While you can't force your boyfriend to fall madly in love with you, you can try to be an amazing boyfriend and build a strong and healthy relationship with him. The most important thing is to just be yourself and just let things happen. If you are understanding, caring, and fun, your relationship will continue to climb without you even realizing it.
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Part 1 of 3: Be an Amazing Lover
Step 1. Make him feel confident
One of the best things you can do as a lover is to make your boyfriend feel amazing, handsome, smart, and attractive. While other people may resent their boyfriend from time to time, you shouldn't waste time nagging or talking about things you hate about your girlfriend; focus on the positive and praise her good personality while encouraging her to always be herself.
If your boyfriend likes himself around you, he will spend more time with you. If you make him feel insecure, he won't want to stay with you for long
Step 2. Don't stop the romantic stuff
If you want your relationship to continue to feel fresh and fun, never forget the romantic feelings you felt when you first started dating him. Even though you can't be sweet and romantic all the time, you should always try to be a sweet and romantic girl so that your boyfriend knows how valuable he is in your eyes so that your relationship will be even more passionate. Here are some things you can do:
- Hide a romantic letter to your loved one saying that you really miss him or her when you're not at home.
- Send him a sweet text when he's having a bad day.
- Plan on going on romantic dates at least twice a month and try to dress up and look as good-looking as possible.
- Give passionate kisses. Don't make kissing feel like part of a routine.
- Give him the attention he needs. Even if you both had a tiring day, cuddling and making out can rekindle the passion in your relationship.
Step 3. Find new things to do together
If you want to keep your relationship interesting, you and your partner can try different activities together so you don't run out of things to do. This could mean taking a trip to a new rock climbing site once a month, exploring a new part of town, taking a dance class together, or even starting a two-person reading club together. Finding new things to enjoy together can strengthen the bond and make both of you love each other even more.
- You don't have to try too hard to do something new. You only have to discover one new thing every few weeks; It's very important to find a routine that you enjoy too.
- Be spontaneous. If you wake up on Saturday morning and feel like painting your room yellow or want to go for a walk to the beach with your loved one, do it right away!
Step 4. Be nice to his friends
To win over your boyfriend, you have to show that you can get along with his friends. Don't be the girl who makes him boring when you're around him, and don't be cold or rude to his friends because you think they're wasting their time. Instead, you should ask about their lives, be friendly when you see them even when your lover isn't around, and try to make them feel comfortable.
If his friends like you, they will tell your girlfriend that you are a good boyfriend. If you are closed to them, they will tell your lover things that are not good about you
Step 5. Set aside some time for yourself
To keep your relationship strong and healthy, and to make your boyfriend like you more, you need to make sure that you set aside enough time to do your own thing. Whether you're writing poetry, hanging out with your friends, or taking a daily yoga class-no matter what your activity is, it's important to take time to develop yourself. If you are a cool girl who is busy with your life, your boyfriend will like you more; if he feels he is the center of your life, he will be more careful around you.
- Having a meaningful life outside of your relationship will make your boyfriend feel "honoured" to be able to spend time with you. If he feels that you have all day to spend with him, he will underestimate you.
- Setting aside time to meet up with your friends will also help you stay in touch with others who will develop you and make your world more colorful.
Step 6. Help your boyfriend when he needs it-and as long as he helps you too
If your boyfriend has had a tough week, you can help him out by doing little things, from bringing him coffee to refueling his car if he's really busy. Taking time out to make his life easier will show that you really care about his happiness; just make sure he will also do the same to you and not take advantage of you.
He won't always admit that he needs your help, but you need to be sensitive to make sure he's not shy about admitting it. If he is really busy and stressed, help to lighten the load a little
Step 7. Keep the relationship always sexy
If you want your relationship to be fun, you should always be making something new and exciting in bed. Whether you're just having sex or kissing passionately, you have to make sure to keep the passion going, even if you've been dating for a long time. Don't make your boyfriend feel like you're having sex just because he wants to. You have to want it too. Therefore, never feel pressured to do things beyond your capabilities just to please your lover.
Every relationship goes at its own pace and you shouldn't have sex with your boyfriend if you're not ready. However, if both of you are sexually active, make sure you set aside time for foreplay, showing affection, and making out afterward, so you don't underestimate each other
Part 2 of 3: Be Understanding
Step 1. Give him time to do his own activities
If you really want to make your boyfriend love you, you have to be able to respect his boundaries and let him be himself. If you want to spend every second with him and always ask him what he does when he's not with you, you'll be either a spoiled or independent lover, and most guys will think the same way. Instead, you should value the time with your loved one and enjoy the time apart. You have to realize that pursuing each other's interests will keep the relationship healthy.
- Plus, if you and your partner do each other's activities more often, you'll appreciate each other's time together.
- If your boyfriend has more time to study, play guitar, or pursue other interests, he will be able to thrive. You'll want to keep seeing him grow for the better if you really love him.
- Don't make him feel responsible for you all the time because that will make him feel attached. Show that you trust him by letting him run a marathon, for example, without calling him three times.
Step 2. Let him have fun with his friends
In order to make your boyfriend truly appreciate you, you have to understand that he needs time with his male friends to feel like he has a balanced life. Even if you don't see her friends as often because you have you in her life, don't make her feel guilty every time she hangs out with her friends or force her to spend all of her time with you. Let him see that you don't mind being with his friends and that you want him to have fun without you.
