When you love someone, it's natural that you want to spend the rest of your life with that person. However, sometimes you may be frustrated if you have to wait for a proposal from the man you love. If you want to get married, focus on creating a strong, healthy, and lasting relationship. Also, try to be the best version of yourself because that will make you and your partner happy. Finally, if necessary, try to signal to convey that you are thinking about marriage.
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Method 1 of 3: Creating Healthy Relationships
Step 1. Plan to marry someone whose principles match yours
Principles can be defined as the way you view your family, money, beliefs, and treat other people. If you have common principles and values, it will be much easier for the two of you to build a life together.
- Sometimes, marriages between people of different principles can be successful, but require far more compromise and cooperation, and the problem is a potential source of conflict in the future.
- For example, if you believe that your child should be raised under the direction of the church, but your spouse hates organized religion, it may be a matter of debate if you have children one day.
Step 2. Find out his views on marriage
Getting married is a big step, and just because you want to, doesn't mean your partner will either. After a long relationship, ask him a few things that can show his opinion about the concept of marriage in general. If he's not ready to get married, there's probably nothing you can do to change his mind.
- For example, if he's been open about his past relationships, see if there's any sign from his relationship history that he's afraid to commit. If he's ever been hurt, he may need some extra time before he can open his heart again to consider marriage.
- He may also say, "Marriage is just a document on paper", which may indicate that he has no intention of getting married.
Step 3. Be honest with each other
If you want to marry a man, he must trust you completely. In turn, if he's the right guy to be your husband, you should feel like you can trust him too. This kind of trust requires openness and honesty with one another. Don't lie, and don't tolerate his dishonesty.
If your instincts tell you to hide something, like having lunch with a friend, think about why you feel that way. If he has reasonable objections, such as that the friend has feelings for you, consider canceling the lunch plan. If your partner has a controlling or unreasonable habit, or you feel like he's trying to distance you from your friends, that could be an indication of a tendency to be violent
Step 4. Accept responsibility for your share of the dispute
Sometimes disputes occur in relationships. If there has been an argument, apologize for your words or behavior that contributed to the problem. This way, he can see that the two of you can handle anything together maturely, which might help him overcome his fear of marriage.
- When you have a disagreement, try to express your feelings without using harsh words or getting emotional. Ask him to treat you with the same respect.
- Don't let anyone manipulate you into accepting all the blame. In almost all cases, both parties contribute to the problems that occur in the relationship.
Step 5. Praise and reassure him
If you want him to feel like he can spend the rest of your life with you happily, take every opportunity to take him there. Say often that you love him and that he means a lot to you, and compliment his looks and the attributes you like most about him.
- For example, give a compliment like something like, "You really are a hard worker, that's what I respect the most about you" or "I love your smile!"
- If he's nervous about a job interview, say, “You're smart and more qualified for the position. If they don't vote for you, they lose!"
Step 6. Provide support when he is going through a difficult time
In a strong and healthy marriage, husband and wife should encourage each other, solve problems together, and support each other when things go wrong. By showing that he can count on you, he may be moved to spend the rest of his life with you.
- For example, if he is sad because a family member died, accompany him in silence while holding his hand. Don't force him to talk, he will speak for himself if he wants to.
- If he's feeling stressed from work, you can cook him a nice meal or take him out for dinner so he can relax for a bit.
Step 7. Watch for warning signs in relationships
When you're in love, it's sometimes hard to notice the early warning signs. For example, if he jerks, shoves, or screams during a fight, be careful because that's rude behavior that tends to get worse in the future.
Other warning signs are distancing you from friends and family, putting you down or making you unhappy with yourself, blaming you for his actions, or insisting that he is in control of your finances
Tip:
If you feel like your relationship has been colored by violence, talk to family, friends, or support groups who can help you end it safely.
Method 2 of 3: Loving Yourself
Step 1. Pursue your passion and encourage your partner to do it too
In a healthy relationship, both parties should have their own hobbies and friends. It not only helps you to feel happier and more confident, but also strengthens the relationship. Enjoy time alone to cultivate longing, and later there will be many things to talk about when you meet.
