In this day and age, texting is a common way to build a friendship, or it can even grow into the seeds of more intimacy than that. If you want the girl you are calling to like you, then texting is one of the very easy and reliable ways. Stay cool, grab your phone and jump into action with your best moves.
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Part 1 of 2: Getting Started
Step 1. Ask for mobile number
You can only start texting when you already know the mobile number. And of course it's not easy to get a girl's cell phone number right away, but you can always try it in the most casual way possible. The simple way is "Hey, it seems I don't have your cellphone number. How about we exchange numbers?" Usually this method is always effective to try.
- When you If trying to get the number, avoid the following:
- Request a number from his friend or your other friends. Because if he doesn't want to give his cellphone number directly, it means he doesn't expect you to text him. He might even feel you are the type of person who is dangerous because you get his cellphone number without his permission and knowledge.
- Ask for the number via Instant Message or via social media on the internet. It's better to ask in person/face to face because that will also make it difficult for him to refuse unless he really doesn't like you. 9 out of 10 times this method usually works.
- Making the problem of his cellphone number a big problem. The more you look like you don't really need the phone number, the more chances you have of getting it. If you seem pushy and clearly want his number then he may just become disinterested and not give you the number.
Step 2. Introduce yourself the first time you text if he doesn't have your number
If he gives you his number and waits for you to call him, start with something like this:
- "Hey, this is Geoff I met yesterday. 'How are you doing?"
- "Hi. This is Joey. Sorry to bother you, just wanted to ask have you seen this movie or not? I almost died laughing when I watched it…"
- Or, if you're feeling confident, try joking a little if the situation is favorable: "Remember the overconfident guy who asked for your phone number yesterday? Yes, that's me!"
Step 3. Send SMS occasionally and remotely
Text him gradually and see how he responds. Don't fill his cellphone with hundreds of your SMS, especially if he's new to you. A few texts a day, then silence for a day or two would be better and give the impression that you're not really that crazy about him. (because for some girls this can actually make them lose their appetite for you).
Step 4. Be patient and watch for positive signs from him if he is interested
Maybe you already know that we all have body language. But did you know that body language can also be emitted from someone's SMS. Signs that he's interested in your texting include the following:
- He responds to your SMS quickly. Does he text back as quickly as possible when you text him? Or maybe he's a bit overpriced, maybe he's deliberately waiting to reply to your SMS so don't think too much about it.
- Laughter and other emoticons. Does he always laugh with a "haha" or a "lol?" Well, that's a good sign. Smileys and emoticons are also positive signs.
- Reply to tease / tease you. If he's trying to tease you, you'll know. For example, if he writes something like "Oh, I can't come, I can't miss it" or "When I'm chatting with you, I get excited" that's a very good sign. Continue!
Step 5. Watch for signs that he's not really interested in something
Just like the positive signs that you can read from him, there are also negative signs that you should also read and be aware of while you are exchanging SMS.
- He is not responding to some of your texts. He could be doing it on purpose. However, if you say something offensive or disrespectful, then you should make a little note to yourself and not use that phrase again. Try not to get too involved in his personal affairs.
- He replied with only a short sentence. Suppose you send him an SMS with a sentence that is so organized and beautiful but he only responds with "good too" means he is not in the mood or he is not interested in your discussion or words.
- He never started texting first. If you have to always start the conversation, and he never intentionally starts the text. This could be a sign that is not so favorable for you later!
Part 2 of 2: Building Comfort
Step 1. Think about the things you want to discuss with him
It's best to start with something more general and then move on to more personal things as the conversation progresses.
- For example, you can start by talking about parties or events that will be held in the near future.
- Then, you can move on to discussing your activities and your plans for the day.
- Finally, you can start talking about you thinking about him a lot and about the things that interest him and you like about him. (Do this if you already have a relationship status with him or if you are ready if he even feels uncomfortable with your feelings.)
Step 2. Try to include humor in your texting
Incorporating an element of humor into the SMS will make the discussion easier to flow. If you are humorous, take advantage of your talents. If you are not the humorous type, try to create personal jokes between you and him, try flirting / flirting fun, or by discussing funny events that you experienced with him.
Step 3. Always read the SMS carefully
Answer if he asks in his text and also try to reply to the text by showing that you remember and always pay attention to his texts in general. He must be happy.
Do not always rush to respond to SMS from him. Wait a few minutes before you reply. Be different, in fact sometimes you can wait a little longer, or longer than that
Step 4. Don't always try to flirt
Don't bombard him with flirting all the time, every day. If you want to seduce / gossip, do it sparingly. Do it little by little over time. Try to send a more diverse SMS by talking about:
- Her everyday. "How are you?" "What are you doing today?" and "What are you doing last weekend, anything exciting?" it is a generic SMS that you can try.
- The problem he is facing. Let him come with his problems to you. There's no need to be too intrusive or curious, but you can always offer suggestions and solutions if he's open enough to it.
- The things that happen in your life. Of course it's great that you've given him a lot of attention, but chances are he's also curious about things that have to do with you. Try to talk about something you're working on, something you've seen, and your plans. Discuss it occasionally over time and talk, don't be too preoccupied with discussing yourself.
Step 5. Be prepared if you end up having to interact more than just texting
If you've already started a relationship with a girl, don't just rely on texting forever. Because in the end you have to be prepared to interact more. like calling him or asking him out. If this girl really likes you, she must have been waiting for this moment.
Tips
- Be a sweet and polite person. Show that you are a caring person.
- Use Smileys when you text him! If he replies with Smileys too, he's more than likely happy to chat with you!
- If he does not immediately respond to your SMS, do not repeat and send the same SMS yes.
