Everyone wants and needs to be loved, because that is an important aspect for humans. But sometimes being loved is not easy. If you're having trouble finding the love of your life, or you just want to get more love, read the guide below.
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Part 1 of 3: Let Love Come
Step 1. Build self-esteem
Often we are actually more loved than we think. The reason why you may not see and realize it is because you think you don't deserve to be loved and feel like no one loves you. But you actually deserve to be loved. If you want to dispel these doubts, start by building your self-esteem. Remember all the good things you've done and all the trials you've been through. You can do anything if you work hard and you can make your world a better place.
Step 2. Respect and honor yourself
When you value and respect yourself, others will do the same. Take care of yourself and treat yourself right. Take care of your body condition by maintaining cleanliness and wearing clean clothes that are suitable for your body. Don't put yourself down and don't let other people bring you down. This will let them know that you feel you have value and deserve respect, and they will agree with you.
Step 3. Fulfill your interests
Interest and interest is something that attracts the attention of others. Loving something wholeheartedly, be it sports or writing, or something else, makes people feel inspired and hopeful. People want to be around you because it makes them feel better about what they are interested in. Pursue your interests and let others see your interests and efforts, even if yours may seem strange and unusual.
Step 4. Show your talent
Let people see how great you are. If you have a knack for something, even if it sounds boring like cleaning, show it. Do not be shy. Showing your talents to others is different from showing off and being arrogant. Being proud of your achievements and comforting yourself with them is something natural and healthy.
Part 2 of 3: Get What You Need
Step 1. Decide what you want
What do you want from this love you've been looking for? Are you just looking for a close friend or partner? Sometimes you feel the need to have a boyfriend, but actually you have enough if you have a good friend. Know that you don't have to have a boyfriend to be loved and happy and consider whether making friends can solve your anxiety.
Step 2. Consider why
Why are you not loved now? This is a very important question. If you are loved and don't accept it or feel unloved, then you need to fix the problem, not seek love. If you are not loved in your current relationship, then you should review the people you love and decide whether or not you should keep your relationship with them. Some people are just brash and you're better off not dealing with people like that. If they treat you badly and don't love you, then make new friends. You deserve better.
Step 3. Adjust the definition of love in your mind
Some people think that if they are not showered with diamond rings and birthday cards, they are not loved. But that's not entirely true: one doesn't have to give something as proof of love, and giving something is not a sign of love. Make sure that you know what love is so that you can know whether you are loved or not in your life.
Step 4. Ask for help if necessary
If you think the reason you are unloved has to do with depression or mental health, ask for help. Find a trustworthy person or doctor and seek professional help. Be healthy and happy too.
Never feel ashamed to ask for help because of your mental health problem. You're never ashamed to admit that you have the flu, so you should be ashamed of him too. After all, it's not your fault
Part 3 of 3: Inviting Opportunities
Step 1. Make a new friend
If you want to create more opportunities to feel loved, start by making new friends. Come to a public place, community, event, or course in your area.
Step 2. Find a community
Community is arguably better than a group of friends. If you have an interest or concern for a particular thing, seek out the community for it. This community can be very supportive and is a great place to make your life better.
Step 3. Take care of the animals
Pets are another way to get more love into your life. If properly cared for, your pet will love you unconditionally and will depend on you. You can make a huge impact on your pet's life as well as yourself, especially if you have a rescue animal.
Step 4. Join a spiritual group
Joining a church or other religious community can be a great way to make new friends, community, and supportive connections. Search for a denomination for your religion and attend regular activities and other events.
Step 5. Date someone new
If you really want to find a partner, you can find a boyfriend. But remember that sometimes these relationships can bring more problems than they solve.
Step 6. Volunteer for social activities
Volunteering in social causes is a great way to be loved while making a positive impact on society. Volunteer in any positive activity and meet the people you help. You will feel very satisfied because you did something good.
Tips
- Remember that other people cannot make you happy. You alone can make yourself happy. Sure, other people can do things, but in the end you have to know what makes you happy and keep you happy.
- You are an individual worthy of love, and you must remember that at all times.
- Believe in yourself and in others. Confidence is something that can be contagious so show your confidence. There's nothing better than someone standing with their head held high. You can get a lot of things or nothing at all, but if you believe in yourself, you will be very attractive.
- Keep writing. This will help things pour out. But remember to distinguish good and bad memories. Keep all your good memories.
- Be patient. Strive to be happy and one day your efforts will pay off.
- Always be respectful and kind to others. If you are nice to other people, they will be nice to you too.
Warning
- Everyone learns from mistakes. You may feel hurt from time to time, but over time, you will grow and move forward as an individual.
- Sometimes you will feel hurt, but don't worry, if you can endure, love will come at the right time.
