Do you want a man to be crazy about you, the way you are crazy about him? Of course, you can't force someone to like you, but you can do your best and let their feelings for you develop. Here are ways that will help you charm a guy, while still being who you are.
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Method 1 of 3: Focus on Yourself
Step 1. Believe in yourself
You have to show him how great you are, but you have to know first how great you are. Build self-confidence if you lack confidence. This doesn't mean you have to shout, make a crowd, be arrogant, talk a lot, or anything else. This means you have to find a place that is comfortable for yourself.
- You can be careful, and friendly and humble at the same time. However, be prepared to come out of your shell. Men like confident and attractive women who can manage their own lives.
- Men who like women who don't take care of themselves are men who don't take care of themselves and want to dominate others. And who wants to be with a man who wants his woman not to like himself or a man who tells you to be like this all the time? That's not true, and you deserve better.
Step 2. Present yourself at your best
Without pretending, try to look good around the guy you like. Men are visual creatures so by showing your best, will make him like you. But most importantly, when you present yourself at your best, you feel like you're giving your best – giving you the confidence you need to make your great character shine.
- A little makeup can help. You don't need to give your entire face makeup, but only thick mascara that opens your eyes, lip balm that makes your smile sweeter, and plucks your eyebrows for a neater look.
- Wear comfortable clothes. Don't force yourself to wear skirts that shape your body if that's not your style of dress. A pair of jeans and a top that will make your eyes sparkle is a safe but effective choice.
- Smile often – research has shown that people are more attractive when they smile, so show your white teeth as often as possible to make them look prettier, more friendly and approachable.
Step 3. Make him aware of your presence
A guy won't like you if he doesn't know you're there. If you haven't managed to get his attention, make him aware of your presence. Make sure you show some interest and give signs that you like him.
- Many guys won't ask you out for fear of rejection. You have to walk before you run, right? Say "Hello". Say "See you later". Wave your hand. If he replies, you've got his attention.
- Introduce yourself and have a conversation with him. It's almost impossible for someone to like you if they don't know you, unless they "like" you for the wrong reasons.
Step 4. Get your sense of humor out
Showing your sense of humor makes things better. This doesn't mean you have to be a giggling idiot, laughing at everything you've been through, but you should try not to take it too seriously and be ready to laugh, especially when the guy you like is around you.
- If you're too serious or flat-faced on most occasions, he may think you're fierce and unapproachable, which is the last thing you want.
- Express your sense of humor in your own way. Some people are funny and sarcastic, others can tell funny stories, and a lot of people just do weird things and laugh at themselves.
- No matter what makes your sense of humor pop, it's a lot easier to like someone who can make you laugh every once in a while. If you can't find something to laugh about together, you'll probably find that you don't like it at all!
Step 5. Make it clear that you are still "single"
A guy won't approach you if he thinks you have a partner, so your job is to make it clear that you're still "single" and ready to be in a relationship.
- If you have a Facebook account and he isn't your friend yet, ask him to be your friend; but make sure your status is "single"! Using a "single bracelet" can also help you: it's stylish, easy to spot, and says you're ready for a relationship.
- If you don't want to wear a bracelet and are already friends on Facebook, show it in a clever way, such as traveling with your female friends where she might be, gesturing to her gently that you don't know who to go to an event with, and other.
- It's a good idea to let your friends help out – they can help strategize to get the two of you together, as well as eliminate awkward situations. They also know where you stand in the relationship and won't like the guy you like.
Method 2 of 3: Knowing Each Other
Step 1. Don't be afraid to be his friend
Being friends with a guy gives you two big advantages: he gets to know you and you get to know him, without feeling awkward being in a special relationship. Treat him like you would any of your other friends – just relax and be comfortable around him.
- Men are usually more open to other men than women, but that doesn't mean you can't approach them – this is when your magic works.
- Just be careful – if you get too friendly, you might lose your romantic feelings and sometimes it's really hard to get them back once you've entered the "friend zone".
- If this happens, things will get complicated and you might just give up easily. A little flirting in the relationship will keep things going.
Step 2. Talk to him
It may seem irrational, but actually talking to the guy you like (rather than watching him from a distance) is important if your goal is to get him to like you.
- Ask him interesting and insightful questions; find out about his life, family and friends; tell him something funny. All that keeps you two talking.
- If you can get him to say something he really likes – whether it's his favorite sports team, band, or author – then you're a winner. When he tells you something he likes, he will start to give you the positive emotions he feels for you!
Step 3. Praise him
While this may come as a surprise, men love compliments, just as much as women, so don't be afraid to say something nice to him from time to time. Of course, pretending to compliment him isn't a good idea – you'll just end up being insincere.
