Whether it's a friendly kiss on the cheek or a passionate kiss while making out, kissing is one of life's greatest natural pleasures. While a good kiss can increase the sense of intimacy and love you have for your partner, a bad kiss can potentially be a blow to the mood when it comes to romance. But don't panic - Even the most inexperienced of people has the potential to become masters of the art of lip-locking. Read this article to find out how.
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Part 1 of 4: Arranging a Kiss
Step 1. Prep your lips
Keep your lips relaxed and open slightly to let your partner know that you are ready for a kiss.
- Avoid puckering or puckering them, as this will send the wrong message and make kissing physically difficult.
- Prevent dryness with chapstick or by lightly licking your lips. Ladies, try using chapstick or lip balm instead of lip gloss, because lip gloss can be sticky, whereas chapstick can make your lips super soft, shiny and delicious.
Step 2. Freshen your breath
The importance of good oral hygiene cannot be underestimated when it comes to kissing, as poor oral hygiene is a pretty bad dissipation of interest. To avoid having bad breath when you give a kiss, remember to clean and brush your teeth before your date and keep a small pack of mints with you all night, so you can quickly pop a mint in your mouth when things start to heat up..
- If you're going out on a dinner date, try to get rid of anything sharp or smelly -- avoid foods like cheese, fish, raw onions, or anything with a lot of garlic.
- Don't overuse mint refreshment-you don't want your mouth to feel like you've just swallowed a tube of toothpaste!
- You can also chew fruit-flavored gum if you ask for it's not your favourite.
- If you don't have mint or gum, go to the bathroom and rinse your mouth to help freshen your breath.
Step 3. Set the mood
Let your partner know that you want to kiss him by maintaining eye contact and smiling. Be a little flirty, and remove the 'touch barrier'. Touch barrier is when you and your partner never actually make physical contact. Remove barriers by placing your hand on his or her arm when you laugh, holding hands, or rubbing your knees with your partner's knees when you're sitting.
- If you're in the middle of a conversation, slow down and lower your voice a little to signal that you're ready to stop talking and start kissing.
- Some people get so nervous before their first kiss with a new partner that they end up talking too much to fill the silence. Avoid doing this as it can ruin the moment and make your partner lose interest.
Step 4. Believe in yourself
Being calm and confident can give your kissing skills the boost it needs. Confidence is very attractive, so tell yourself that the kiss you're about to get is going to be awesome-even if it's your first kiss.
- Don't be afraid to practice your kissing technique on something like your hand or a pillow. You can also try licking a lollipop or eating an ice cream cone so the muscles and nerves in your lips and mouth can get used to the movements you'll be making when you French kiss.
- It takes courage to put yourself in that position and kiss, so muster up as much courage as you can.
Step 5. Lean in for a kiss
When you're ready and you think it's the right moment, take a step closer to your partner and lean in for a kiss. If you want to add to the romance, you can do something intimate like touching your partner's face or brushing the hair from their eyes before you lean in.
- Watch your partner as you lean back to determine whether you should tilt your head to the left or to the right. Remember to move your head in a different direction from your partner's direction. However, don't stare at your partner, just briefly check to see where they are tilting their head.
- You should also tilt your head back slightly and center your lips and look forward to avoid banging your foreheads together.
Step 6. Close your eyes
Sometimes in the nervousness leading up to the first kiss, you can forget to close your eyes. This is bad for two reasons: first, it probably means you're on a lot of thoughts. Closing your eyes allows you to relax, let go of your inhibitions and just enjoy the moment that you are.
- Second, if your partner opens their eyes while kissing and sees you looking directly back at them, that will be a bit scary and possibly crush the romance.
- A warning-don't close your eyes until after you've found your partner's lips, otherwise you'll likely bump into your forehead, nose, or chin.
Part 2 of 4: Perfecting a Kiss With Closed Lips
Step 1. Start slowly
To start your kiss, keep your mouth closed. You don't want to rush your partner or seem overly excited. Start with a few slow, gentle, long kisses on your partner's lips at a time.
