In any marriage relationship, there will always be times when distance grows unnoticed and tension arises unsolicited. These situations are perfectly natural, especially when stress, fatigue, and lack of desire start to take their toll. Are you and your beloved husband stuck in a similar situation? Or do you just want to give a new breath to a relationship that is starting to feel worn out? Do not worry. In fact, restoring romance and improving the flow of communication in a marriage relationship is not as difficult as you think. Keep reading this article for tips!
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Part 1 of 3: Happy Husband
Step 1. Ask your partner on a date
For example, you could take her out to dinner, watch a movie at the cinema, or dance together. If you want, you can also take him on a picnic, have lunch together on the sidelines of the office break, or bike together on a relaxing weekend. Confirm that the two of you are dating! In other words, no one else can participate, including your children.
Choose a different look. Plan activities that allow you to look different than usual. For example, you could take your partner to a romantic dinner at a fancy restaurant, take a dance class, or attend a unique themed event. You can even take him swimming with you
Step 2. Plan a better sex life
A partner's sexual routine can change for many reasons and the truth is, maintaining a regular and positive sexual relationship is not as easy as you think. To keep the fire of romance burning, try planning the right time and way to have sex with your partner! If both of you are always tired from having sex at night, try to find another time that feels more appropriate.
- Invite your partner to shower together or have sex right before dinner.
- Please yourself. Be honest about what makes you orgasm, feel pain, or boredom. Think about what you want. Trust me, sometimes being unselfish will actually destroy the enjoyment of a sexual relationship.
- Ask your partner's wishes. Take turns satisfying each other's desires and desires.
- Set a date with your partner, and get him to plan every detail together (like candles, costumes, and other novelties).
- Composing a powerful plan increases your enthusiasm, you know!
- Stick to the plan! Don't make him born in vain.
Step 3. Touch the pair
Don't doubt the power of physical contact in building intimacy with your partner! Remember, physical contact isn't just about sexual intercourse! The truth is, there's a lot of physical intimacy you can both do outside of sex. For example, hug your partner when they need to calm down, just come out of the room, or even when they're not doing anything! Offer to massage his back or other parts of his body.
- Kiss your partner as he leaves and returns home.
- Care about each other's appearance. Offer to brush his hair, apply lotion to his skin, or put on his tie. Instead, ask your partner to help you zip up your shirt.
- Look your partner in the eye when you talk. In fact, eye contact is a very powerful form of sensory connection.
Step 4. Take your partner on a trip
Get out of the routine for a while with your partner! Take him on a weekend together or just one night if you're both really busy. Plan leisure activities that are relaxed and non-binding.
- If you or your partner always drive your own car every day, try choosing transportation that allows both of you to relax, such as a train or plane. If you want, you can even ask him to stay at a local hotel and go there on foot.
- Invite your partner to reminisce. For example, take your partner on vacation to places that hold good memories of the two of you. No need to ask him to do the exact same activities as before! Instead, focus on the activities that you both enjoy the most. Be nostalgic, but still create new memories with your partner.
Part 2 of 3: Building More Positive Interactions
Step 1. Share the things you like and appreciate about your partner
Showing your gratitude to your partner can strengthen your relationship in an instant! Try to think of things that have made you appreciate your partner: his character, his actions, his behavior towards you, etc. Once you've found it, find an appropriate time to express your gratitude and thanks to him. If necessary, structure your words first to make them sound more structured.
- Learn to always thank your partner, especially after he has done positive things for you.
- Don't just say thank you. Enrich your acknowledgment by describing the positive qualities that make him such a good person.
- Instead of simply saying, “Thank you, for dinner. It's really delicious!" Try saying, "Thank you for making me dinner. You know what, I'm angry because I'm hungry and tired. Besides your cooking is very good, it turns out that you are also super caring, huh!"
- Compliment your partner. Believe me, even simple compliments and flattery can increase the intensity of the relationship in an instant, you know.
