You finally got a girlfriend. So what's the next step? As with whatever date you want, the goal remains the same, which is to have fun but with a little bit of romance. As long as you are considerate of what your boyfriend likes and can plan your date well, you should be able to have a successful date.
Step 1. Choose the date activity
Generally, someone who invites other people on a date already has a plan of what activities will be done later. But, there's nothing wrong (in fact it's good) to ask and ask for input from the person you're dating. If you don't really know what your partner likes, it might be a good idea to choose an activity that most people generally enjoy. That way you will most likely still be able to have fun together. Try some of these places and activities:
- Walk around the city like a tourist. Take a walk in a beautiful park, visit a museum you've never been to, or try a theme park that has beautiful views.
- Watch movies together. Choose a popular movie. Usually, romantic comedies or action films are better choices than overly serious dramas or horror films.
- Look for concerts or venues that have live music. This place could be a restaurant, coffee shop, bar, or maybe an outdoor concert.
- Eating alone in a restaurant, ice cream parlor, coffee shop, or bar is never wrong either.
- Go to the playground like Ancol. Usually there must be at least one place or ride that is suitable for the two of you.
Step 2. Plan an adventure
If you think your boyfriend would appreciate something more adventurous, you have many options. Doing something a little crazy and spooky together is a quirky but great way to have fun, bond, and get to know each other better. Just make sure that what you're doing is safe and can still be handled. Here are some ideas you can use.
- Playgrounds must have challenging rides such as roller coasters.
- Head to the recreational pool and slide down the big slide.
- Try doing adventure sports together. Skiing, snowboarding, surfing, kayaking, snorkelling, rock climbing, and cave expeditions are some great examples of adventure sports you can do.
- If you like to feel the adrenaline rush, try skydiving or bungee jumping.
- Rent a mountain bike and explore the available routes.
- Look for something different that you've never tried. Simple things like learning to dance, cooking dishes from other countries, learning to style hair, and so on can be interesting activities. Adventure doesn't have to be physically demanding. Sometimes artistic, intellectual, or musical adventures can also appeal to you and your partner.
Step 3. Make your date romantic
If you want your date to be "sweet" from start to finish, make sure you and your partner have enough time together so that you have space and time to increase your affection for each other. Finding a beautiful place and the right time is the key factor to achieve that. So, find a place in your date area that is really beautiful and make sure the activities you do there won't leave you dirty and sweaty. Try some of these ideas.
- Take a walk by the beach, lake, or river. Anything natural water is a great place for all things romantic. It would be even better if the place had extra things like a stone bridge that you can use to cross the river, or a boat that you can rent together.
- Book tickets for a play or show. It would be better if the drama or show is about romance and has a happy ending. If you don't like watching plays or shows, go to a planetarium or some other place where you can spend some time alone in the dark.
- Take a walk in historical places such as temples or monuments. It would be even better if around the place there were recreational facilities such as cafes, shops, and places to buy souvenirs.
Step 4. Dating safely
Especially for a first date, plan it in such a way that you and your partner both feel safe and comfortable. This means not choosing places or activities that are too intimate and personal.
- Meet in a public place such as a movie theater, mall, or restaurant. Make sure the place is well lit and there are people other than you around. A moonlit beach at night is romantic, but it's a good idea to start your date in an unsolved beach area.
- Make sure you can handle your own transportation problems. Even if he or she will offer to drop you off, make sure you have a friend or family member who can pick you up, or know a public transport route just in case something happens.
- Prepare money. Even though you may be treated by your boyfriend, always have money ready just in case. You may need it for fare home, or to buy something else that is personal, or for other emergencies.
- Be careful and wise when drinking, especially alcoholic beverages. For safety, drink a drink that you know how it tastes like. Don't let anyone put anything in your drink without your knowledge.
- If you live in or are going to visit a hostel or boarding house, make sure to keep the bedroom door open. An open door will keep you and your boyfriend from feeling isolated in the room and prevent malicious intent.
Step 5. Home dating
Inviting someone to your house is something that can be considered quite intimate because it means that people will get to know you better by seeing what is in your living room and home. But for people who prefer to spend the night in peace, their own house is the best choice. If you are ready to invite your partner to come to your house, prepare and plan the following things.
- Make sure your house is clean. If your boyfriend walks in and sees a dirty house, he may become uncomfortable with you. A dirty, untidy, and smelly living space can discourage other people from hanging out with you. On the other hand, a clean and tidy home shows that you care about those around you, including other people, and that you are a person who is proud and can take care of what you have.