Keep it interesting by repositioning your lips between each kiss. Tilt your head a little more to the left or a little more to the right, or switch sides completely so that your head is now tilted in the opposite direction from before
Step 2. Look into your partner's eyes between kisses
After the first kiss, step back a little and look at your partner. This will allow you to do two things. First, you will be able to judge if they like the kiss and you should keep doing it.
Second, you can take moments to elevate your romance by looking into your partner's eyes and making small gestures, such as placing your hand behind his neck and getting your partner closer for the next kiss (if that seems to be what he wants)
Step 3. Consider putting your arms around your partner
Kissing is an intimate experience, while leaning in for a kiss is normal at first, standing some distance away with only your lips touching can be thought to be a little awkward. When your partner has accepted your kiss, move closer and make more physical contact. The steps to do this include:
- Wrap your arms around your shoulders (women) or waist (men).
- Put your hands behind his neck to deepen the kiss.
- Move your hand through her hair.
- Push each other so that there is little space between the two of you.
Step 4. Don't forget to breathe
Since your mouth is being used, you will need to breathe through your nose when kissing. If you're not getting enough air that way, then pull your face away from your partner every now and then to catch your breath.
Part 3 of 4: Perfecting a Kiss With an Open Mouth
Step 1. Open your mouth slightly
When you've been kissing without a tongue for a while, it's time to take it to the next level. Lock lips with your partner so that your partner's lower lip is between your lips, and then open your mouth slightly to indicate that you are ready to French kiss.
Of course, don't open your mouth too wide where it's like you're swallowing your partner's face. However, open your mouth gently and seductively
Step 2. Continue kissing with your mouth open but without your tongue for a while
Before you start a French kiss, spend some time kissing with your mouth open to slowly ease your path towards a more passionate kiss.
If you're having trouble finding your kissing rhythm, try saying the word "peaches" (but definitely don't say it too loudly); this will help you to find a rhythm with your partner. You can also try saying the word "ma"
Step 3. Use a small part of the tongue
Starting gently the first time, move your tongue into the front of your partner's mouth. Avoid immediately pressing your tongue too far in your partner's mouth, as this can instantly quench his interest. Move your tongue in a slow, flowing motion around your partner's tongue and allow them to reply before continuing any further.
- Start by gently touching the tip of your tongue to the tip of your partner's tongue.
- Pay attention to your partner's movements. Being a good kisser is all about being in sync with your partner and finding a rhythm that works for both of you. If they start to pull away, pull your tongue out too.
Step 4. Use a little more tongue
If both of you are comfortable with a deep kiss, you can move your tongue deeper into your partner's mouth and start massaging their tongue with yours. Slow, comforting movements with your tongue can be exciting and will help you deepen the kiss. Allow your tongue to explore your partner's mouth and make a circle around your partner's tongue. However, there are a few things you should try to avoid when the kiss starts to deepen.
- Don't try to push your tongue deep into your partner's mouth. This can cause your partner an unpleasant sensation such as choking.
- Don't push your tongue in and out of your partner's mouth. Slow, gentle movements will be much more intimate than a fan of wild tongue piercing your partner's face.
- Don't use your tongue so much that you're basically licking your partner's face. Wet kisses are usually found to be runny, so try to avoid getting saliva on your partner's face or lips.
Step 5. Match your partner's kissing style
Part of being a great kisser is being able to adapt to your partner's preferred kissing style. Try something different when you kiss your partner and see how they react. For example, you could try using more tongue, or 'tongue wrestling' with your partner's tongue.
It's important to remember that everyone has a different kissing style. It may take a minute for you to find a rhythm with your partner, but remember that they are watching your movements too. Kissing is a duet, not a single
Step 6. Try not to bang your teeth
One thing that can make the romance go away a little from kissing is the grinding of teeth together. When making out, try to keep your teeth out of the way by tilting them at you at different angles. Don't open your mouth too wide, or it may become easier to accidentally bang your teeth.
