There are some men who have a reputation as land crocodiles, namely men who are never serious and just want to play with women. Even if a person's behavior is irreversible, you can give him a reason to be in a serious relationship. The best thing you can do to make a land crocodile fall in love is to respect yourself and refuse to take part in the game. Make him appreciate you by setting standards for yourself. Use the power of positivity to make him see that you are worthy.
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Part 1 of 3: Getting His Attention
Step 1. Beware
If you're in love with a land crocodile, chances are he's already talked to you and made you feel special. That's what land crocodiles do, and chances are you're not the only woman he treats that way.
Land crocodiles will try to impress you with their outward appearance, ego, and money. So try to get to know him on a more personal level
Step 2. Send drinks
Try sending drinks to his table, either at the coffee shop or at the bar. Make sure he knows that you sent the drink. The goal is to get him to approach you.
- When he approaches you to thank you, use the opportunity to chat.
- Don't let him talk about sex. Try talking about his friends or what activities he enjoys. Pay attention to what he's saying, and notice if he's starting to take the conversation in the wrong direction.
Step 3. Speak clearly
Instead of asking, be blunt. Tell me what you both have to do. Don't ask him if he wants to join you, tell him what to do together.
If you know he's free on a certain night, suggest going out alone. Try saying, "We should eat together, or maybe have a drink." Speak casually, and don't put any pressure on it
Step 4. Lure him by using the extra ticket
Buy two tickets to a concert or movie, and mention those extra tickets when chatting with him. Say, “I was supposed to go to the band this Saturday with my friend, but he can't. Interested?"
Be careful when fishing for land crocodiles in crowded places, especially bars. Just because he's approaching you doesn't mean he won't talk to other women
Step 5. Get him to ask you out
If you don't like being the invitee, make a gesture to let him know that you want to spend more time with him. Name a movie you'd like to see, or a club you'd like to visit.
Don't be too obvious. Let him think that this date was his idea
Part 2 of 3: Make Him Chase You
Step 1. Don't make him a priority
When a land crocodile makes plans, don't neglect whatever you're going to do just for his sake. If you already have plans of your own, don't cancel.
Let him know that you have another life and that you are going to enjoy your time with friends. If you cancel an appointment with a friend to see her, she will feel that you are in her hands and will quickly lose interest
Step 2. Make him wait
Sooner or later, land crocodiles will want to take you to the bedroom. For him, interaction with women only means one thing. Don't go along with it if you want it to be serious. Make him try.
- For example, if during the kiss he says he wants to go further, don't allow it. Say, “I don't want to sleep with you tonight, but it was fun. Call me sometime." Then, throw in a smile or wink, and off you go. Just make him want you.
- Don't sleep with him unless you're absolutely sure that you're ready to take that step. Remember that even if you've kept him waiting, he may still view you as a mere conquest. The land crocodile will not stop being a crocodile unless he is ready.
Step 3. Set the standard
If you want land crocodiles to think you have value, you have to believe that you have value. Respect yourself and show your worth in front of him.
Don't serve him talk when he calls in the middle of the night. If he calls again in the middle of the night, tell him he'd be more than welcome to call during the day. When he calls during the day, keep your word
Step 4. Step back a little
If you spend a few nights with him without a break, step back a little. You may not want to. Maybe you feel like everything will go smoothly if you always meet every night. However, this possibility is very small. You need to make him miss you when you're not with him.
- Don't be so focused on enjoying your time with him that you no longer pay attention to other aspects of your life.
- You don't have to ignore him, but you should give him a reason to look forward to your presence.
Step 5. Let him do his own thing
This may sound dangerous given its reputation, but it needs to be done. Maybe you'll feel the urge to check where he is or what he's doing to make sure he's not messing around behind your back. However, ignore the urge.
If you start calling her often or trying to fulfill every minute of her time, you will only push her away. He'll start to think you're "sticky" or "possessive." If you want him to come after you, give him space for that
Part 3 of 3: Get Him Seriously Committed
Step 1. Don't press it
Some men, especially those with the land crocodile label, don't want to feel pressured to commit. Don't try to convince him to move on to the next level.
Pressuring a man to commit will put you in a vulnerable position and give him a lot of strength in the relationship. If you want him to commit seriously, there has to be a balance of power
Step 2. Ask to meet his friends
If you've never met his friends, you should look for opportunities to do so. Plan a party and have him invite his friends over. If his friends come, appreciate it. If they don't come, this land crocodile guy probably doesn't think he wants to be in a long term relationship with you.
- Try to get to know his friends. Open your mind and show interest.
- If it turns out that you don't like his friends, but he insists on spending all his time with them, signal that you need his attention too. Don't force him to make choices, but make your needs clear.
Step 3. Remind him that you are valuable
If he wants a serious relationship with him, he must have his own will for it. He should really be enjoying his time with you and want to be with you. In addition, you should also do what you can to make him feel that way.
That doesn't mean you have to spend all your time and energy trying to please her. However, you should do your best to make him realize that you are special
Step 4. Don't talk about the relationship
Talking about the status of the relationship sometimes will actually damage it. Instead of worrying about whether he will commit to you, focus on enjoying your company.
Keep doing whatever you were doing when you started dating. Don't assume that once you're dating, your job is done. Try to keep each other happy. The more positive experiences you create, the more likely she is to commit to you
Step 5. Enjoy
Instead of focusing on ways to get him to commit, it's better to focus on creating a positive new experience. Do a lot of things together. Go watch something, play, and do silly things. Do not be too serious. Show the beauty in a happy relationship, then maybe he will want to be with you forever.
