For some people, romantic conversations can be a little scary, even though they should be fun. Romantic conversations have to be comfortable to be enjoyed. You can even insert naughty words while chatting with him. There are a few tips you can follow to improve your ability to have romantic conversations. Having a romantic conversation with your partner will strengthen the bond between the two of you, and rekindle the love you feel.
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Method 1 of 3: Talking and Responding
Step 1. Ask open-ended questions
As with any conversation, the best way to ensure that the conversation continues is to ask open-ended questions. Ask questions that require more than "yes" and "no" answers to keep your partner interested in continuing the conversation. You can also ask certain questions to strengthen the bond of love. Try asking the following questions:
- "What do you think a perfect day looks like, anyway?"
- "What, three things in common between us?"
- "Do you have a dream that hasn't come true yet? If so, what dream?"
Step 2. Confess what's funny to your partner
Once you start the conversation by asking romantic questions, you can increase your closeness to continue the romantic conversation. One good way to increase intimacy is to admit funny things about your feelings. This cute thing serves to convey something romantic without needing to overdo it. Make sure what you admit is light and romantic. For example:
- "Eh, I'll admit it. I've wanted to hold your hand since we first met."
- "So, I've always been curious, that's a scar on your knee, how did you get it?"
- "Wow, your perfume smells really good. I like it."
Step 3. Keep the conversation positive
When you chat with him, make sure the topic of conversation is light and positive. Discussing money, work, or problems in the relationship will spoil the romantic atmosphere. Instead, try to focus on positive topics, such as the future, what you like about your partner, and the intimate aspects of the relationship.
- Tell your partner about your goals and dreams, and ask them to share their goals and dreams.
- Focus on showing your "excellence" in the conversation. Are you friendly, a loyal listener, honest, accepting the person for who they are, or a hard worker? Whatever your positive traits are, try to find opportunities to show them.
Step 4. Use the pronoun "I/I" when chatting
The use of the pronoun "I/I" has been shown to help smooth the conversation if the chat starts to stop. Try telling surprising facts about yourself to interest your partner.
For example, when the conversation starts to stop, you can say "Hey, someday, I want to go to Labuan Bajo."
Step 5. Tell a story
Good stories can help you connect with other people, so choose your best stories to share with your partner. Choose a story about your life, such as how you moved to the city you live in, why you chose your current college major, or how you met your best friend.
Step 6. Cut your partner's words to agree with what he or she is saying
However, you should not cut off his words. You may pause what he is saying to show your agreement or understanding of what he is saying.
For example, if he's talking about a band he likes, you could cut him off for a moment to say "Uh, yeah, I like that too," and then let him continue the conversation
Step 7. Show appreciation
Showing appreciation for your partner's experience can also be a good way to enhance the romance in a conversation. Make sure you appreciate your partner's interests and accomplishments while chatting.
For example, if your partner mentions something he or she likes or a recent accomplishment, say "Wow, that's great!" or "That's cool!"
Step 8. Give sympathy to your partner
Sometimes, your partner may tell you something bad, or a difficult thing he or she has faced in the past. When your partner starts talking about it, make sure you listen and sympathize.
For example, if your partner is pouring their heart out about their difficulties, you might say "Wow, that's hard," or "Oh, I'm sorry."
Method 2 of 3: Using Body Language
Step 1. Show your confidence
To have a romantic conversation, you need to trust yourself and your relationship. Make sure your partner knows how you feel. Also, give your partner a chance to express his feelings. When you start a romantic conversation, you need to be open and comfortable. If you start a conversation but hold back too much, your partner will feel the discomfort and may feel uncomfortable too.
- Avoid aggressive body language, such as closed arms or too much hand movement.
- Try to maintain warm body language by placing your arms next to your body, and speaking facing your partner.
- Smile at your partner to show that you enjoy chatting with them.
Step 2. Give your partner all your attention
Make sure your words and body language convey the message you want to give him. Even if you say the most romantic thing in the world, your partner will not feel it if you say it while looking at the food menu.
Make sure you give your partner your full attention. Don't look around the room or shake, as your partner will think you're uncomfortable or uninterested in them
Step 3. Make eye contact
Eye contact is one of the best ways to increase intimacy without the need for words. Make sure you maintain eye contact when your partner is talking to you, as well as when you are talking to him or her.
Step 4. Hold your partner's hand every now and then
Touch is an important factor to increase the closeness between two people. Make sure you and your partner make physical contact while chatting.
For example, you can hold your partner's hand, or stroke his arm when he talks to you
Method 3 of 3: Making a Romantic Impression
Step 1. Make sure you take care of your appearance
Apparently, appearance is an important factor in determining attraction. This means that if you take care of your appearance, your partner will be more likely to be attracted to you. Before having a romantic conversation, do the following:
- Exercise.
- Eat healthy food.
- Take a shower.
- Style your hair.
- Brush your teeth.
- Wear appropriate clothing.
Step 2. Light a candle, or use a candle without a flame
Dim light is a good way to create a romantic atmosphere before starting to chat. If you're on a date, go to a dimly lit restaurant and provide candles. If you're at home, light a few candles or use a candle without a flame to start a romantic mood.
Step 3. Play soft music
Music can be a good way to make a romantic impression, as long as it doesn't interrupt the conversation. Choose music without lyrics, and lower the volume. Some music that is suitable to start a romantic impression include:
- classical music
- soft jazz
- new age
- sounds of nature
Step 4. Offer chocolate to your partner
Since ancient times, chocolate is known as a romantic food, and can increase romantic feelings. Eating chocolate, especially dark chocolate, can provoke feelings of euphoria. Provide high-quality chocolate, and take it out when you start chatting.
Tips
- Be yourself. Don't let him love you fake!
- Don't be afraid of silence if there's really nothing to talk about. Silence is always better than empty talk. Try saying "Wow, it feels good to spend time with you, even though we don't talk much".
