The end of a relationship with a partner is a difficult process and will be even more difficult while the couple is still living together. Changes in relationship status bring many new roles and responsibilities. Making changes and clear new boundaries can prevent further hurt and stress during this process. Both parties who are going through a breakup period must discuss clearly, openly, and honestly after separating and arrange for the distribution of the area of the temporary residence.
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Part 1 of 3: Set Limits
Step 1. Discuss Finance
One of the advantages of living together is sharing responsibility in financial matters. When your romance has ended with your partner, all these responsibilities can shift or change and you need to discuss this openly. Decide who will pay bill A and so on and put the plan into action.
- The goal is to share financial problems as if they were with housemates.
- Run fairly. Try splitting the bill in half to prevent either party from feeling wronged or taken advantage of.
- Do not expect any personal bills that can be accounted for together.
- Write an agreement or list of responsibilities that each party must perform.
Step 2. Do the division of homework
After you and your partner decide to end the romance, both parties should start taking care of their respective household chores. Do your own personal household chores, such as washing personal clothes, and share other common tasks alternately/together, such as cleaning a shared room or living room.
- Be open and clear to avoid either party getting upset or hurt
- Divide the housework as if it were only with housemates.
- Take responsibility for the tasks that must be done together. Don't forget to clean up everything that is yours.
Step 3. Determine the rules and boundaries in the house
Even if there is a common area in your residence, both parties will want a separate area because the relationship status has changed. These boundaries will help maintain the privacy of each individual. Talk about the distribution and timing of the use of common areas, respecting any new rules that have been decided together.
- Sleep in a separate room if possible.
- Try to give each other space, for example: by spending time separately in your own room or a spare room.
- Create a separate area in the kitchen and take responsibility for your own food needs.
- Talk about a time that is acceptable to the other party if you want to bring guests home.
Step 4. Agree that the relationship is over
The most important step in living together after the romance is over is to mutually agree that your love for your partner is really over. It's easy to fall back into old habits and fall back into the elements of a relationship, all of which can lead to heartache and excessive stress. Remember that your relationship is over and don't be tempted to go back to old habits.
- Don't fall back into the romantic elements of a relationship.
- Clarify the relationship status so it doesn't get more difficult and complicated.
Step 5. Discuss the rules for the current relationship status
Even though you and he are still living together, your romance has ended and there is a possibility that each of you will start a new relationship. Talk honestly about how both parties would feel if they started a new relationship while they were still living together. Respect the other person's opinion and be honest about your own.
- If either party feels uncomfortable with the idea, respect it and don't bring the new partner home, as this can lead to more stress and hurt and make things worse.
- If both parties agree with this idea, discuss other rules or restrictions that must be followed.
Part 2 of 3: Determining the Transfer Date
Step 1. Decide who should move
While this decision will be difficult, one of the parties needs to move out of the house or apartment as soon as possible. It's not easy to decide who should move, so have an honest and open discussion about the facts and logical reasons for moving and who is better suited to stay.
- Try to stay as objective as possible while deciding who should move house.
- If possible, suggest that you are moving out of the house yourself to ease the decision.
- Sometimes there are problems that prevent a person from leaving the house or apartment. Financial problems are often the main reason. If that's the reason, come up with the best solution and have a good talk with the other party so that the situation while living together is still comfortable.
Step 2. Determine the date
In order for the agreed decision to take place, both parties need to decide on the exact date of the transfer. Setting a date will make the transfer process more definite and easier.
- Determine the appropriate length of time for both parties.
- Determine the exact date of the move.
- Stick to the set date and go according to plan.
Step 3. Execute the plan
Prior to the transfer date, you must ensure that the process proceeds according to schedule. If both parties have set a date for the move and carry it out, it helps the process of ending the relationship on good terms. Make sure you and he have prepared the transfer requirements so that the process can run smoothly.
- If you're the one who has to move out of your house, you'll need to find a new place to live, stay with other friends if necessary, and start tidying, packing, and moving your things.
- If your partner has to move, make sure you can afford to live independently or find a friend to live with you.
Part 3 of 3: Get Support from Your Friends
Step 1. Talk to friends and family
Talking to those closest to you or who you can trust can improve your mood at a difficult time like this. Building your bonds with those closest to you can create a sense of security and stability during your heartbreak.
- Being close to loved ones can drive away feelings of loneliness and rebuild your self-esteem.
- Try making new friends by participating in social activities and volunteering, going to the gym, or joining a community that shares your hobbies and interests.
Step 2. Spend time outdoors
Staying at home will only increase the interaction with your ex. This only adds to the stress and complicates the recovery process after the breakup. Spending time outdoors with friends or doing activities you enjoy can heal the pain of a breakup for both parties.
You can also stay for a while with friends or family
Step 3. Don't be afraid to ask for help or talk about your feelings
Talking openly and honestly about your feelings and desires helps a lot through the hurt you are feeling. Talk to family and friends about how you feel and don't be afraid to ask for help if necessary. This support can help this difficult process to pass quickly.
- If you need to talk or need help from friends and family, ask.
- Talk openly about how you feel about people you trust.
- Stay fair, open, and honest with your ex while you're still living together.
Tips
- Stay good as much as possible. You will want rational and clear choices when faced with new situations.
- Stay honest and forthright, express your feelings as best you can and be open to suggestions.
- Spend free time outdoors and visit friends and family as often as possible.