- Compliment something about her appearance, like her cute dimples or her cool new haircut. But don't overdo it – men can be embarrassed by such things. A simple sentence like "I love the color of your eyes" is what you need to say.
- However, compliments don't have to be about appearance alone. If he talks about something he likes, let him know that you admire how passionate he is. You can also compliment her on her sports skills or let her know that she's doing well on a class project.
Step 4. Do something together
Finding an activity you can enjoy together will create a bond between the two of you and make him realize how fun and interesting you are. Once he sees you as someone he can share his interest with, he may start to see you as a partner in the future.
- If he's thinking about becoming a Premier League player, show up at every soccer practice – if you're invited, and cheer him on. If he likes rock climbing, ask him to show you how, and try to find out why he likes it. Open your mind.
- You can also invite him to try your interest. For example, you can take her to dance class or take her to try out an unusual regional dish. Knowing that you are the one who can introduce him to new and interesting experiences will make a guy more interested.
Step 5. Find common interests
Find out what you have in common and grow! Sharing a common interest is the foundation of many successful relationships, so this step should not be missed.
- Any interest is fine, it can be as simple as being able to read sentences from an episode of Family Guy or complex like an interest in astrology – as long as it makes them see you as a friend with similar interests.
- For example, if you both like a certain music, ask him if he has ever listened to a certain singer and offer him a music CD. Or if your favorite band is playing in town, take him out with you.
Step 6. Get to know his friends
Men love their friends, so it's very important that their potential boyfriend is good friends with his friends. Therefore, it is very important to get to know his friends and make them see you as a cool woman. This will let him see how easily you fit into his life – no hassle, no drama.
- If you can make friends with his friends, that's an added bonus. They will support and talk about you around the guy you like, even if you're not there. This will ensure that you are always on his mind.
- However, be careful. You don't want to tease his friends. This will cause conflict and make you appear to be playing with it.
Method 3 of 3: Take the Next Step
Step 1. Be naughty
Once you two get to know each other and go out together a lot, you can start to heat things up. Show him that you're interested in a relationship that is more than just friends, by flirting with him – this may be a sign he's been waiting for to ask you out.
- Smile… Make sure to smile every time you see him – this will let him know you're happy to see him. Even if he's with someone else, give him your sweetest smile.
- Make eye contact. Making eye contact is an important flirting technique. One good piece of advice is to look at him from a distance, then once he notices you're looking at him, look him in the eye for a moment before smiling and looking the other way. He will be curious.
- Make physical contact. Another great flirting technique is to touch her with more of a friend's touch. Gently touch his arm when you talk, give him a hug when you greet him, or gently ruffle his hair when you're joking. This will give him a quick "I'm interested" vibe.
Step 2. Send him a message
If you have her number (if you don't have one, ask) you can text her throughout the day to let her know you're thinking about it. You can send him a funny or teasing message and if he replies in the same way, then you are on the right path.
- For example, if he has a sports match or test coming up, you can send him a "Good luck" message. He, hopefully, will find it sweet and appreciate it when you remember it.
- However, make sure you don't overdo it… Remember the rule: if you send two messages in a row without getting a reply, you have to stop texting them. Texting requires a reply.
Step 3. Take her for a walk
If the two of you have only been out with other people or in more formal circumstances (such as school or work) up until now, it might be time to take him somewhere together. It doesn't have to be a three-star dinner at a fancy restaurant, but it could be something as simple as a coffee or a mall.
- If he says yes, it's most likely an indication that he's interested in you, or at least he's enjoying time with you. Take it as a positive sign and enjoy it. Just don't let things get awkward – you guys are just two friends enjoying time together, right?
- If he says no, don't panic just yet. He may really have other commitments, or be too shy to go out alone with you. Give him some extra time, then try again. If he keeps saying no, maybe he really isn't interested.
Step 4. Tell him you're interested
At the end of the day, there's a lot waiting and hoping to be done. Sometimes your best option is to tell him directly that you're interested in him and ask if he feels the same way. Whatever the answer, at least everything will be clear and you can move forward with your relationship or leave it.
- Don't believe the rumors that men should ask women out. In fact, men like strong, confident women who know what they want. In fact, the fact that you dare ask her out, may be enough to impress her and say yes.
- Never ask someone else to ask a guy out. This is childish and will increase the chances of him saying no. Even if you're too shy to ask her out face to face, texting or handwriting will be more effective than sending a friend.
Step 5. Be patient
This takes time. You can't force someone to like you and trying to speed things up can ruin your relationship. Give him space and don't be obsessive. Let everything go naturally or disappear slowly.
