The desire to talk and express can make it difficult for us to keep our mouths shut and listen to others. Mark Twain once said, "It's better to be silent and look stupid than to open it and cast aside all doubts." Learn how to properly assess situations and express thoughts at work, home, and the internet only when there is added value.
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Method 1 of 3: Shutting Your Mouth at Work
Step 1. Think of anything you say at work as an opportunity to add value
That way, if what you're thinking doesn't add value, don't say it. There is value in silence because it allows you to observe the actions of others.
Step 2. Review what you said during a casual chat
If someone hasn't said three full sentences in the last three minutes, you're talking too much. When you realize you've broken the three-minute rule, ask open-ended questions and listen to their responses.
Step 3. Think of silence as a work skill that is being developed, like managerial skills or Excel skills
Avoid disturbing gossip during meetings and discussing personal matters at work so that you appear to have a good work ethic.
Step 4. Build strength through silence
Each time you keep quiet instead of speaking your mind, the impact the next time you speak will be stronger. Meetings are the best time to practice it and see if you can build respect from coworkers by avoiding pointless chatter.
Step 5. Use silence in negotiations
If you don't respond right away or nod after someone suggests something, your silence can make other people nervous. If he feels uncomfortable enough and offers other suggestions, you could have an advantage.
You will gain valuable information by listening to what others think before responding
Method 2 of 3: Being Quieter at Home
Step 1. Let everyone talk for two minutes before you open your mouth
If someone seems angry or upset, it usually takes them 2 minutes to vent. Let him finish, then say "I'm sorry" to show your concern.
Step 2. Stop talking if you want to say “I told you” or “I didn't want to upset you
” Any phrase that starts like that and continues with a "but" will further upset the person you're talking to rather than add value.
Step 3. Wait for 15 seconds after asking the question
If you're trying to start a conversation over dinner, ask open-ended questions and then be quiet. The desire to interrupt too quickly can prevent others from thinking about questions and expressing themselves.
Step 4. Shut up instead of saying anything negative
Try repeating "If I'm not going to say anything nice, it's better not to say anything" when you want to complain or argue about someone. You will become a more positive person.
Step 5. Write it down
Stop talking and start journaling. If recent conversations with your spouse or children have been frustrating, you can write them down on a piece of paper before saying them.
Step 6. Do an activity that calms the mind every day
Thoughts that are too noisy can mean you talk too much. Try meditation, yoga, reading, or viewing art photos for at least 10 minutes each day to focus your mind.
Method 3 of 3: Reducing Gossip on the Internet
Step 1. Think of typing as speaking
You should also always follow the “value-added” rule so you will only type when it is absolutely necessary. Every time you send useless texts, emails or status updates, you are wasting time for yourself and others.
Step 2. Don't use “reply all” (reply all)
Don't build a reputation among your friends as someone who just fills your mailbox with unimportant emails. If you want to respond to an email, contact the person concerned or reply only to the person related to the subject.
This rule also applies to SMS. If you're in an SMS group, reply only if they're waiting for your answer
Step 3. Don't discuss political and religious topics on Facebook and other internet media
You will not be able to have satisfying chats with friends on the internet because this medium does not convey nuance or emotion. This discussion should only be conducted in person.
Step 4. Remember that all comments and status updates on social media are permanent
Once published on the internet, a copy of your post will never be lost in someone's file. Ask yourself if you want your child or friend to see this comment in the future?
Step 5. Pick up the phone
Keep your virtual mouth shut by calling someone every time you want to post information on the internet. If you don't think this topic is important enough or just a waste of time, then you don't need to post it.
Step 6. Understand the legal ramifications/branching of posting on the internet
Your public posts can be seen by your boss, spouse, children, or even the police. This post can be used as evidence in court.
