Have you ever had that awkward moment when you couldn't think of a single word to say? Do you want to say something to a girl, but don't know how? Here's how to compliment a girl without offending her or going too far.
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Part 1 of 3: Looking for Something to Praise
Step 1. Assess what a girl values in herself
The first thing you want to do is think about the girl and what you know about her that is appreciated. A girl tries to shy away from compliments and she will be more open to accepting compliments that she approves of. Find out what he is proud of, from your experiences with him and praise him for those things.
For example, if he feels like sharing something he does with someone else, then that's something you can compliment him on
Step 2. Consider what he is struggling with or working on
Like you or anyone else, he will probably like it if his hard work is approved. If you know he's been working hard at something or he feels something is lacking or self-conscious about him, you can compliment him on that. This can get a little tricky, so be careful how you present it.
- For example, if he complains that he doesn't like his nose, say that you think it's cute.
- Another example is if he is trying hard at school, praise him for his efforts, tenacity, or intelligence.
- For this type of compliment, whatever you say must be honest. Don't say something that doesn't mean it just to compliment him.
Step 3. Think about the things he appreciates about you or others
Think back to the conversations you had and look for things you can compliment him on that you know he really appreciates but don't know he has. You may know that he likes how you fight to get what you want, but he also struggles just as hard. Maybe you know that he says he admires another girl, but you think he is better.
It's important to know if he really has the qualities you want to compliment. Saying that he's good at something, but he's not, then he'll know that you don't mean it
Step 4. Compliment her personality
The best thing to compliment a girl on is her personality. This is something she can control and it comes from within, rather than something like fashion which usually has little to do with who she is and who she is. Think about what you like about who he is as a person and what he does, then compliment him on that.
Step 5. Praise the achievement
You can also praise his achievements. It is also something he can control and shows who he is as a person. Think about things he's worked hard on, things he's done that you admire, such as helping others, or doing the right thing in tough situations, and compliment him on those things.
Basically, it was something that couldn't be taken away from him or changed over time. This means he won't be afraid to lose this quality, and can feel good about thinking about this compliment for the rest of his life
Step 6. Give praise that comes from your heart
You don't have to think too much about compliments. You can only compliment him naturally, by really saying how you feel. Speak from your heart and the perfect compliment will surely come out. The way to do this is that you must first appreciate and respect him. Not honoring him in a way that could lead to saying something offensive.
Part 2 of 3: Things To Do
Step 1. Be sincere
Every compliment you give, must be sincere. Girls will find out if you don't mean it. They may not tell you, but they know it and it will leave them feeling disappointed and awkward.
Step 2. Appreciate
This is the key to being able to compliment girls without offending or upsetting them. If you value them as a person, as a valuable human being with useful opinions, feelings, hopes, and dreams, who can do all that you can do, then every compliment that comes out of your mouth will probably be well received.
Step 3. Think about how you feel when you are complimented
If you're still worried, think about how you feel when you're complimented. Don't look on the surface for compliments… think about the things he's worried about, and the experiences he's had. Think about what a compliment could mean if taken out of context. Think about how you would feel if a stranger said that to you. If it makes you uncomfortable, then it probably makes him uncomfortable too.
Step 4. Give praise at the right time
You need to compliment him at the right time, like when you're on a date, or you're talking about something that has to do with what you're going to compliment him on. This means making a connection between what you want to compliment him on and the situation you are in. This is very important, because doing this in the wrong situation can be seen as demeaning to him.
For example, don't compliment her on her physical appearance after she's given a presentation (except to say that she looks great and gives orders in the room). But praise her hard work, the way she conveys information, or the intelligence she displays when she gives a presentation. Praising his physical appearance at a time like this could be seen as condescending, but praising his work was empowering
Step 5. Show praise through your actions
You don't always have to give compliments loud and clear. An effective way to compliment him can be shown by how you react to what he does or says.
- For example, if he's been working hard on something recently, you can compliment him by giving him a back massage.
- Another example, if he is being nice to someone, then do something nice for him, like cooking dinner for him.
- It can also be a way of verbally complimenting him, telling him why you did something.