Step 2. Spend time with your partner
Always take the time to show your partner care and concern. At least, set aside an hour each week to date with your partner without any distractions and anyone. For example, you can take your partner to lunch, take an afternoon walk, or just lie on the couch together after putting the kids to bed.
Avoid some subjects that you both often talk about such as work, children, health problems, financial problems, etc. Instead, spend some quality time with the two of you talking about more intimate things like your and your partner's hobbies, the news of the day, or other topics that don't relate to the two of you on a daily basis
Step 3. Invite your partner to do new things
Take creative classes and get your partner to learn new skills together. For example, take language lessons, cook, or even dance together! Invite him to visit places he's never been before. If there's a date idea that hasn't materialized yet, now's the perfect time to make it happen! The novelty in the relationship will make you both feel younger and born again. Usually, that's when you will see a new side of your partner, and vice versa.
Have fun. Remember, couples who are always having fun and laughing together have the potential to have a more lasting marital relationship. Therefore, do not hesitate to invite your partner in a joke, throw a ball at him when he is not looking at you, and make jokes in front of him
Step 4. Limit criticism and advice
Sometimes, you can see things that your partner doesn't see. In addition, sometimes partners do something negative unintentionally. Whatever the situation, try to minimize the criticism you make in one day. Before criticizing your partner, try to think, "Is that criticism really that important to say right now?"
When your partner complains about something, listen to his complaints carefully. Show your sympathy instead of trying to give advice. Give advice, perspective, or advice only when your partner asks for it. Beyond that, you should still prioritize the role of a good listener
Step 5. Bring back what you think is missing from the relationship
In other words, try getting your partner to do things you miss! If you feel that communication between the two of you is starting to dwindle, try having a more intense conversation with him. If the two of you are traveling together less and less, try taking her out on a trip without waiting to be invited. After that, it is likely that he will be compelled to do the same.
- If he remains passive afterward, try to encourage him to contribute more actively. For example, if you've always been taking family photos on vacation and as a result, your face almost never appears in family portraits, try giving your partner the camera and asking him or her to do the task.
- Take the initiative before asking or asking. Convey your frustration only when the first two steps don't work, but make sure you do it calmly and in control.
Part 3 of 3: Rebuilding Trust
Step 1. Get your partner to communicate after the betrayal
If one party does something that ends up breaking the other's trust, make sure you both communicate it clearly. Share your feelings about the betrayal without trying to influence your partner's reaction.
To make it easier for you, try to get all the complaints out in a letter
Step 2. Express your apology, or ask your partner to apologize
If you both agree to rebuild trust in the relationship, the first step is to apologize and forgive. If it was you who betrayed him, convey your apologies. Emphasize where the fault lies and your understanding that the situation has hurt him. Also explain why the situation went wrong, and promise not to do it again.
If your partner betrays your trust, make it clear that he or she should sincerely apologize. If he hasn't or isn't ready to do it, it means he doesn't really love you anymore
Step 3. Share your concerns
If the apology has come from the mouth of the guilty party, take advantage of the situation to open the door for discussion. Don't hesitate to communicate painful situations. Don't just focus on the negative details, but make sure you both agree on what really happened, why the situation happened, and why it hurt.
Step 4. Set a common goal
Write down the various goals you want to achieve in the relationship, and ask your partner to do the same. After that, both of you will probably realize that there are changes that need to be made in the relationship. Remember, efforts to rebuild trust in a relationship can strengthen and deepen the intensity of your relationship with your partner.
If it turns out that your goals are different, try to compromise to realize all of those goals. For example, if your partner wants to spend more time together and you want the opposite, try a compromise by specifying some special days to spend with your partner and some special days that you two can spend separately
Step 5. Invite your partner to go to couples counseling
Try finding a counselor or therapist who specializes in couples problems. If issues of infidelity also arise in your relationship, try finding a therapist who specializes in marital problems. If your partner refuses your invitation, don't hesitate to do it alone.
