The office is a great place to meet single men. You can get to know him better because you see him often. As coworkers, you both have something in common and a fun topic of conversation. However, starting a romantic relationship with a coworker is not easy, especially if your boss and other coworkers don't agree. However, your dreams will come true if he likes you too.
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Part 1 of 4: Approaching the Office
Step 1. Make eye contact when interacting with him
Eye contact plays an important role when approaching so that you seem more attractive. The eyes are the windows to the heart. So, let him understand your heart. If you don't look him in the eye when you interact with him, he may think you're not interested in him.
- Eye contact is helpful, but don't stare at it for too long. Make sure you can tell the difference between looking and staring.
- Usually, women show interest by raising their eyebrows, making eye contact, lowering their heads while looking to the side and then averting their eyes.
Step 2. Smile at him
This step is an easy way to let your ideal guy know that you like him. You seem friendly and gregarious when you smile. That way, he doesn't hesitate to approach you and feels comfortable interacting with you personally.
- A genuine smile is the best smile. Be honest, because people can tell the difference between a genuine smile and a fake smile!
- Smiling is a way of showing pearly white teeth or dimples.
Step 3. Give a polite physical touch
Keep in mind that this step is not necessarily applicable when you are in the office. In certain work environments, polite physical touch between a man and a woman is considered normal, but this is not the case for everyone. To show interest, know the 3 levels of touch you can do.
- Friendly touch is practiced in almost all work environments, for example shaking hands or patting a coworker's shoulder.
- Familiar touch is very personal and must take into account the work environment, for example embracing or hugging a coworker. This step can be done as a way of showing concern for someone, for example when he just finished attending an energy-draining meeting, but it's not appropriate if it's done in a very busy fast food restaurant kitchen.
- Touching other people's faces is usually considered rude because you don't have to touch other people's faces while working. However, if there are eyelashes on the cheeks of the man of your dreams, you can pick them up carefully while taking advantage of the opportunity to make an approach.
Step 4. Compliment the man of your dreams
Many people like to be praised. Give praise if you know the advantages or successes. Instead of focusing on appearances, praise his meritorious actions or work accomplishments to be proud of.
- Show joy when you meet him. His presence made a long work day even more enjoyable.
- Praise him for his strengths to show that you're always paying attention, for example because he's able to do a good presentation or provide detailed information.
Step 5. Tell your feelings
Studies show that women are more successful at approaching men when they are candid. If he hasn't responded, he probably doesn't know how you feel so you need to be honest.
- Frankly there is a limit. If you've given the right signals and they don't get a response, he may want to politely decline.
- If you're afraid of rejection, stay nice to him while waiting for him to give you an answer.
- Express your feelings without expecting a response. Instead of asking, "Would you like to accompany me for coffee?" you better say, "Sometime we have coffee, let's!"
Step 6. Take a digital approach
Depending on the method, the approach by phone or social media can be kept secret or known to many people. This is not known to anyone if you send a private message, but a nosy coworker will know if you like all their photos on Facebook.
- Be careful when sending digital messages to the man of your dreams. For example, did you click "reply" or "reply all"?
- Don't be rude at work. You can text her asking her for coffee after work, but don't send porn pictures.
Part 2 of 4: Being a Good Person
Step 1. Wear clothes that make you look great
Every woman is free to choose a dress model and every man has different tastes so there is no particular way to maintain appearance. Instead of just considering what he thinks about your style, wear clothes that make you feel confident. You will look more attractive if you are able to accept yourself as you are.
- If you have to wear formal clothes to work, choose clothes that are comfortable to wear and make you look great, such as wearing a skirt that accentuates an attractive body part.
- If you must wear a uniform to work, make sure that the size of the shirt fits your body and that it is always clean. Pay attention to other things that make you look more attractive, such as getting your hair done, taking care of your nails, applying makeup, and wearing accessories.
- If working conditions make your clothes dirty, choose clothes and hairstyles that make you feel confident and comfortable at work.
Step 2. Keep your body clean
Excellent appearance is not enough to attract men. In fact, poor hygiene is the main reason men stay away from women. Therefore, make it a habit to take a shower and brush your teeth twice a day. After showering, apply deodorant and wear clean clothes.
- Many men prioritize hygiene over appearance. So, prioritize taking care of yourself because this step makes you look attractive on its own.
- People who always take care of themselves look attractive because this shows that they feel proud of their appearance.
Step 3. Make sure you get a good night's sleep
In addition to keeping you awake and able to move well, a good night's sleep and enough to make you look prime and confident. If you don't get enough sleep, you will be nervous and unable to make a good approach.
- The duration of adequate night's sleep depends on each individual's needs. In general, adults need 7-9 hours of sleep every night.
- If you are sleep deprived, your lower eyelid will be dark gray and eye bags will appear. These complaints will go away if you get a good night's sleep!
Step 4. Make sure the body smells fresh
Scent is a physical sensation that is embedded in memory and associated with attraction. If the ideal man likes your scent, this means you have a biological attraction.
- Don't use too much perfume. You can keep your body smell fresh with soap and deodorant.
- If you use perfume, watch the reaction. If he approaches, this is a good sign. If he moves away or wrinkled his nose, this is a bad sign.
Step 5. Demonstrate independence and confidence
This is what is called "being high-priced". Make sure you behave in such a way that he realizes that you have a lot to do and that your happiness doesn't depend on anyone else.
