The key to flirting with a woman is letting her know you're attracted to her, but not overdoing it. You need to be able to relax but still be charming and not rush into flirting. If you want to know how to seduce a woman from the moment you meet eyes, follow these steps.
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Method 1 of 3: Show That You Are Interested In Him
Step 1. Use positive body language
Your body can make a woman realize you're attracted to her before you even say anything. And it can help you flirt later. There are a few tricks you need to know to show your interest through body language.
- Maintain eye contact. Look directly into the woman's eyes when you're chatting and don't look at your phone or look around, for any purpose. You have to give the woman your full attention, and show it, and turning often is not the way to show it.
- Look up or lean forward when talking. Sitting or standing, lean forward toward him. But don't get too close, or you'll scare him off and think he's weird.
- Do not forget to smile. Show him your smile even if you rarely or haven't spoken. With a positive mood, you can easily flirt with someone.
- Don't bend over. Stand or sit up straight to show your confidence.
Step 2. Learn to convey things implicitly
Saying something implicit is the key to successful flirting. You have to know the difference between saying that you are interested in something and "indicating" that you are interested in something. Saying you're interested is of course too obvious and doesn't make other people curious. Meanwhile, being implicit and indicating that you are interested will make a woman interested and make her want to continue chatting with you.
- Look for implicit ways to compliment a woman. Instead of immediately saying that she's really pretty today, say "you must have taken a long time to get ready today."
- Look for implicit ways to show that you want to spend time with him. If he says he likes swimming, don't say you want to see him in a bathing suit. Try saying "I like women who like to swim, especially at the beach in the summer."
- Look for implicit ways to say that he is special to you. Instead of saying she's really pretty, say "a woman like you can easily find a boyfriend."
Step 3. Ask questions about him
You don't have to do any special tricks to get to know a woman. Asking questions about her interests or background at the right time is a great way to flirt and show that you're interested in her. Here are some things you can ask.
- When he's joking, ask him what he does in his spare time. This shows that you want to get to know him.
- Ask him if he has any siblings. Women like to talk about their siblings.
- Ask if he has pets. If he has, ask him if he likes his pet.
- Ask his opinion on simple or trivial things. Ask something that might be funny but interesting like "what do you think about guys wearing pink clothes?"
Step 4. Joke with him
Once you're comfortable enough talking to him, try joking with him. The moment it feels comfortable and safe to start joking can vary, it could be from the start of the conversation, or it could be after a few minutes of chatting. When the moment is right, don't be afraid to have a little joke with him.
- Jokes about his interest. If he likes watching good movies at the cinema, try to joke around by asking him if he likes watching Indonesian horror films or other bad films.
- Joking about his appearance. Make sure you do this with a praising tone and intent. If she's wearing a ring that's not silver, try asking if it's real silver.
- Joking about the way he laughs. If he has a funny way of laughing, ask him if he likes being around funny people so he can laugh a lot and listen.
Method 2 of 3: Seduce Him
Step 1. Impress him with your intelligence
If you can show that you're an intelligent person and able to make witty and humorous responses to the right moments, he will be impressed by your flirting. Here's how to impress women with your intelligence.
- Show that you can continue to follow the flow of the conversation. If he makes a witty or sarcastic comment at you, give an equally intelligent reply.
- Be original, because part of being smart is knowing how to tackle an old topic in a new and unique way. Don't say what most people can say.
- Get to know who you are chatting with. If the woman you are chatting with is intelligent and creative, you can make a response using complex and unusual references. But if he doesn't, don't try to overcomplicate things, or he'll get confused.
Step 2. Show your sense of humor
Funny guys are hard to find, so you have to stand out by showing your sense of humor. There are several ways you can use humor to flirt.
- Joke at the right moment so as not to interrupt the other person or turn off the topic and flow of the conversation.
- If he says something funny, don't just reply "that's funny." Respond with appropriate humor.
- Do not exaggerate. If you try too hard to be funny, other people, especially women, will notice.
- Learn to laugh at yourself. Women like a man who is aware of and accepts the fact that he is not perfect and doesn't take life too seriously.
Step 3. Be confident, but don't be arrogant
Being confident is the key to attracting a woman and seducing her. If you are confident and comfortable with yourself, flirting with a woman is not difficult.
- Be positive. Talk about things you enjoy, whether it's your job, your hobbies, or your friends. If you think negatively about everything, you will appear unhappy with yourself.
- Don't insult yourself. Laughing at yourself a little is different from calling yourself a loser or saying that you will never be successful.
- Discuss a topic or thing that you are good at. If you're a guitar player or a great cook, make it a topic of conversation, but don't be arrogant and brag.
- Don't act like you're awesome and he's lucky to have the chance to talk to you. Anyone, male or female, would be lazy to chat with people like this. When it comes to talking to someone, no one is superior to the other. Everyone is lucky to be able to talk to each other.
Method 3 of 3: Things to Avoid
Step 1. Don't be too outspoken
If you're too outspoken, the woman you like will run away quickly. Implicit compliments are important, but don't be aggressive by making overly intimate comments when this isn't the time. Women will feel you have a mean intention.
- Don't be too aggressive and say "hey, wanna kiss?" Instead, try saying "I like your lipstick color"
- Don't make comments that are too sexual. Don't say "you have nice curves." He could have slapped you. Try saying "you look so beautiful in that dress."
- Don't give all your time and attention to her. Make time for other people. Don't worry, if he likes you, he won't walk away.
Step 2. Don't be too implicit
It's important to say something implicitly, but you don't want to be so implicit that you don't really get your point across. The key is to find a way to let him know that you care about him. If you're too implicit and fail to convey that, he won't think you're important later.
- So that he can understand, give a few hints or signs that you are interested in him.
- Make it clear that he is not just a friend to you. Compliment her looks, tell her how special she is, or treat your chat with her as a date. If you don't show that you think of him as special, then he'll think he's just your friend.
Step 3. Don't forget to stay 'connected'
Indeed, you want to seduce a woman to get closer to her. But if you just try to tease him all the time, your efforts will be in vain.
- You can flirt while following the flow of the conversation and bringing up the topic of conversation at hand.
- Make sure that when you're done chatting, he gets to know you a little better. In order to be in a relationship, he must know you better first, and vice versa.
