This article is for young people who are in love with one of their friends, or maybe even their best friend. This is a topic that may be one of the most complicated love issues in the world, but it keeps happening all the time. It's easy to approach someone as a friend. But is it easy to turn that friendship into a love affair with that special person?
Step
Step 1. Try to be his closest friend
Not just a friend, but someone who cannot be separated in their life, someone who listens to all their problems and always helps when faced with difficult times. You have to build a special relationship that is not the same as relationships with other people, namely a relationship that is not separated from each other. Being a good and loyal friend is all about trust. If he believes in you, he will likely give you a bigger chance when it comes to love.
- Open yourself up. Tell him about yourself: your dreams, desires and sorrows. Love can grow in someone new, but he or she should see you as a person with real goals, success, and problems rather than just a friend. The more he is able to see parts of you that no one else can, the better your chances.
- Make that person feel special. Let him know that he is someone's friend, your friend, and that you value him in a unique way. Praise him for being with him and being there when you needed him, times when you were feeling sad and lonely. Show appreciation for the comfort the person gives you and for making you smile. Always dream with him, build hopes with him, and always entertain and support him.
Step 2. Give him a hint
Before the two of you get too close and say, "I love you as a friend," or the relationship becomes brotherly, you need to give a hint that you may like him as more than just a friend. Sweet and simple teasing and comments, something that will make him say you're a nice person, but also make him think more about the comments and wonder if there's any other meaning to what you're doing.
- This is a difficult thing to put into words, because you don't want him to think that you are friends with him just so you can have a romantic relationship with him. At first, be careful to flirt with only your body. Don't miss the chance to sit next to him. Look into her eyes, and smile often. If you really feel close to him, try tickling him or holding him.
- Slowly increase it by flirting with words. Tell him how much you adore him. Tell him how special he is to you. Tell him that he makes your life more beautiful. But remember, just give enough cues! If you keep talking to him every twenty minutes, he'll start to feel uncomfortable as a friend and start distancing himself from you.
Step 3. Be a friend to lean on
Be the person they can turn to for reliable advice. If you're by his side when he's going through tough times, and help him get through those tough times, he'll see you as a problem solver and trust you more. You will also be able to be the one to make him feel safe and secure.
Step 4. Keep trying
When you notice any signs coming from it, it means you have made progress. But if your cues haven't been understood by him, try harder. Being clearer can help because some girls are used to being teased a lot.
- Have a meeting together. This is important. If you never talk to him when it's just the two of you, make an effort to do so. The trick is to make the meeting not look like a date when you ask her out, but feel like a date when she gets there. Tell him you're studying at a Starbucks coffee shop, and you'd like to meet a nice girl who can distract you from your studies, instead of saying, "Would you like to have coffee together, just the two of us?"
- Make for him some compositions of your favorite music. Give him the music you listen to to show him a different side of yourself. This will help him to understand you better. It also sends her a subtle message that you enjoy sharing private things with her. Be sure to include music that you think he'll like. You could be in a bad situation if he only likes to listen to Beethoven's music, when you give him Metallica music. After you've given him your composition, ask him to make a composition for you too.
Step 5. Back off
Backing off is important because it will let him know what he missed when he wasn't looking at you. It will force him to think about all the things you do to make his life more meaningful, colorful, and fun. He will want to see you soon.
- When you're sure you've made progress, step back a little. If you see him every day, avoid him for two days or more, and don't communicate with him! He will miss you and really realize how deep he feels for you. But make sure that you have a good reason to walk away when he asks. Of course, you don't want to be caught lying, or appear deliberately avoiding him.
- If you feel like it's going to work, try hanging out with another girl for a day, just to pique her interest. Girls are attracted to men who are familiar with many women who pay attention to them. Here, the goal was not to make him feel very jealous. But the goal is for him to think that girls love to be around you, and that you can choose the woman you want.
Step 6. Listen only to his direct opinion
Don't worry about what your friends will say about how they feel about you, because we all know that information can distort. He said something to his friend, who then said it to another friend, who then told it to his acquaintances, and quickly made his words stray far from his original words. Get rid of deviant words that do not come directly from him.
Be persistent and continue to do fun things with him. Research shows that doing exciting, courageous and adventurous things together will help release a chemical (called norepinephrine) in both of your bodies that is associated with romantic feelings. So don't listen to what his friends or your friends have to say, and invite him to ride the "Lightning" ride (a roller coaster in Fantasy World), enter Dufan's haunted house, or play an interesting game, whatever can make him jump, scream, or move with excitement
Step 7. If you're sure you want to take the relationship further, tell him
Remember, only do this if you feel you can handle the possibility of losing a friend. It can be really weird and uncomfortable if he finds out that you want a relationship when he doesn't feel the same way about you. What you are doing is risking a friendship to get a romance. Some girls get mad if you do something like this. The two of you probably won't be friends anymore after you tell him this.
- If you are sure, you should tell him. Be honest with him and explain how you feel. You could say something like, "I've really appreciated our friendship over the last few months, and I've seen that you are a special person, and you make my life feel so much more beautiful. I value our friendship above all else, but I really like you. I can no longer hide my feelings for you. Would you like to date me?"
- Give way to retreat. Let him know that it's okay if he doesn't feel the same way, and that you can accept that. You want to hear an honest opinion from him, not sweet words like what you want him to say. If you give him a way to back off by saying, "I know you probably don't feel the same way about me, and I respect him," then it helps to save the friendship if he doesn't want to be in a relationship. And if he doesn't want to, it will give him a strong impression of how kind and respectful you are when it comes to dealing with him.
- Don't get too emotional. Whatever you do, don't be discouraged. Emotions are strong feelings, and he'll think you're using your emotions to manipulate him, which causes him to distance himself from the situation. If you're emotional, he's more likely to feel sorry for you and return to a state of thinking the two of you are just friends without a romance, which you want to avoid. Keep holding yourself back, even if you feel very "hot" inside. Smile at him no matter what he says, and be as happy as you can be.
Tips
- Never pretend to imitate others. Be yourself. Be different from everyone else and unique in your own way, and that's the person he will fall in love with.
- Make sure he knows he's loved even if it's just a friend.
- Even if he says he's not interested in you, if you're happy to be with him, don't give up! If you continue to be with him through the tough times, he'll eventually start to wonder, "Is he…?"
- Remember, patience is the most important thing you must have for your business to succeed. It can be a long time before he also looks at you for what you see in him.
- Don't be by his side all the time. He can get a little irritated. Give him a chance to do his thing. If he shares everything with you, that's a great thing! But if not, then don't try to force her to tell you everything.
- Be gentle, don't say rude words, don't waste time with him, open the door for him, and be polite to others.
- Never say that you love him, unless you really mean it and with all your heart.
- Don't lie to him. A relationship like this depends on the trust between the two of you in order to last.
- Look deep into his eyes when you are talking to him. Eyes have the most emotion a person can show.
- Maintain close relationships with friends. It's not necessary to share all your feelings, but keep a close relationship and he will be impressed by your friendliness.
- You have to be creative and constructive to keep a girl interested in you. Try to always be full of enthusiasm in living life.
- Never forget to call, even when he least expects it.
Warning
- When you say you have feelings for him, say it in person and not in text messages, texts, or anything like that. Say it by meeting in person to make it more personal.
- If the two of you end up in a romantic relationship, be careful because things might change. It can be a change from a friendly relationship.
