Having fun around a guy you like may seem impossible to you. How to be fun and confident when an army of butterflies fills your stomach? Start by accepting your own feelings and realizing that guys are just human. Try to tame the pigeon by giving him space and enjoying your own life. Finally, show that you are confident enough by smiling cheerfully, flirting, and having fun chats.
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Part 1 of 3: Keeping Calm
Step 1. Accept your feelings
Don't try to suppress your feelings or punish yourself for being infatuated with him. It will only make you more nervous and awkward. Instead, accept that you like him, and don't judge yourself.
Say to yourself, "I like Dedy, there's nothing wrong with that. He's great. It's not that I'm weak or bad."
Step 2. Remember that he is human too
He was neither a god nor a superior alien. Try to see a side of him that is not so perfect. By realizing that he is only human, of course you can act normal around him.
It could be that he is afraid of heights or needs extra math lessons just like you. However, don't judge the flaws. Instead, use those flaws to realize that he's no different from you
Step 3. Speak slowly and take deep breaths while chatting with him
When you are nervous, you may be at a loss for words. So that you can act casual and sound cool, and so that he understands what you're saying, take deep breaths and speak slowly.
Maybe in your head you speak so slowly, but for him it's fine
Step 4. Don't delay if you want to approach him
When you see him relaxing alone, take a deep breath, put on a cheerful smile, and approach him in three seconds. If you wait any longer, your mind might be filled with many considerations, nervous, and lose your guts.
Remember, if you don't make yourself visible, you may never make progress. So, give it a try
Part 2 of 3: Playing Tame Pigeons
Step 1. Give him space
If you stick like glue, he'll think you're obsessed and desperate, and walk away in fear. Show your interest by flirting and chatting, but don't spend every second following him around.
Make sure you also hang out with your own friends and have fun without them
Step 2. Don't reply to the message right away
If you guys already text each other, great! Maybe the direction is right. However, occasionally wait a few minutes before replying. Show that you have a great life and don't hold your phone 24/7 waiting for messages.
Step 3. Look at him occasionally, but don't stare
Seductive glances are okay. Glancing is a sign that you like him. However, staring at him for long would only frighten him.
Step 4. Tell your friend to act normal
If your friends start giggling and pointing as the guy walks by, he may be embarrassed or uncomfortable. Ask your friends to act normal.
Say, “Hey, don't point and giggle. I'm not comfortable, he must feel weird too."
Step 5. Take time to do your own thing
If it seems like your crush has developed into an obsession, stop and make sure you're still thinking about yourself. Don't let him be the center of your whole life. Balance will help you to be casual, calm, and fun.
Don't quit the volleyball team so you can hang out with him after school, or join a certain club just because he's a member there
Part 3 of 3: Look Confident
Step 1. Smile
Show your white teeth nearby even though your bones feel weak. By smiling, you appear approachable and confident.
Step 2. Tease him with eye contact, touch, and light flirting
By flirting, you show interest in him and seem confident. Look him in the eye and casually touch his shoulder or arm while chatting. Combine it with light seduction.
- Try comforting compliments, such as, "You're pretty good at tennis, almost as good as I am."
- Make sure he knows that you're just flirting. If he seems irritated, back off.
Step 3. Ask something
Ask questions to create a fun and engaging chat. Use open-ended questions that cannot be answered with just a yes or no. You will appear more confident, attractive, and likable.
- If he's on the swim team, ask, "How was your game last weekend?"
- If he likes playing the guitar, ask, "How did you get interested in the guitar?"
Step 4. Stand up straight
Pull your shoulders back, lift your head high, and look forward. With a posture like that, you will look cool and confident, and also feel more stable.
Step 5. Greet him casually when you pass him
A casual greeting makes you seem relaxed and confident. As a bonus, he will pay attention to you.
