Sending messages is easy to find and a simple way to start a conversation with the person you like. Calling all the time will make you look too eager and following the person you like everywhere will make you look like a stalker ! Sending a message is a simple and less nerve-wracking method than a face-to-face or telephone conversation. So, take a deep breath, muster up your courage, and start sending messages.
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Part 1 of 3: Starting a Conversation
Step 1. Ask for the phone number of the person you like
The best time to do this is when you are in the middle of a lively conversation. Make requests casually and not pushy.
- Say something simple, like "Hey, why don't we exchange phone numbers? By the way, I just got an iPhone. What phone are you using?"
- The moments after exchanging cellphone numbers will be a little awkward. Make sure you don't skip the pulse. Make the conversation flow so that the exchange of phone numbers seems completely natural.
Step 2. Prepare a plan
Before sending the first message, decide what you are going to say or what you want to get at the end of the conversation
Step 3. Send your first message
As simple as "what are you doing?" or "What have you been up to lately?" is the start of a good conversation.
- If your crush replies that they're watching television, listening to music or playing a game, respond by asking what they're watching, listening to or playing. Whatever your crush says, you need to be prepared with questions to reply to messages to keep the conversation flowing.
- Your crush might say something like, "I'm doing my homework." To reply, you can say something like "We have a lot of work to do, don't we? It took me a really long time to finish it!" or if your crush isn't in the same school, you can say, "Oh poor you! Ha, is that a lot of work?"
- Tell people you like what you're doing. When your crush texts you telling you what he's up to, send a reply like, "That's so cool. I'm checking Facebook" or whatever you're doing at the time.
Step 4. Observe how your crush is acting
Look for clues in a conversation to see if the person is happy to reply to your messages and so on, if the person has had enough of a conversation or if you are ready to move on and ask the person you like on a date.
- If your answers are very short or truncated, then you should send something like, "OK, I'll text you later," or "See you later crocodile." (Funny SMS) Don't read too much. The person may be really very busy or in a bad mood. The important thing is to make sure that you don't make yourself look pathetic or destitute by trying to force a conversation when it doesn't go well.
- If your crush responds by asking you a question, such as "What are you doing?" then you know that he wants to continue chatting. Let the conversation flow naturally. However, make sure they end the conversation. Be chatty and move on.
- Look for opportunities to take it to the next level. If the conversation gets strong or turns into a really private topic, or if the person you like starts venting to you about his or her problems, "Why don't you call me so we can talk about it? I'd like to get together sometime, maybe."
- Come on. If you know the time is right, ask the person you like on a date. If they turn you down, there are still plenty out there!
Part 2 of 3: Other Conversation Starters
Step 1. Message your crush and ask, "What did you think of today's class?
"if his response is something like "OK" or "Very normal", you can ask him what he thought about homework, science experiments you did, geography lessons you did, book reports for next week or exams will be held.
Step 2. Use holidays and celebrations as starters in a conversation
- If you're texting your crush just before Christmas or just before his or her birthday, then you ask your crush about his or her plans for the celebration.
- If you text the person right after the holidays, send it a message and say, "Hey, did you have a great birthday? Got something special?"
- Learn about holidays you don't celebrate. For example, if your crush celebrates Hanukkah while you celebrate Christmas, ask questions to learn about their holiday.
- Message your crush on New Year's Day and ask if he or she has made any resolutions for the new year. Reshare your resolution.
Step 3. Ask questions about her family
Your crush may complain about their sibling, or maybe your crush has an older sibling going to college. If you have siblings, say something like, "I can understand the problem you're having with your little sister. My sister is driving me crazy." You can also ask questions about parents and even their pets.
Step 4. Talk to your crush about their hobbies
- If your crush is a tennis player, ask him how his last match went
- If your crush has other interests such as bands, the school newspaper or academic extracurriculars, then ask him what he's been up to lately in those activities.
- Your crush recently entered some kind of competition? Did the person win in the competition or was he part of the school play? Message the person to say "Congratulations."
Step 5. Send something sympathetic
Maybe your crush got a low mark on an exam, lost an important game or went through something really sad, like the death of a pet or family member. Send the person a message saying something like, "I'm sorry to hear what happened. How did you deal with it?"
Part 3 of 3: Rules to Remember
Step 1. Be patient
With messages, you have 160 characters to send a great message. You don't have to reply to messages from people you like right away. Submit a response after you've spent some time thinking about it.
Step 2. Avoid increasing the cost of hp
Make sure you have an unlimited message plan or that you check the number of messages you send carefully. You don't want you and your parents to be surprised when the cellphone bill arrives..
Step 3. Avoid abbreviations
Abbreviations can make you look unreal and impermanent. Save abbreviations for your best friends and use complete sentences and capital letters when you message people you like.
Step 4. Use emoticons with care
A smile or a sad face is fine, but you have to be absolutely sure that the person you like also likes you before you use a flirty emoticon. Make sure at least 99% he likes you before you use love emoticons.
Step 5. Make sure the person you like starts a conversation at some point
Don't text him too often. Texting once or twice a week is enough. You don't want to look pathetic.
Tips
- Always ask a question or something easy to respond to if you want them to text back
- Have candid conversations. Don't make big declarations like "I love you" to your crush in a message.
- If you are a humorous person, don't be afraid to use it. Everyone likes people who can make them laugh.
- Wait until the same time that he used to reply to you to reply to them again.
- Don't make this too obvious. That would make it weird.
- Talk to them personally and don't be shy about it.
- Using shy emoticons is OK too.
Warning
- Think twice before sending a message. Your crush may turn you down if you're too direct at first. Also, don't let your crush force you to post inappropriate pictures of yourself or engage in dirty chatter. Never do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.
- Do not send messages if you are under the influence of drugs or alcohol. You will send something that you will regret later.
