Being a big brother is not only fun, it also brings great responsibility. You may not realize it, but your younger siblings view their older siblings as role models. You will notice that they imitate your behavior. Although this role may feel heavy, you can use it to have a positive effect on the lives of your younger siblings. Be a good big brother by building strong bonds, being a positive role model, and being nice to them.
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Method 1 of 3: Building Relationships
Step 1. Support your sister at important events
An important job of a good older sibling is to make time for the younger sibling and show how much they really matter to you. If your sister is about to face a test or job interview, cheer her up! Or, perhaps they want to receive an award? If you have time, be sure to take the time to attend the award ceremony.
- Prepare a card or gift to show that you are proud of him.
- Say, "Good luck with the test, good luck!" or “Congratulations, you managed to become a model student! Big brother is really proud!”
Step 2. Divide your food
Try to enjoy lunch or dinner with your sister. You can propose this meal together at any time, or you can make it a weekly/monthly ritual. Make this meal together as an opportunity to have a heart-to-heart talk and put your cellphone away while you are with your sister.
- If you can drive a car or motorbike while your sister can't, ask her to buy martabak or ice cream.
- If you are a minor and you are not allowed to drive a car or motorbike, prepare some bread and go on a picnic at the park.
Step 3. Do fun and exciting activities with your sister
Have fun with him! Watch action movies that you like. Or, should you buy a school farewell party dress? It's also fun to invite your sister.
- Spend your time at the beach, running together, or bowling.
- Spend your time with your sister to be creative. You can try new projects. You can also teach your sister to do things that you have mastered.
Step 4. Share your secret
If your sister can be trusted, share your secret. After that, he will feel more comfortable telling his secret. Even so, keep an eye on your sister's age. Tell secrets only age-appropriate.
- For example, if your sister is over 13, it might be okay to tell her about the first time you liked a guy.
- Keep your sister's secret as long as it doesn't concern her safety or endanger her. If the secret is about dangerous things, talk to your sister and tell her why she shouldn't keep it a secret. Then, take her to see a parent, guardian, or adult you can trust.
Step 5. Speak up when problems arise
Even if you are the perfect big sister, you can't avoid trouble. When problems arise, listen to your sister's opinion and respect the differences that arise. If this problem is really bothering you, calm yourself down by taking deep breaths.
You can say, “Actually, I don't like it when you take my clothes without my permission. It's not that you mind borrowing your things, but tell me first, okay?"
Step 6. If you don't live together, try to contact him at least once a week
Make sure you keep in touch with your sister even if you live in a different place. Call him when you have time. Don't be lazy to send news via SMS, WhatsApp, or other instant messages. Call him on any special date.
You can also create communication groups so you can chat more often and share stories or everyday jokes
Method 2 of 3: Setting a Good Example
Step 1. Listen to the words of the parents
Showing respect for parents is very important. Sometimes younger siblings will use your behavior as an example. Follow the rules set by your parents, don't argue, and always respect them.
- Also respect other people, such as teachers, older people, and religious leaders or government officials.
- Keep the room clean, go home before the parental curfew, and obey all the rules.
- Encourage your sibling to do the same, and explain why it's important. For example, you could say, “You know, it sucks when Mama always tells us to clean the room. However, it is really comfortable if our room is always clean and tidy. What's more, Mama also likes us diligently cleaning the room."
Step 2. Model your sibling how to behave responsibly
If you are a minor, avoid alcoholic beverages and drugs. Take care of your image on social media and don't post anything that will tarnish your family name.
Watch your words. Don't curse or gossip in front of your sister. Set a good example for him
Step 3. Be diligent in helping at home
Show your sister the importance of donating energy at home. Clean your room as well as other rooms that are often used with other family members. Wash the dishes, take out the trash, and cook if you can afford it.
- Encourage your sister to do household chores that she has been reluctant to touch.
- If you're still very young, you can make annoying household chores fun. For example, play some stomping music while you're cleaning.
Step 4. Don't be afraid to apologize when you're wrong
Hey, brothers can make mistakes too, you know! If you are guilty, apologize immediately. Show sincerity and honesty. Prove that you are trying not to repeat that mistake.
Say "I'm sorry Brother made fun of you for wearing that dress. Brother shouldn't have said that. Brother promises never to laugh at your clothes again."