- Create a romantic atmosphere. Make sure the lighting in your room is soft enough and not too bright. Also make sure your home layout is quite good and makes guests who come feel comfortable. To make the atmosphere more romantic, you can set the right music in a less loud voice.
- Be careful not to overdo anything. Too dim lights, too romantic music, and anything else that could be suggestive might not be a great approach to your boyfriend's first visit to your house.
- Plan the activities. Prepare several movies or videos to watch together, or video games that you can play together. If one or both of you can cook, try cooking together.
- Knows how to start a conversation. If there's something in your house that's interesting or has a story to tell, start the conversation from there. You may even have a lot to tell about your home, from the things in it, to even the history of the buildings and land in which you live.
- Be careful if you want to invite him into your bedroom. Being too "aggressive" by inviting your boyfriend into your room can be too much for your boyfriend. There's nothing wrong with taking her to your room if you don't intend to do anything bad. But if she feels uncomfortable, it's better to move to another room.
Part 1 of 2: Deciding Where to Eat
Step 1. Choose a place to eat
You can always have a successful and fun date if you do it at any restaurant (it doesn't have to be fancy and expensive). Eating at a coffee shop or an ice cream parlor can also be an activity that leads to a successful and enjoyable date.
- You may want to choose a place you've been to or a place that people you know have visited and recommended. This is normal because you don't want your date to be ruined by going to an overpriced restaurant, poor service, or bad food.
- Check the menu and food prices. Now you can search menus and prices for almost any restaurant on the internet and on mobile applications. In addition, websites and mobile applications also provide review features from previous visitors. This will certainly make it easier for you to make choices and avoid things that make you or your partner feel uncomfortable when dating.
- Be prepared to treat or pay for your boyfriend's meals if you're the one asking and arranging the date.
Step 2. Match the feel of the restaurant to that of your date
If you spend time kayaking in the sea, try eating at a santi place. Eating at regular food stalls or picnic food sold around the beach can be a more appropriate choice than going to expensive seafood restaurants.
- If you are a fairly active person, a picnic can also be an option. Bring some picnic food and drinks like wine to top it off.
- While casual dining can be a great option, avoid fast food restaurants as much as possible. When dating at a restaurant, you should prioritize the originality of the food, not the price. Take your girlfriend to a different and special place. You don't want your boyfriend to tell you that one of his dates last weekend was eating at McDonald's.
Step 3. Cook at home
There's nothing more romantic than preparing and cooking your own meal with your girlfriend. If you just want a date at home, cooking together is a great way to make your boyfriend feel special. In addition, having cooking skills will certainly impress your girlfriend. Just make sure you know what you're cooking and how, and can vouch for the taste.
- You don't have to make a complete meal from appetizer to dessert. Just prepare and cook something that is not just heated with oil. Make something quality and it takes a process. Sometimes cooking together can be fun and romantic.
- Pasta dishes can be a great option because they are quick, easy, and inexpensive.
Part 2 of 2: Planning the End of Your Date
Step 1. Don't forget dessert
You can order dessert at the same restaurant you eat at, or look elsewhere in your area. Dating like whatever you were doing at the time, it would be better if it was complemented by something sweet at the end. It may seem trivial, but this little touch can show that you really planned this date very neatly. And hey, maybe you guys can feed each other cakes like you see in movies.
- Buying ice cream is a never-ending way to end a date in the heat (unless your boyfriend hates ice cream).
- If you go on a date at home and cook together, make something with chocolate.
- If your boyfriend doesn't like sweet foods, drinks can also be an alternative.
- Sometimes a person cannot eat certain desserts for their own reasons, such as diabetes, allergies, sensitivity to certain foods, or other conditions. If your boyfriend is like that, be flexible and adjust to him.
Step 2. Finish well
The ending of a date is usually a bit awkward if you don't plan it well. Therefore, make preparations and plans beforehand. Are you going to split up after dinner? Are you going to drive your girlfriend home after eating dessert? Think of all the possibilities so you can avoid awkward moments that could slightly tarnish your date.
- If you take her home, is your house "ready" to show it off? Make sure your home is clean and tidy before considering asking your boyfriend to come over to your house.
- End the date on a good note. Ending a date at the right moment is a tricky trick. Generally this is decided based on logic, for example, if your midnight movie is up, offer to take him home because it's getting late.
Step 3. Follow the flow
If something untoward happens, stay calm and keep trying to keep your date as successful and enjoyable as possible. Someone who is inflexible, looks stressed, and puts on an irritated face just because he encountered something unexpected usually won't be successful in dating. Instead of stress, try to deal with the unexpected creatively, because it will give you more value.