Step 6. Accept rejection politely
If he doesn't respond to your compliments in the way you like, don't be the one to be rude or think (or tell him!) that he's stuck or thinks he's too classy. This will only show him that you are praising only for your sake, not his. However, tell him that he doesn't have to believe you, but that you mean it and you wish you could take the compliment for what it is. Leave him after that.
This is the most common thing when you compliment a girl you don't know. A girl you know may turn down a compliment because she's been in that condition so many times, at this point you can either emphasize that you mean it or just tell her not to be too modest
Part 3 of 3: Things Not to Do
Step 1. Avoid complimenting certain body parts
Because if you make a girl feel valuable by complimenting a certain body part, it will generally wear off over time and she will end up feeling worthless because it's gone. So avoid praising the buttocks, legs, etc. The eyes and hands are safer parts to compliment.
It's best to compliment his physical appearance if it relates to his personality or actions. For example, say that her eyes are beautiful and you like how her determination shines through her eyes when she is working really hard
Step 2. Don't give sexual compliments to girls you don't really know
This is not the biggest thing when it comes to complimenting a girl. You may see an unknown girl you like, and you may think that giving them compliments is a nice thing to do, but if you don't know the girl, then giving sexual compliments will only make you look more intimidating and create opportunities. You go down to negative.
- For example, telling him that his body fits perfectly in that shirt.
- Sexual compliments usually only work for girls you're dating or have a very close relationship with.
Step 3. Don't compliment him just to try to get something you want
He will find out. Yes, he will find out. You should take compliments seriously and you want him to know how much he means to you. You should give compliments to make him happy. You shouldn't compliment him just because you want some superficial physical contact.
Step 4. Avoid insulting compliments
There are some compliments that you might think of as flattery but are actually insults. Before you get into trouble, consider first what you want to say and how it will be taken out of context.
- If you have compliments about your weight, stop. This could easily go in the wrong direction. However, compliment her by saying that she looks healthy, saying that she looks radiant, etc.
- Don't compare her to your older sister or mother in any way, unless there are circumstances where saying this is a good thing. In general, if you want a romantic relationship with him, don't say that.
- Any comments that end with “today” (e.g. “You look really good today”). This means he doesn't look good on other days.
Step 5. Don't use generic compliments
Things like opening lines, online compliment lists, or other general compliments won't work… because they're about other girls. He'll know if you compliment something that can be said to everyone and he'll know that you're just trying to be with him.
Tips
- If you accidentally offended him, make sure you apologize.
- Some girls refuse to be complimented, and will ignore it. For example, if you compliment her on her hair and she says "no, her hair is ugly," don't take it as an insult. But you might want to consider going after him because he likes to be complimented this way.
- Don't be offended if he doesn't compliment you back.
- Try to make a relationship with the girl before you compliment her. Create a close relationship.
- Some girls react only based on their emotions. They may not see your body movements very well and may think you're trying to get them. Don't blame yourself for this.
- Don't make comments about their flaws, such as 'you're easy to fool.' They don't like that.
- Compliment based on appearance and taste.
- Don't comment on body parts. This can bring you down and be considered shallow.
Warning
- Make sure you don't overdo it. Giving compliments every minute will make the situation awkward. Giving too many compliments will also make him think you're a sarcastic person.
- Don't interrupt the conversation to give a compliment, especially if he's in the middle of a conversation, even though it's a good thing to compliment someone else, but that doesn't change the fact that it's rude.
- Don't hold onto anything you're trying to praise. If it's something small and easy to move like a ring or purse, politely ask if you can see it. If it's something like a necklace or a new outfit, just look at it and don't touch it.
- Avoid saying "Today" statements (like your hair looks great today). Many girls have such low self-confidence that they will hear it as "Wow, your hair doesn't look as bad as usual."
- If you see something interesting from a new friend or acquaintance, it's better not to compliment them right away, but to wait a while. You don't have to give excuses for not giving compliments in the first place. If he asks, say that you already know. You could also say you knew earlier, but wanted to talk about it later, but haven't had the chance to talk about it yet. Anyway it's not a problem.
