Complimenting a woman can be an effective way to make her feel special by telling her how awesome you think she is. Unfortunately, too many men don't know how to deliver compliments. Most guys just say things that are obvious or use a compliment so often that it doesn't matter anymore. The skill of giving compliments is one of those skills that if mastered can make you look good and romantic in the eyes of women.
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Part 1 of 3: Finding the Right Compliment
Step 1. Understand the values in a woman's life
First, think about what the woman likes about herself. Try to think about more than just her clothes and make-up because she usually judges them for other people more than herself. Try to think about the things he cares about. For example, she may be proud of her ability to play an instrument or maybe you know she wants to be a good mother someday and one day you see her handling young children well. These are good things you can praise.
For example, say something like, "You are so gentle and affectionate towards everyone, even when you are in trouble. That's amazing. If only there were more people like you."
Step 2. Find the values he sees in other people
Try to remember how to talk to other people. You've probably seen him compliment people or heard him talk about someone or something he admires. Pay attention to key phrases like, "If only I…," because these tell you right away what he wants. Now try to remember when he had exhibited such behavior. Most women sometimes display attitudes they admire, but think they can't. By showing him that he can be who he wants him to be, he will see you more.
- For example, say something like, "I think it's funny that you think you're not as smart as he is. I mean, how could I have finished last year's report without your help."
- You could also say something like, "It's okay if you're not as patient as Gina. You're not only patient, you're understanding. Just look at how you handled yesterday's problem with Dedi!"
Step 3. Pay attention to what he is trying to fix
Observe his bad traits and habits that you know he really wants to improve and praise him when he fixes them. You shouldn't openly say that his personality or habits need improvement, but that praising him when he's successful can lift his spirits. You must understand how difficult it is to improve yourself!
For example, say something like, "You were so calm at the meeting. I really admired you. If I were, I definitely can't do that," after he calms down when your boss scolds everyone (even though he's always been sarcastic and always rebuttal)
Step 4. Don't just compliment her beauty
Praising beauty is a bit tricky. Most women love to be praised for their beauty! But this kind of compliment can be bad for both of you. He was probably used to hearing people praise his beauty for wanting something from him. Compliments like this can also have a long impact. He could think you like him just because of his beauty (which certainly won't last as he will age which is what makes him wonder). Don't praise her beauty too much and only give such compliments at appropriate times, such as celebrating special days.
For example, say something like, "Nani may be the bride, but to me you are the most beautiful woman in the room."
Step 5. Give credit for something new
Praising new things about him will show that you care and pay attention to him. It's generally thought that men don't pay attention to things like a hairdo or a new pair of earrings, so when you do, he'll be very happy. Of course this means you have to really pay attention to it.
For example, say something like, "I don't understand shoes, but they look like they're going to make you look great today."
Step 6. Let the compliments flow naturally
Compliments are more meaningful when they flow naturally, when you compliment them by directly speaking your mind in response to the situation at hand. If it happens naturally, she'll know you didn't prepare her compliments in advance or pick them up from expert flirting sites. This shows you sincerely compliment him. When you see him do or say something you admire, just share how you feel.
Of course this can be dangerous. You should still consider how this compliment may sound to other people. Take a few seconds to get a feel for how he would feel if he received that compliment from you. Will your compliments make him feel like he's done something wrong? Did he come off as weak, stupid, or some other bad thing? Learning how to respect him can help you avoid messing up in these situations
Part 2 of 3: Saying the Right Thing
Step 1. Your compliment should be specific
Don't compliment something common to a woman (“Your hair is beautiful”, “Your eyes are beautiful”). Be specific in your compliments, because praising specific things shows that you're not just taking compliments from online examples so you can compliment them. Instead of saying general things like that, say something like, "Your eyes make your whole face glow and look happy," or, "I love it when your hair is styled up like that because I can see your pretty face."
Step 2. Make a special compliment for him
Be creative when giving compliments. It's nice to hear when you compliment your hair or eyes if you do it right as discussed earlier, but it's still a compliment that's been thrown around a lot. You're not the first to say her hair is great, you know that, right? Get creative with compliments so you can really show that he's the only one on your mind and you're not trying to get any woman.
Try complimenting her by saying, "I love hearing you have your voice because it makes me feel at home," or, "You're just as elegant as Audrey Hepburn."
Step 3. Praise the things he can change
Praising the things he can't change can lead to tension and self-doubt later in life. Imagine if a woman only ever received the compliment, "You're beautiful." She must have been happy when she was praised, but she had come to think her value was only limited to her beauty. With age, her beauty will "reduce" and her self-confidence will also fade. You don't want that to happen!
- Examples of things he can change: his education, his determination, his skills, his achievements, his personality, and his friendships.
- Examples of things she can't change: her eyes, the color of her skin, everything related to her age, and her overall beauty.
- Also, complimenting a woman on the things she can't change is the same as praising you because your neighbor just got a job. You're not contributing anything to it, so it's harder to be happy or flattered by the compliment.
Step 4. Do not make sexual comments to someone who is not your boyfriend
Do not. Never ever. It's impossible to say something like, "Hey, Sexy, let's go to sleep?" will have a positive impact. Even "elegant" sexual comments are not good. Avoid all compliments or comments that hint or even overtly say you want to have sex with her if she isn't your boyfriend. Women always question whether the sexual comments that come from a man are because he is trying hard to seduce or he is a potential rapist. Don't let him think that way when he's with you.
Step 5. Avoid flattery
A cheesy compliment can easily sound cheesy or indicate you're trying too hard. This is because cheesy compliments that usually involve comparisons to roses or the moon are not sincere. Compliments like this are given just for fun, not because they have anything to do with certain women.
