Chatting with the girl you like is not easy, and the pressure is even greater when you want to chat with her on Facebook. Fortunately, Facebook is a versatile platform that allows you to share photos, find out more about what he's interested in, and interact with other users, both openly and privately. With Messenger or his posts/posts on his wall, you can deepen your relationship with him and start an ongoing chat.
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Part 1 of 2: Chat with him Via Messenger
Step 1. Talk about things you have mutual interest in
There's a good chance you'll want to chat with him because there's something you like about him. Talk about things you both share an interest in in order to connect with them in more depth.
You could say, “Oh, you see you're wearing a Ramones shirt in your profile picture. I love that band too! What's your favorite album?"
Step 2. Ask about him
Usually, people like to talk about themselves and everyone will appreciate being a good listener. Try asking questions to get to know him better.
Asking Friendly Questions
Check his profile for things he likes.
Look for places he's been or bands, movies, sports, and food he likes. Think of a question he could ask for each thing he's interested in, like “I've never been to Italy before! What's your favorite city?" or "I'm not a baseball fan, but could you tell me a little bit about your favorite sport."
Make sure the tone of the conversation is light and friendly.
If you're just starting a conversation with him, start with a warm greeting. You can say, “Hi! This may sound strange, but I saw your photo on Mount Bromo and I've always wanted to go there! What's the situation like over there?"
Avoid questions that are too personal.
You're still getting to know each other, so don't talk about personal or sensitive topics like religion, sex, politics, and money.
Step 3. Keep the chat short
In the early stages, it's a good idea to have shorter chats with them on Messenger rather than lengthy conversations. The constant chatter can make him feel uncomfortable if the two of you don't know each other well. Get to know each other gradually through some messages to build friendship naturally.
Step 4. Ask about the task or schedule to open a chat
Messenger works to send private messages between you and the girl you want to chat with. While it won't be commented on or liked by others, the messages you send through Messenger will feel a little more personal. If you don't know how to start a conversation with him, open the conversation by asking something light, rather than personal. This doesn't mean that you can't move on to a more personal chat afterwards, but at least the pressure you feel when you want to start a chat with him can be reduced.
You can say, “Hi! You know the English assignment for tomorrow? I forgot to write it down,” or “What time are we at the restaurant tomorrow?”
Step 5. Take advantage of the chat starter
Chat starters are open-ended questions that allow you to get to know someone better. These questions don't have to be heavy or "modified" according to the other person. You can use it to lighten the mood. If the two of you have been posting posts on each other's walls frequently, you can discuss the posts he uploaded.
Quick Chat Starter Tips
Start the chat simple:
Start with a light, casual greeting like “Hi! How are you? After that, he could determine how much to respond. This can provide comfort and control over the chat for him.
Take a look at the latest posts.
Check the walls for news or recent activities you can talk about, such as watching a popular movie or going on an excursion. For example, you might say, "I don't like country music, but the concert you went to looked like a lot of fun!"
Other chat starters:
"I haven't seen you in a long time. How are you?"
"What are your plans for this weekend?"
“I need a movie recommendation. What have you been watching lately?”
Step 6. Take advantage of the activities that are undertaken together as a topic of conversation
There is a possibility that you and the other person have known each other through activities that you both have undertaken. Try talking about the activity or thing (eg class or work you both do). Shared experiences like this can bring you closer to him.
You can say, “I liked the practice we had today. You run really fast!” or “The customer at the store was so cute. Does he really think that we sell yellow rice in fast food restaurants?”
Step 7. Respect the boundaries
If he blocks or asks you not to contact him again, respect his wishes. Maybe he's not interested in the kind of relationship you want right now.
Part 2 of 2: Writing Posts on His Wall
Step 1. Post a joke to the wall
If you don't know him well, it's a good idea to interact with him in general on his walls. This type of interaction is more casual, but anything you say or share can be commented on and liked by others so consider the risks. To keep the conversation going, try making a smart joke about something he posted. These jokes show that you are interested in what they are interested in and have a good sense of humour.
- Make sure your jokes stay "healthy" and don't destroy other people's comments with your own.
- If he likes or leaves a positive comment on your post, that can be a good sign. You can proceed to a private chat if he responds well to your wall post.
Step 2. Share the photo on the wall
Photos are a great medium to strengthen your relationship with someone you like. If you have a photo with him from work or school, you can upload it and tag it in the photo. You can also share a funny photo that doesn't feature or relate to the two of you, but matches a post he made (e.g. a meme) to make him laugh.
Choosing the Perfect Photo and Caption
For funny photos:
Include silly and funny captions. You can say, “I have to share this unique photo” or “We both look great on…”. If you put a funny expression on your uploaded photo, you could say, "You must not know that my face always looks like this!"
For adorable photos:
You can use sweet or humble sentences. Try saying “You look cute in this photo;)”, “It was such a memorable day”, or “Let's try again sometime!”
For memes:
A witty meme can reflect a joke only the two of you understand or something that reminds you of it. If the meme is really funny, you don't even need to add a caption to the photo. If you want to include a caption, use short sentences like "I think I should share this" or "This reminds me of someone…"
Step 3. Insert jokes that only the two of you will understand if possible
If you both have a joke of your own, post it on their wall. Jokes like this are the right content because they don't get boring easily compared to other jokes. By uploading them (even in a larger group), you can make them smile and strengthen your relationship with them.
Step 4. Be nice
Try to show a good attitude in all Facebook wall interactions. Reading sarcasm in cyberspace is not easy. If your tone is difficult to understand, he may interpret your post as a criticism even if you don't mean it that way.