- For example, you could ride a bike with your best friend while she watches a soccer game with her friends.
- If you have the same interests, of course you can both enjoy them together. However, don't be afraid to work alone.
Step 2. Take care of yourself
Whenever you get a chance, make it a priority to take the time to take care of yourself. You'll be happier and more relaxed, and your partner will be happy to know that you can take responsibility for your own good. This may increase his chances of applying. However, even if that's not the case, self-care is still very beneficial for you.
You can take care of yourself physically by relaxing in a soapy lather with conditioning hair, and you can also take care of yourself that makes you feel healthy mentally, spiritually, or emotionally, such as yoga and meditation, relaxing walks, or keeping a diary.
Step 3. Say positive affirmations over and over again if your self-confidence is low
Almost everyone has doubted themselves. If you don't feel good enough, make a list of the best qualities in yourself. Then, look in the mirror and say what's on the list.
- For example, "I'm a good friend, and I always try to make people happy. I deserve to be loved."
- If your confidence is weakening because you haven't been proposed, remember the many sweet things that your partner has done for you. For example, "Jason is willing to drive up to 2 hours to cheer me up when I don't pass the exam. I know he loves me, even though he's not engaged yet."
Step 4. Work hard to achieve financial freedom
The ability to contribute to the household and make financial decisions will create a sense of self-confidence. Work on a career that matches your personality, talents and interests. When working, try your best and respect your seniors, who may be able to help you to reach a higher position.
In some cases, financial problems are one of the reasons men have not applied. So, financial security can help relieve partner stress
Step 5. Exercise regularly to maintain health and relieve stress
Exercise 20–30 minutes a day is one of the best ways to reduce stress. Try jogging in the afternoon as an easy cardio workout. You can also join a yoga class, take part in sports like swimming or softball, try strength training, or watch exercise videos at home.
- In addition to reducing stress, exercise will keep you fit and strong, which in turn can increase your self-esteem.
- Feeling and looking good will make you look more attractive in the eyes of the man you love. So, he may also be compelled to propose to you.
Tip:
Try exercising with your partner to add to the healthy togetherness!
Method 3 of 3: Showing You Want to Get Married
Step 1. Talk about the future together
If you want to gauge your partner's interest in marriage, try talking about your plans for the future. For example, where do you want to live, do you want to have children, or what kind of career do you want in the future. Incidentally, include him as part of the plan, and watch his reaction.
- For example, "I want us to go on a trip to Europe one day." That way, he knows that he is in your dreams.
- If he responds with, "I want to!", then he's thinking about a future with you too. If the answer is uncertain, such as "Yeah, see you later," maybe he isn't as interested in you as you are.
Step 2. Hang out with a happily married couple
Seeing someone else in a happy committed relationship might make him think about proposing. If you both have friends who can be examples of healthy and strong marriages, try making an appointment with them.
- For example, you could plan a cookout, a double date to the movies or a restaurant, or even a vacation together.
- Attending a wedding with your partner is also a way to get the idea of getting married into your mind.
Step 3. Point to the engagement ring you like for a clear signal
If you really want him to know what you're looking for, pick up a magazine or catalog with pictures of engagement rings. Then, go to his page while he's around, and point out a few that you like.
- This will not only show that you are thinking about marriage, but will help her get to know your tastes. For example, he may envision a classic ring with a large diamond, while you prefer another gem or an unusual design.
- Try not to point to a ring whose price is beyond your partner's ability. If he feels your taste is more expensive than he can afford, he may be hesitant to buy a ring, and that means no engagement.
- If you don't want the ring, say so, don't show the ring. He will still know that you are thinking about marriage.
Tip:
This talk of engagement rings is legit. However, don't babble about marriage until he proposes, or he will feel pressured and frightened.
Step 4. Ask her to marry if you think he is ready, but has not dared to take a step.
Don't be afraid to take over. If you really want to marry him, but he hasn't asked you to be his wife, there's no reason not to ask him first. The way is up to you, but make it clear that you want to marry him.
