Social media is a great way to connect with friends or meet new people. If you're interested in someone, approach Facebook by liking their photos and status, commenting on their posts, and chatting on Facebook Messenger. Whenever you post something on Facebook, you should always be polite and respectful of others. Remember, Facebook is a public forum. Your posts, likes, and comments can be seen by friends and other people you don't know.
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Method 1 of 4: Showing Interest
Step 1. Send a friend request if you have mutual friends
If you come across someone's profile on Facebook, there's a good chance you have 1 or 2 friends in common with them. If interested, click the " Add Friend " button on his profile so you can get in touch.
- Sometimes, people won't accept friend requests from strangers, even if you have friends in common. Don't be offended if your request is not accepted. Try asking someone who is also his friend about the person, and ask him to invite him to hang out at a certain time.
- If you've met her in person, try sending a friend request within a day or two so she doesn't forget you.
Step 2. Like the status or photo to show interest and support for the person
If he updates a photo or sends a new status, use the like button to indicate that you saw and paid attention to his post. This is a great way to get her attention and interest on Facebook.
- Don't like more than 2 to 3 statuses or photos at once because it can make his phone get a lot of notifications and end up seeing you as a nuisance.
- You can like someone's post as soon as you become friends with them. This lets him know that you viewed his profile and liked his post.
Step 3. Interact by commenting on status updates and photos
Your crush may be active enough on Facebook that you should take the time to comment on their status updates with good support. That way, he'll know you're paying attention to his post so you can have a more private chat later.
- For example, if he uploads a photo of a meal, you could comment something like, “Wow! This must be delicious!"
- If he updates your status about life, such as moving to a new job, immediately say "Congratulations!" or "Good luck!"
Step 4. Tag him in a funny post if you make friends in real life
It's great for showing that you're thinking about it. You can tag them by typing their name and selecting them, or share the post with them via Messenger by clicking the “Share” button.
Avoid tagging people you haven't met in real life, or you don't really know. This can annoy him or even frighten him if you've never had a conversation with him
Step 5. Be polite when interacting
Don't tease her vulgarly in her posts. Facebook is a public forum, and he is likely to be friends with coworkers and family members. Keep your comments positive and friendly. Don't forget to always be polite when texting him.
As a general rule, don't comment on her appearance as this may embarrass her. Focus on being nice and friendly, which can eventually lead you to texting to continue the conversation more intensively
Method 2 of 4: Chat on Messenger
Step 1. Send a message with Facebook Messenger
To establish a closer relationship, go to his profile and touch the " Message " button. Next, start the conversation by introducing yourself, asking a question, or sharing a comment about one of his latest posts.
- For example, if he uploads a vacation photo, say something like, “Hi! I see you uploaded a photo in Bromo. I just came from there. What do you like about Bromo?”
- If he sends you a photo or shares an article about a show or movie you've recently watched, say something like, “Hi! I really like the articles about Fast & Furious movies that you share. By the way, do you think the next sequel will be as good as the last one?”
Step 2. Ask some questions to keep in touch
Take a look at their profile to find out what the person is interested in, and discuss this in the chat. Ask some general, friendly questions about things in his profile and posts. Remember, don't ask questions that are too personal because you're just getting to know each other.
- For example, if he uploads a photo of his vacation in Lombok, say something like, "I've never been to Lombok, but I really want to one day! What do you like about Lombok?"
- If he sends something about sports, say something like, "I'm not a big badminton fan, but maybe I should watch more of the matches! Who's your favorite badminton player?”
Step 3. Avoid answering messages with just one word
It is very difficult to develop a conversation if one of the parties only says one word at a time. Take the time to think about lengthy answers so the conversation can develop, or ask something if you want to change the subject.
- For example, if he sends a funny picture, instead of replying with a "www" say, "Wow, that's so funny! You follow funny accounts on Instagram, don't you? I want to follow them too!"
- If he asks something that requires a "yes" or "no" answer, give your answer, then ask what he thinks of your answer. For example, if he asks you if you like badminton, you could say, "Yes, I often watch international matches on TV. How about you?"
