things in life you are grateful for, and show your gratitude to others.
- Telling others that you are grateful for what they do that makes your life better can make you happier, spread joy, and improve relationships with others.
- You might also consider keeping your gratitude journal, where you write about the things you are grateful for. Research shows that it can increase your happiness and even your physical health.
Step 4. Engage yourself in an activity
This could be visiting a meeting on an issue in person or simply joining a community online. Getting involved in social issues can be a great way to bond with others. It's also a great way to cultivate a passion for something outside of yourself.
- Focusing your energies on making a difference in the world with other people can help you discover new passions. As a result, it can make you feel more cheerful in interacting with other people in general.
- Help people in need. Not everyone is as lucky as you. Try to help them by donating to charities or holding free food distributions. Even something as simple as giving someone a compliment or a smile can improve someone else's life.
Step 5. Listen to the other person
When someone talks to you, be a good listener. Make eye contact and respect their point of view.
- Listening to others with an open mind is a great way to show that you are a confident and cheerful person. This will make the other person feel cared for. By doing this, you can improve the other person's feelings.
- Listening to others can be a great way to gain new insights into the world. It will also allow you to share the happiness that other people might be feeling.
Step 6. Have an open mind
Don't judge others. When you meet new people, try to find something in common with them. Don't jump to conclusions about someone based on their appearance.
- Judging other people can make you and that person unhappy.
- Instead, always expect the best in everyone.
- Avoid demeaning others. Instead, encourage them to get up and achieve their goals. Show optimism, and cheer others up. Your optimism will be transmitted to others.
Tips
- Always try to think positively. Look on the bright side, even in negative situations.
- Smile. When you feel happy, let others know. Happiness can be contagious to other people.
- Greet new people, not just people who are greeted every day. Let others know that you want to be friends with everyone,
- Music has a great ability to arouse people's emotions. Listen to music that makes you feel good to elevate your mood and feel happier.
- Get out of the house. Sometimes being alone is a good thing, but loneliness can get to you. Bike in the sun or take a friend out for coffee.