Slight compliments like, "Your smile is like a sunny day," are fine if the context is right and you really mean it. Basically, don't give compliments that sound like they were taken from a dime novel or a guy in a rundown bar. Such praise will do nothing
Step 6. Be wary of derogatory language
Be wary of giving compliments that involve badmouthing others. While this kind of compliment might make a woman blush, it might actually make her misread your character. If a woman hears compliments that involve badmouthing other people, especially those she cares about, she'll start to feel like you've gotten used to badmouthing other people and think that she's the one you'll be cursing next.
- For example, don't say something like, "Don't worry about Heni getting everyone's attention. I think you're much prettier than her."
- Instead, say something like, "I know you think Heni grabs all men's attention, but you don't have to worry too much. You already have everything a man wants. You just need to give yourself a chance to show it to the world!"
Step 7. Make him feel important in your eyes
No one wants to feel like a grain of dust and on a planet inhabited by billions of people, it's not hard to feel that way. Giving him compliments that make him feel unique or meaningful that he feels important will warm his heart. This can be the most effective compliment. Of course your compliments really depend on his personality, so you'll have to rack your brains on this one.
For example, if she's been a frequent volunteer, say something like, "Have you heard of Pay It Forward yet? You may not feel like you've done much, but every positive change you make radiates from within you and creates a more beautiful world." I think what you're doing is amazing."
Step 8. Be careful when discussing the issue of weight
You may be tempted to compliment a woman who has recently lost weight, but this is a bit tricky. Most women are sensitive to weight issues (and so are men!) and it's possible they're losing weight because of a problem. It could even be that he has cancer. You should praise her weight loss only if you know that she is really trying to lose weight. Here's some advice for choosing the right words of praise:
- DO NOT compliment her by comparing how she looks now to how she looked in the past (such as, "You look prettier now!").
- Try to praise the greater impact of her weight loss. You might compliment him by saying, "You look healthy and energetic today," or, "You seem happier and more confident lately."
- It's best to praise actual efforts to become healthier. This is the most amazing thing he has done. Say, "You are my inspiration to make my life more positive. I wish my determination and commitment could be as big as yours!"
Step 9. Don't feel like you have to compliment her to get something
It's natural to expect your compliments to have a positive effect on you. You can date, have sex, or even just get closer to him. But you should also realize that sometimes a compliment isn't the best way to get what you want. In fact, a poll revealed that only 50% of women are happy to hear a compliment from someone. Most women think badly of compliments given in certain situations because they have to face verbal harassment on the street. Sometimes any compliment can go wrong (especially if you're complimenting an unknown woman on the bus!). Honest conversations can do better for you. Talk to him as you would any other person and let your personality, rather than what you say, attract him.
Part 3 of 3: Delivering Praise
Step 1. Don't praise too much
If you praise too often, the special feeling that comes from compliments will fade. How often you should praise is a bit difficult to measure, but it's better to give compliments on special occasions and when you feel your compliments are important. Have you ever felt like your heart was going to explode at the sight of how awesome he was? It was a good time to praise him. When he keeps blaming himself for something? It was a good time to show that he was tough and tough so he could definitely get through his problems.
The purpose of complimenting is to make women feel good about themselves, not trying to make you look better. That is, you should praise at times that can indeed make women feel good about themselves
Step 2. Be sincere when praising
Women almost always know if you're not being sincere when you compliment them. This is why the results are almost always bad when you compliment a woman you've never met before; You don't know him, so how can you know what's commendable. Whatever the compliment, you have to be completely sincere. You have to really feel that what you're complimenting is a good thing. Your sincerity will be conveyed, even if it's a little cheesy, and he'll be flattered.
This is why we are satisfied when a child praises us. The compliments may not be well-organized and may be about weird things, but kids don't yet know how to praise people to get what they want. When it comes to praising us, children are really sincere and it feels really soothing, even if the delivery isn't very good
Step 3. Show your respect
Maybe you've heard advice about giving a compliment that offends her a bit to increase your chances of dating a woman, making the woman you're complimenting think she only deserves a guy like you (who "don't care" about her "lacks"). Even if this method works, surely the woman you are complimenting has a very low level of self-confidence. You don't want to date women like them. Instead, when giving compliments, show him your respect.
As a rule of thumb, don't say anything to a woman that you wouldn't say to your sister or mother. If your mother is going to hit you in the head for saying that, then don't say that to any woman
Step 4. Praise him at the right time and place
Complimenting your coworker's dress right after she's delivered an important presentation is inappropriate because it means that all her hard work doesn't catch your attention at all and all that comes to mind during her presentation is her appearance (even if this isn't true). This is a good example to show you the principle behind complimenting a woman. Any compliments for anything should be delivered at the right time so that he doesn't think you're complimenting him just because you want something from him (to a stranger on a train station platform, to your wife when you get into bed, to your co-workers before burdening her with that). profession). You also have to pay attention to the context. A subject that doesn't fit the situation can render your compliment useless, as in the example we've provided.
Step 5. Show him, don't just talk
Show your affection and admiration through your actions, instead of just compliments. Actions show sincerity and keep you from embarrassing words. If you're afraid that you're giving the wrong compliment or that your compliment might make her angry, show it through your actions.
For example, when you see him buying a bum sandwich, serve him and cook him dinner that very night (or even take him to a fancy restaurant). You don't have to do this every time he does something good. As with verbal compliments, offer compliments only when you feel they really matter
Tips
- If you don't give compliments often, but, for example, you cook a meal, do so and only give a unique compliment because by then he already knows how you feel about him by your actions.
- Build a good relationship before throwing hundreds of compliments on him.
Warning
- Find the right time to compliment a woman, such as when she's feeling vulnerable.
- Again, don't give compliments too often.