Step 4. Wait a few moments to answer the message so you don't seem too insistent
One of the downsides of the messaging feature on Facebook is that it makes it seem like you've never left your computer. Give yourself a few minutes to respond to messages that come in so you don't seem impressed by just sitting back and waiting for an answer.
This will also give you time to think of a good answer to keep the conversation going, rather than simply answering a message with just one word
Step 5. Ask him out if the person seems interested in you
After chatting for a while, you might find out if he's interested in dating or not. Start with a casual date, like drinking coffee or watching a movie that you both really want to see, and assess the reaction.
- For example, you might say, "I want to see the new Fast & Furious next Sunday night, would you like to come along?"
- If you want to say something more casual, you could say, "Would you like a cup of coffee sometime this week so we can have a closer chat?"
Method 3 of 4: Acting Safe on Facebook
Step 1. Reject friend requests from unknown people
Many people create fake profiles to lure people in and manipulate them or get their personal information. If someone you don't know asks for friendship, you should decline it. If he does know you, he will definitely contact you personally with a friend request.
- If you're chatting with someone on Facebook, ask them to make a video call to make sure they're not cheating.
- Even if someone looks the same as their profile picture, they may not have the best intentions when talking to you.
Step 2. Avoid liking or commenting on multiple posts at once
An account will be marked as "spam" automatically by Facebook if the account likes or comments on multiple posts at once. In addition, if you comment on multiple posts belonging to someone, he or she may assume you have been harassing and stalking online. This can have serious consequences.
If you have liked or commented on a post, wait for him to create a new post if you want to comment back
Step 3. Avoid sharing personal information or photos in public places
When meeting someone, they may ask personal questions such as date of birth, address, and other information. Remember, Facebook is not a safe place to share personal information like this. Send personal information using text messages or encrypted messages whenever possible.
If you want to meet someone you've chatted with on Facebook, arrange the meeting using Messenger as it's more personal, not through comments or posts on the Facebook wall
Method 4 of 4: Creating an Attractive Profile Photo
Step 1. Update your profile photo to be more attractive
Most people probably won't accept friend requests from anonymous profiles with unknown names, even if they have friends in common. Use photos you took in the past year, and make sure your face is clearly visible.
- If you don't have one, ask a friend for your photo, or check your friends' profiles to see if they have a photo of you worth using.
- If you're new to Facebook, ask someone to take a picture of you and your friends, or yourself for your profile picture.
Step 2. Add information about relationship status and interests to your profile
Don't forget to add personal information, such as your relationship status, where you live and who you like. That way, if someone views your profile, they'll know you don't have a partner and live nearby. This can encourage the person to ask for friendship.
- You can set this option to be publicly accessible or only visible to friends. Everything is up to you.
- Remember, not everyone includes personal information on their profile.
Step 3. Delete embarrassing posts if you have been using Facebook for a long time
Many people have used Facebook as a teenager, and this can make some posts look inappropriate. Browse your timeline and check old posts. Delete or hide old posts to clean up your Facebook page.
- Also check photos you're tagged in, and unmark photos if necessary.
- Even if your new friend doesn't check your posts, it's important to clean it up every now and then so that the Facebook page still reflects who you are today.
Step 4. Update privacy settings to control who can see your posts
Go to "Settings and Privacy", select "Privacy Shortcuts", and set privacy settings to determine who can see your posts and information. Define who can see your profile information, posts, and photos. Whether friends, mutual friends, anyone on Facebook, or just you.
If you're planning to add someone you have mutual friends with, make your photos and personal information visible to mutual friends so they can see that you're a real person
Tips
- If your crush doesn't respond to your messages or friend requests, respect their decision and don't contact them. If he really wants to talk to you, he will establish a relationship by accepting friend requests or replying to your messages.
- Remember, comments you post on Facebook can be seen by your friends and other people's friends. Be sure to maintain proper behavior at all times to avoid embarrassment.