- Show that you know how to live a fun life, for example by saying, "Have you ever gone white water rafting? I'm going to Citarik next week, but don't know what to bring."
- During your lunch break, take 1 or 2 friends over to lunch to show that you appreciate the opportunity to be alone and enjoy time with people who deserve attention.
Step 6. Be humorous
Maybe he doesn't know the full aspect of your personality if he only meets you at the office. Show that you are not just a coworker when interacting at the office or elsewhere.
- Do fun or exciting things, such as taking a tour with work friends to fill the weekend or bringing fruit to share after lunch.
- Have a coworker chat after office hours so he or she can see how you treat others in a casual setting.
Part 3 of 4: Interacting Outside the Office
Step 1. Invite the man of your dreams to do new activities
This step shows that you are capable of pleasing yourself and others. Taking someone out for coffee or dinner is common, but the people we remember the most are those who invite us to a new activity.
- Don't be disappointed if he refuses. Tell him, "If you change your mind, please let me know! I'd be very happy" to keep the opportunity open and you wait for his decision.
- Do activities you enjoy. If you're afraid of heights, don't take her bungee jumping just to sound cool.
Step 2. Dress or style your hair in a different way
Before lunch or commuting after work, you may not have time to change clothes, but you can make small changes to make it look more charming. If the two of you are going to enjoy a day off together, make sure you dress according to personal preferences because you don't need to wear work clothes.
- If the two of you will be traveling straight from the office, let your hair down after you've tied it all day.
- If you want to have lunch together, leave the blazer at the office so you don't look too formal.
- You can change clothes before traveling after work. If your clothes are dirty after a long day's work, it's best to change them before you see them.
Step 3. Interact when neither of you are working
If the two of you have been chatting at work, send a text or email to keep the two of you in touch. Instead of discussing work, discuss things that interest you both to feel connected.
- If he mentions the name of his favorite band, send him a message, "I've downloaded the new album. The song is cool. Thank you, yes, for the info".
- Send a short message. Even if he likes you, he may be reluctant to talk about work at home. Don't wait for a reply to a long message or email.
Step 4. Get support from his friends
Make friends with people who are friends with him. They don't need to know your intentions, but if he likes you, chances are that his friends are supportive of your relationship.
- If he befriends some of your coworkers, this becomes easier.
- Keep in mind that people tend to value their friends' opinions, especially when it comes to romantic relationships.
Part 4 of 4: Implementing Limits
Step 1. Show him respect and respect his privacy
Let him decide whether or not he wants to have lunch with you, instead of always looking for him to have lunch together. If he works in another room, don't linger at his desk so he doesn't feel disturbed.
- You can send various signals to let him know you like him without bothering him.
- Remember that no one wants to be sexually harassed in the workplace. You could be in trouble if he feels harassed!
Step 2. Learn the company regulations
Some offices forbid their employees to have a romantic relationship. Other companies apply more stringent regulations by arranging communication schedules between employees. Don't make a mess at work. If you have to wait until you get home from work, be patient.
Read the job manual. If you don't have a work manual, look for it in the dining room, in the boardroom, or on the company website
Step 3. Be prepared for gossip
This step may be the most difficult to implement, but it is very possible. People will understand what's going on even if you both try to keep it neat. Gossip in the office can eliminate boredom due to work routines. So, be prepared to answer questions and hear gossip.
- Gossip can help you. If your ideal man isn't sure about your intentions, he will understand how you feel after hearing the gossip.
- Consider ignoring gossip or being honest about your feelings. Think carefully before making a decision because this step may be beneficial, but it may also backfire.
- Remember that the secrets you tell someone will eventually spread around the office.
Step 4. Be prepared if he doubts your motives
Usually, employees approach coworkers as a way of advancing their careers at the company. Therefore, be honest with yourself that you did not intend this. Then, prove to the people who ask that you approached without expecting to be promoted.
Romance in the office is not always based on vested interests. This often happens if the ideal man occupies a higher position
Step 5. Approach only one guy
When using an online dating app, you can approach (and date) several guys at once without anyone knowing. In the office, the situation is very different. Even if the ideal guy doesn't know that you like another guy downstairs, someone will and the news will reach his ears.
- You don't seem serious or interested in him if he sees or hears news that you like another guy.
- Some men are not motivated by jealousy or competition. If he finds out that you like another guy, he will avoid it, especially if he likes you.
Tips
- Be patient. Some people are very wary of starting a romantic relationship at work. They worry that if the relationship is in trouble, the work environment will be uncomfortable. Don't despair if he hasn't asked you out yet.
- Make sure the dream man is still single. So that time and energy is not wasted, take the time to find information about the guy you like. Ask a trusted coworker about his love life because he will understand your motives.
Warning
- Troubled romantic relationships at work ultimately ruin the work atmosphere. If you are dating the man of your dreams, have an honest discussion about this. Make an agreement if the relationship does not continue, you both still respect each other and work together. If this is not agreed upon, it's best if the two of you don't date anymore.
- If he likes you, take the time to discuss whether or not it's necessary to keep your relationship a secret at work. Depending on company regulations, the relationship may need to be kept secret or allowed to be known by others. However, there can be misunderstandings if the two of you don't agree on this.
