Is there a girl you want to be friends with? You love talking to him and he always makes you laugh. So, why not? He is very easy to get along with and you always want to see him again. Maybe he even has cute friends! Here's how to do it.
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Method 1 of 3: Starting a Friendship
Step 1. Try to be in the same place as him
In order to be friends with a girl, you have to feel familiar to her. A girl will not feel comfortable if a stranger approaches and starts a conversation with her suddenly. However, if he sees you often, those boundaries can be broken. He will no longer be afraid of you. Are you in the same class with him? Have the same hobbies? That's a good investment.
- It has been proven that people will like something if they are introduced to it. This is the reason why the same song keeps playing on the radio and why commercials keep running. So, the more he sees you, the more attracted he will be to you. In psychology, this is called the re-exposure effect (if you're curious).
- If you have to, you have to make sacrifices for him. Does he always sit on the left in class? Can he be found at a certain Starbucks cafe on a Wednesday afternoon? If you know where he's going to be, come over once in a while. As long as you don't follow it anywhere, you are on the right track.
Step 2. Interact with him
Well, once you both know each other and have something in common, you should interact with them. This interaction can be as simple as talking about your teacher's silly tie or asking about practice time for next week. Feel free to start slowly--after all, you have to start.
She is a girl. She's just a girl. There are billions of girls on this planet. When you ask questions or make funny comments, it doesn't mean you're setting fire to blow up the world. If he deserves a friend, he'll be happy to respond to you. Most girls aren't that different from guys when it comes to conversations
Step 3. Be brave
Many people are very shy when trying to communicate with other people. He may be happy to have a new friend like you, but he's not willing to take risks and hurt himself. Therefore, be brave and invite him to chat. Ask his opinion on a few things, ask about classes/hobbies/friends you both know, and keep the conversation going.
Pay attention to what she wears, carries, or catches her eye. Be an observer. Does he like reading wikiHow on his cell phone? Great--you've just read an interesting article about controlling camels. What's his favorite article?
Step 4. Make him laugh
The simplest way to become his friend is to make him laugh. When he thinks of being with you, he'll think of all the good times -- bingo ! You made it. Enjoy his sense of humor and continue to make great memories.
It's also a way to keep things light and pleasant between the two of you. Making her laugh will tell you that you're just trying to have fun, whether it's during a boring history class joke or after a night of intense training on a Thursday. Have a nice day and he will probably want to stay with you. However, don't be the class clown all the time; You'll end up looking like a shallow and boring person after about a week with him
Method 2 of 3: Cultivating Friendship
Step 1. Treat her like a woman
Girls need to know that you respect them and value the friendship they're having, even if you don't want to date them. So even though you should think of him as a human being, don't be a rude man in front of him. Open the door for her, lend her money if she doesn't have enough money, send a text message if she is sad, tell her that she looks beautiful before going to a big event, and other small things.
Be careful with this. While you can seduce him a bit, your flirting should still be reasonable and done right. Don't give false hope! Think of yourself as a gentleman in front of him
Step 2. Be a person of value to him
This step has nothing to do with making a girl your friend and not to simply “find a friend”. Do you have friends who have no influence on your life? Probably not. Therefore, be someone who is valuable to him. Your "value" depends on you. What is your talent? What do you know? Why should he be friends with you? What makes you a good friend to him?
And yes, there are always answers to those questions. Maybe you are smart, funny, or know a lot of people. Maybe you travel a lot or have an interesting hobby. Focus on what you are. If you are smart, help him in class; if you're funny, keep making him laugh; if you have a lot of friends, introduce him to some new people he might like. Make yourself valuable
Step 3. Praise him
Girls really like sincere compliments. As long as you make it clear that you're not flirting with him, he'll love the compliment. Is he wearing a cool Daft Punk T-shirt? Tell him! Did he play volleyball well in last night's game? Say! Everyone likes to feel confident. Make him feel it too.
This compliment is a little sensitive. Don't say, "Your gaze is like the moonlight that penetrates the recesses of my soul", or "You are so smart!" when he just got a D on an exam. Your compliments should be appropriate and sincere. Girls can notice forced and fake compliments. Try to change things up and compliment them without being overt
Step 4. Lend her your things and borrow hers
iPod, laptop, books, guitar, you know what to do, don't you? Neither of you should mind sharing valuables with each other. However, don't suggest it out of the blue as it can look like you're trying to seduce her. Wait for the opportunity.
Or, create the opportunity. Did you miss yesterday's class? Borrow the notebook. Does he have a TV series you want to watch? You have to borrow it right now! This step must be done by both parties, but you can start. When you borrow something from him, it will signal that he can borrow something from you
Step 5. Laugh at the joke
Since you've made jokes a lot, he's probably going to make them too. If the joke isn't funny, let him know by changing the topic or changing the joke a bit. Laughter brings the two of you closer, even if the joke isn't worthy of a Facebook status.
Friends usually tease each other. Even though she's a girl, you can still tease her! If he makes a joke that isn't funny, you can tease him a little. This interaction will build solidarity and as long as your intentions are good, he will respond with a smile
Method 3 of 3: Being a Good Friend
Step 1. Be with him
He needs to know that he can count on you in good times and bad. You have to offer him to cry on your shoulder when the relationship is not going well. You have to drop him off at the station on a rainy midnight so he can get home. You have to study with him for tough exams. There's no need to say this anymore-after a while, you'll automatically understand what to do.
Girls are very emotional. When he is emotional, it is very important that you listen to him. He may not want a solution, even though he has complained a lot. Being with him, listening to him, and telling him that he can face whatever he's going through means a lot
Step 2. Let your other friends know that they are your friends, period
If they want to date her, you shouldn't mind, but you should also keep an eye on her. That way, they will behave well. That's what it means to be a good friend. In the end, the girl will be like your own little sister, but better (you don't have to fight over the bathroom with her).
Let your boyfriend know that he's your friend too, period! Sometimes, girls will feel intimidated by other girls; if you think this topic is like no big deal, your lover (hopefully) will be fine. It was possible that the two of them could be good friends
Step 3. Be open about your feelings
There is a thought that men and girls can't be "just friends". At one time, he will have feelings for you, or vice versa. If this happens, stay open. The worst thing is always thinking "whether he likes me or not". Avoid this by asking directly.
Since you are such a good friend, you can do it! Hopefully he will be honest with you. If you start noticing any suspicious signals and you think he may have feelings for you, let him know how much you value this friendship. There is always a gentle way to let the girl know that you just want to be friends with her without hurting her feelings. Immediately end this problem before it develops
Warning
- Behave in the same way when you are around him as when you are around other friends. Don't start making stupid jokes or "trying" to look cool just because you're around your friends. Girls hate it so much!
- Don't talk porn about him or her. You're fine with your other guy friends, but as with most girls, you're just going to make her want to throw up, and certainly won't make her want to hang out with you. If you don't respect him, why should he be friends with you?
- Don't touch them too often, especially when they're still in the early stages of the friendship process. He may misinterpret it and feel uncomfortable. Hugs, high fives, and fist bumps are fine.