- Gradually, he will tell you one way or another if he is interested in you or not. And if he's not interested, don't hang him like a lost puppy. Sometimes you just don't fit in in a lot of invisible ways, and sometimes a guy just isn't ready for a long term relationship.
- If this is the case, don't wait to move forward! Don't take it too seriously. Rejection happens to everyone at some point.
- There are lots of fish in the sea and as long as you are confident you will get a good catch and the right guy is waiting for you out there.
Step 6. Consider her feelings
Lastly, but very importantly, remember that you cannot control what other people think and do. He may be the object of your attraction, but that doesn't mean you are an important part of his world.
- Turn the situation around. If a guy you don't know is interested in you, is there anything he can do to make you like him? Probably not.
- The reality is you will either like him for who he is or not at all. You will find it attractive or not at all. You will find it funny or not at all. All he can do is be the best he can be and hope you think so too.
- Vice versa. Be the best you can be, and let it develop – or not – from there.
Tips
- Men like women who have their own nature, so be yourself! Don't try to change for a guy and make him like you for who you are, not because you've changed into someone else.
- Never forget to smile! This is an age-old and safe way to chat with him. Plus, smiling is free and adds value to your appearance instantly! (Also, remember to brush your teeth often to keep them white!)
- Even though everyone always says "be yourself," if you're a grumpy, rude woman who doesn't have many friends, try a new style. Try to be kinder to other people, pay attention to other people's feelings. But don't be so nice, because people will think you're faking it. This will be bad.
- If there's no sign he's interested in you, it doesn't mean he isn't interested in you. It's possible that he's shy, or a little scared, especially if he hasn't dated a woman in a long time, or if it's his first time. Be patient, but don't push it; let him know that your door is open if he dares to call you.
- Make sure he's "single". If you're trying to get the attention of a guy who already has a girlfriend and you find out, you'll be interfering with the other person's relationship, which is not a good thing. You should only go after him if he doesn't have a partner. It also shows that he easily turns away when in a relationship. Such a man usually often wanders in his life with many women who admire and feel dissatisfied, when he wakes up from his sleep. They are known to us as "playboys" and "assholes" by their ex. "Avoid, avoid, avoid" is the best advice I can give.
- Don't make it obvious that you like him because that's the biggest mistake women make. That's when a really "nice" guy will take advantage of you.
- Some people choose to be friends first. Others choose to avoid the "friends only" zone. Ideally, you can be both – a friend "and" a romantic partner.
- Don't talk about other potential men with the guy you want to go after. You may feel like it's a way of showing how "asking" you are, but it shows that you're too shallow and impressionable – not something guys are looking for in a long-term relationship. Actually, it's not a good way, but a good way to get rid of it.
- Be warned that some men take longer to grow than others ("Peter Pan syndrome"). In this case, you are better off not waiting for him but looking for a man who has already decided to "grow up". You don't want to be a mother to someone overnight.
Warning
- If most of your friends are immature, it's best not to tell them about it. They would immediately stare and laugh at him when he came. They might start talking and stuff. No matter what you tell them, they will pay attention to it. The worst case scenario is when your friend does something of her own free will and starts bombarding her with questions like 'What do you think of Jessica?'. This will make him go away.
- Don't tell him right away that you like him, or he might not take you seriously. Spend some time getting to know them first.
- Distinguish between being friendly and he likes you. Sometimes it's hard to tell the difference, but pay attention and you'll find out. If you've just gotten out of a bad relationship, some guys, especially those older than you, will act as your "big brother." They will see the relationship as brotherly, which means any romantic relationship will not be possible.
- Try not to make things too clear, meaning don't bring yourself up too often in conversation. While you're talking, don't be shy about asking her a few questions. Be careful what you say to him, because saying the wrong thing might make the situation awkward.
- Never play mind games or send vague signals. This will leave him confused and most likely embarrassed. This is not a sign of intelligence – it is a sign that you are feeling restless and lacking courage.
- Trying too hard to "get" someone to like you can be manipulative, something that no one is interested in or no one wants to be a victim of. Open your mind. The sweet junior who always smiles at you might be the right person if the guy you're after proves to be a disappointment. Regarding "Mr. Right", here are the words of Maya Angelou "… hope for the best, prepare for the worst, and accept everything in between". You'll find him, and when he comes, don't expect a pretty horse and a knight in shining robes, but a pick-up truck and Dave Smith. He won't be perfect, but he is a good person. Believe me.
- If you've told your friends about him and they're bombarding him with questions, tell them they need to stop and if they don't even try to heed them when they talk about him. When he is around, pretend like your friends are immature and you are older than them. He'll love the fact that you don't act like an eight-year-old like your friends.
- If these steps work "too" well and he's too excited, let him relax and don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable.