Step 7. Consider sucking your partner's lower lip
Try gently (pressing gently) biting or sucking your partner's lower or upper lip. When done right, this can be a huge turn-on for your partner.
If your straw is pulling your partner's lips away from his face, you're probably sucking too hard. Keep your straws soft and pleasant, rather than strong or intense
Step 8. Use your hands
Gently place your hands on your partner's waist, shoulders, face or neck if yours are not already there. When things get hotter, hold your partner tighter and move your hands from one body part to another. Using your hand on your partner's shoulder or neck, you can communicate things like "come closer" "I like that" or "again".
- Increase the intensity of the situation by placing your hand on the back of your partner's head and holding his hair. You can also run your hands along your partner's spine.
- However, don't hold your partner too tightly like they feel trapped. Let go if your partner starts to back down or moves away. Never touch your partner without their consent. Stay away from the "swimsuit" area until you know your partner wants you to touch them there.
Step 9. Create something different
Being a good kisser isn't about doing everything perfectly -- it can get a little mechanical. Sometimes it's good to bring something a little different into the kissing session, something that surprises your partner (in a good sense) and makes them want more.
- Try licking the center of your partner's open lips with your tongue, or using your tongue to gently touch the roof of his mouth. They may see this as impossible, but it's very sexy.
- Try breathing in from your mouth rather than your nose when your lips are closed together -- as if you were taking their breath into your body. It can be very intimate -- as long as it's not overused.
- Try a tail kiss to your partner's ear and gently suck the earlobe (be careful with the earrings!).
Step 10. Kiss other parts of your partner's body
Being a kisser also includes being able to kiss your partner anywhere other than their lips. After you've been making out for a while, allow your mouth to wander. Leave kisses along your partner's face and under your partner's neck or shoulders (if your partner's shoulders are exposed).
Make sure you don't leave saliva on your partner's neck. Keep kisses like this dry but intimate
Step 11. Be passionate
The more excited you are about the kiss, the more excited your partner will be. You have to be completely in the moment and try to avoid allowing your mind to think about other things. Allow yourself to relax, and don't spend all your time thinking about what your partner is thinking - just go with the flow and have fun!
If your phone rings, don't pick up. It will make your partner think you are not interested in the kiss. Focus completely on your partner and what is going on between the two of you
Part 4 of 4: Kissing in an Unromantic Way
Step 1. Decide when and where to kiss this person
Unromantic kisses are suitable for friends and family members who care deeply. This type of kiss is appropriate for the cheeks, hands and forehead at any given time.
In many cultures, it is appropriate to kiss a friend or family member once or twice on the cheek when greeting or parting ways. A kiss on the forehead is usually more romantic in nature, and is appropriate for lovers, close friends, and/or ex-lover
Step 2. Pinch your lips
For a friendly kiss, you should always keep your lips pursed and completely dry. Wet kisses can be very unpleasant, so be sure to wipe your mouth beforehand if necessary!
Ladies, if you use lipstick or gloss, it might be a good idea to wipe it off your lips with a washcloth beforehand (unless, of course, you're intentionally trying to leave a kiss mark on someone's cheek)
Step 3. Approach for a kiss
Be sure to keep kisses short and sweet to avoid sending the wrong message or making the other person feel uncomfortable.
Avoid lingering, unless you expect this unromantic kiss to turn into something more
Tips
- relax. Kissing should be an enjoyable activity. The more relaxed and confident you feel, the better the kiss will be.
- Fully present. If you're bored, distracted, or overly nervous, it will make it difficult to send passionate kisses. If you are passionate, your partner will too.
- Just like any other skill, French kissing takes practice. The more experience you have, the less nervous you will feel and the more you will learn about how to satisfy your partner.
- Mint candy is your best friend. Take one about 10 minutes before the date ends. Avoid chewing gum because your partner doesn't want to taste it in your mouth.
- The best way to keep your lips soft to kiss constantly is to stay properly hydrated and exfoliate your lips at regular intervals using a toothbrush or loofah sponge.
