The question of whether someone will accept your kiss can be troubling, but it doesn't have to be that way. If you know what to pay attention to in a person's conversation and body language, you'll be able to tell how well he or she is receiving you and whether or not he wants to kiss you back. Often women's communication is not as subtle as men's, they use body language (which is sometimes very subtle) rather than words or real body movements. So, read on for a bit of insight into women's minds and when it's best to take action.
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Part 1 of 3: Reading Conversations
Step 1. Pay attention to how he communicates with you in conversation
There's no specific sign that someone wants to be kissed, but you can watch how he reacts in conversation and how he interacts with you to see if he's going to take your kiss.
- Does he keep looking into your eyes? If he looks you straight in the eye and continues to watch over you, this is a sign that at least he's really into the conversation. Also pay attention to whether or not his eyes widen when he looks at you. Often when he sees something he likes, a person's pupils dilate and his eyes dilate slightly.
- Does he smile and laugh? If he smiles and laughs sincerely at the right times during the conversation, it means he's enjoying the conversation. But that doesn't mean you can smell it right away, although this is a good sign.
- Does he keep glancing at your lips? If so, it might be a sign that he's thinking about kissing you. But it could also be that he has a habit of glancing into the mouth of the interlocutor who is talking.
Step 2. Pay attention to his enthusiasm during the conversation
If you pay attention, it's usually easy to tell how he feels about his relationship with you.
- If he looks bored or anxious while on a date with you, it's most likely a sign he doesn't feel ready to be kissed.
- If he's enthusiastic about a date and suggests going somewhere else to extend the time--coffee, sightseeing, etc.--this is a good sign that he's enjoying your date and may want to welcome your goodnight kiss.
Step 3. Notice how he is in your conversation
Often you can tell how he feels about your date by what they talk about.
- If he's actively engaged in conversation and asking questions aimed at getting to know you better, it's a sign that he's interested in you and may be starting to feel something for you.
- If he talks too much about himself, doesn't pay attention to your comments, or just sits idly by, he's not really interested.
- If the conversation leads to something intimate, it often means that you are both comfortable and may also be attracted to each other.
Part 2 of 3: Reading Body Language
Step 1. Read the posture
Pay attention to how he behaves when you are with him.
- If he turns his body toward you (shoulders, chest and legs), leans forward and keeps his arms open instead of crossed, these are all positive body language cues.
- An open posture, while a good sign, should also be considered as a purely positive sign. A woman may give you an open posture because she is being friendly, rather than wanting to be romantically involved with you.
- If he's close enough to touch and/or leans frequently toward you, this could be an indicator that he's very interested--just make sure he's not leaning over so he can hear you more clearly.
Step 2. See how he reacts to your touch
Pay close attention to how he reacts when you gently touch his arm or hand.
- If he tenses up or pulls away, it means he's not comfortable yet and you shouldn't kiss him.
- If he's blushing, giggling, or smiling, it means he's comfortable with you and may want to welcome your kiss.
- If he seems reluctant to break up or clings to you when you have to say goodbye, he may also be interested in you.
Step 3. Ask
If you can't tell how he's feeling from his gestures or body language, you can ask.
Asking her permission before assuming she wants to be kissed can show you appreciate her and you can know what to do
Part 3 of 3: Taking Action
Step 1. Move closer
If his body language and reactions to conversations seem positive, you can start to approach him and prepare to kiss him.
- If you give the right signals, he can pick up on them and reciprocate so that the kiss happens naturally and doesn't feel awkward or unexpected.
- The first thing to do when trying to kiss is to move closer. If you are sitting, position your feet so that your feet touch his.
- If you are standing, stand close to him and reach or touch his hand.
- If he backs off when you try to get closer or pulls away from your touch, it means he doesn't want to make out.
Step 2. Send the right signal
At this point you've focused on his body language and now it's time to give him a chance to read your body language.
- Look into his eyes gently and shift your gaze from his left eye to his right eye then to his mouth and back again, pausing in between. Most people can understand this cue as a desire to kiss.
- Do it slowly. Allowing time for moments and conversations can give way to romantic moments between the two of you if he's interested. So if you two are walking, walk slowly. Let the conversation slow down a bit but stay close to him and maintain eye contact.
- If he doesn't return your eye contact or looks like he wants to move away, it could mean that he's read your signal and is now signaling you that he doesn't want to be kissed.
Step 3. Lean in to kiss
If at this point he responds positively to your body language and signals, you can kiss him.
- Get closer to him and open your lips slightly, looking into his mouth and eyes.
- If he does the same thing, looks into your eyes, your lips, then back into your eyes again, don't waste the chance, kiss him right away.
- If he seems clumsy, tries to walk away or shifts the conversation to something safer, recognize that he's not ready and don't push it.
Step 4. React calmly
Whether you succeed in kissing him or not, react calmly.
- If you do manage to kiss him, look him in the eye, smile, and continue doing what you two were doing before. Don't be overly excited or too flashy--you may look childish or overly passionate and both of these can smother the romance.
- If you can't smell it, don't panic or fire a beard. To be sure, don't get angry or be rude. You can pretend nothing happened and continue what you two were doing or smile a little and apologize.
Warning
- If a girl doesn't want to be kissed, don't force her. Respect what he wants and feels.
- Don't go too far by grabbing body parts without permission.
- Don't take it to heart if your attempts to kiss fail. Sometimes the moment isn't right, sometimes it's because he's in a bad mood, and sometimes there are other factors beyond your control. Just accept it and don't get caught up in this failure.