Step 5. Defend your sister
If you see your sister being made fun of or being bullied, intervene immediately. Don't let other people insult or hurt him. Protect your sister so she knows that you can always be counted on.
- If you see your sister being bullied, say, “Hey, don't bother my sister. How dare just a child!”
- Ask the authorities for help if the problem at hand puts your safety at risk. However, never leave your sister alone. Better, use the phone to seek help.
- There may be situations when you have to defend your younger sibling in front of your parents. For example, if you think your parents are too harsh on you, you could say, “I know that Budi can't come home at night. However, this is really not intentional. After all, Budi didn't have a problem. Maybe Papa and Mama can be a little patient. What's more, he also apologized."
Step 6. Be careful with your mouth
Words have infinite power. One ridicule can last longer than 10 praises. If you need to remind your sister, speak nicely. Treat others this way too. Avoid cursing or cursing others.
For example, if you catch your sister making a mistake, say, “Sister noticed that you had a pack of cigarettes in your bag. You know, Mommy and Daddy won't like this, right? Brother will not report you. But, big brother is really worried about your health. If Brother sees you repeating this act, Brother is forced to tell Mama and Papa. What do you think?"
Step 7. Work hard at school and at work
Show your sister the importance of hard work and dedication. Use your time to do productive things like reading, studying, and working. Pay attention in class and do schoolwork to get good grades. If you also have a job, come on time and work hard to achieve maximum results.
Set yourself an example through action. Encourage your sister to do the same, but don't force it
Step 8. Be honest
Even if it's hard, try to always be honest. If your sister sees you lying to your parents, she will think lying is cool. Be an example to your sister by being honest.
- Remember, honesty can sometimes be painful. For example, if someone is wearing an ugly shirt, don't ask your sister to say, "That dress is ugly!"
- There is nothing wrong with submitting constructive criticism if it is requested. If someone asks you how the ugly dress looks when you wear it, ask your sister to say, “I don't think brown suits you. How about a blue dress to match your eye color?"
Method 3 of 3: Doing Nice Things for Your Sibling
Step 1. Encourage your sister to continue to appreciate herself
Help your sister to love herself and be confident. The trick, appreciate whatever they managed to achieve. Focus on the positives instead of their faults.
The form of this award is, among others, by saying, “Andi, your violin is good. It must be because you train hard.”
Step 2. Encourage your sister when she is in doubt
Even though your sister has always been full of confidence, there will be times when she feels restless. If your sibling looks down because of being teased or seems worried about something, cheer up! Tell him he can do anything as long as he believes in it. Also, try to help him get rid of the invading fear.
For example, if they're worried about an upcoming test, say, "Sinta, I see you've been studying for weeks for that test. You can do it! If you want, tonight Brother will make questions to study."
Step 3. Help her when she needs you
When your sister needs you, be there for her to help. The help that can be given varies, from simple things like getting things off the shelf to finding a part-time job if he needs extra money.
Don't keep bringing up this good deed of yours. You will actually look selfish because you do good only for your sake, not for your sister
Step 4. Buy or make your sister a meaningful gift
During holidays or birthdays, don't just give him boring and marketable gifts. Give him gifts they like. The gifts can be things that remind you of good times or the fun things you've had together. He will be touched to find how much his brother loves him.
- For example, buy him his favorite sweater or CD.
- You can also buy art items such as paintings or maybe clean the room as a gift.
Step 5. Do sweet things for her as a surprise
Show you care by giving him a surprise, especially when he's stressed or needs a little help.
- For example, if your sister is going to have a test in the middle of a lot of work, help her complete a few assignments so she has more free time.
- If your sister has to attend an event such as a party, offer to borrow your clothes.
Step 6. Share with your sister
You and your sister should share as much as possible with each other, whether it's your favorite computer game or other family items. Be kind to each other. If you can't treat your sister well, how will you treat others?
Tips
- Remember, siblings will imitate your behavior. So don't be a bad influence!
- Make them laugh out loud.
- Treat your sister's friends with respect.
- Remember, it's okay to spend time with your friends. However, your sister is the same. He can also have fun with his friends.
- Don't forget to tell your siblings that you love them.
- Find things you both like, like songs or television shows, and talk about them together. It's a fun way to spend time with your sister.
- Always follow your sister's wishes.