- Don't make him always have to choose. If the two of you are together, invite some of your friends and some of your boyfriend's friends to join, so hanging out in a group becomes more natural. While men's time together is important, hanging out in a group can be a good middle ground.
- When he's with his friends, don't call or text and ask when he'll be home. He'll feel like you don't trust him or don't want to see him having fun.
Step 3. Learn to compromise
To be an understanding lover in a relationship, you have to understand that you can't just go around on your own. You have to compromise with your boyfriend when he's in a difficult situation and find a solution to your problem that makes both parties happy. Sometimes, you have to give in to him, as long as he also grants your wish. If your boyfriend thinks you're selfish, he's not going to have any fun with you.
- If you disagree on something, make sure you hear the issue from both perspectives so you understand whether the issue is really important to your lover.
- Don't be rude or look so angry that your boyfriend can't say anything. Take some time to cool off before you try to make things right.
- If your boyfriend gets his way every now and then-like the two of you decide to go to a baseball game instead of your friend's party-you should try to have fun instead of hating him all the time.
Step 4. Apologize if you make a mistake
If you want your boyfriend to truly love and respect you, you have to be able to admit your mistakes. Look him in the eye, put the phone away, and let him see how sorry you are. Don't make him feel like you're apologizing just because you need something from him, or because you feel you have to; let him see that you are truly sorry and promise not to do it again.
- It's more important to admit that you're human than trying to be perfect to get your boyfriend to like you. If you don't deny your mistakes, your lover will appreciate your efforts more.
- Don't say, "I'm sorry you got angry when I …" because this will sound like blaming your boyfriend. Instead, take responsibility for your mistakes and say, "I'm sorry that I…"
Step 5. Try to see things from his point of view
If you want to be understanding and show how much you love him, you should occasionally try to feel what your boyfriend is feeling to see the situation from his point of view. By considering what is happening from his point of view, you will understand that not everything is black and white and he may have reasons for his actions or words.
- For example, if he stayed away from you for two weeks, consider other things that happened in his life that caused him to behave that way. If his grandmother recently passed away, he was stressed about finding a new job, or had a bad cold, he probably wouldn't be himself. Understand that not all of his behavior has anything to do with you.
- If you know he's having a tough day, try to help him, either by cooking dinner or doing light housework for him. As long as he does the same to you when you're busy. This is a great way to say that you really think about the problem he's having.
Step 6. Try to get to know the family
To make your boyfriend love you, show that you care about his family, even if you can't really be considered family. Strive to be friendly, pleasant, and a polite guest in the family home. If his family isn't friendly to you, you should be patient and do your best instead of complaining to your boyfriend or being rude to his family. Remember that at the end of the day, your boyfriend wants a girl to fit into his life, and if you feel like you can't stand 30 seconds of not arguing with his mom, you're in big trouble.
- Of course, if the family is really cold and doesn't like you, you don't have to curry favor with them. Keep your distance from them and discuss it with your lover as carefully as possible if you want to talk about it.
- In the end, you have to remember that your boyfriend has known his family much longer than he has known you. Don't make him choose between his family or you.
Step 7. Communicate with adults
Another way to be understanding and make your boyfriend love you more is to have strong communication in the relationship. This means that you should tell your boyfriend why you seem upset instead of pretending everything is fine, ask why he's angry and trying to hide it, and talk about what's been bothering you in this relationship in a thoughtful and respectful manner. Cultivating strong communication skills can help you and your partner have a healthy and loving relationship.
- If you're talking about serious things, timing can be crucial. Don't bring up your problems for the past few weeks exactly 15 minutes before your boyfriend's birthday or his job interview. Even if you can't wait for the right moment, try to find an appropriate time to talk about it if you want to be taken seriously.
- Listening is as important as talking. When your boyfriend is trying to say something, make sure you really pay attention to what he's saying instead of impatiently waiting for your turn or interrupting him.
Part 3 of 3: Knowing What's Forbidden
Step 1. Don't be jealous
If you want your boyfriend to fall in love with you to death, you have to show that you're comfortable with the relationship you're in. If you're constantly doubting her, asking where she is, or even comparing yourself to other girls, you'll only be giving her reason to doubt you. If you feel good about yourself and say nice things about another girl, she will love you more because you feel confident in yourself.
- Of course if your lover does something suspicious, you have every right to be jealous, and ask a lot of questions. However, if you interrogate him every time he talks to a girl, or interrupt a private conversation with another girl, he will get bored.
- Instead of gossiping about other girls or criticizing them, tell your boyfriend what you like about your friends or the girl you just met. You have to be happy with yourself and your relationship, and not think about other girls out there.
Step 2. Don't force love
Unfortunately, even magic spells will not be able to make your lover love you. Love takes time, and sometimes, he will start to feel it or not. You can be the most perfect lover in the universe and can give him everything he needs, but he may not have feelings for you. This can be heartbreaking, but it's better to be realistic and know when to stop expecting something that will never come.
- If you're reading this article, your goal should be to be a better boyfriend and have a great relationship. However, you shouldn't look for ways to change yourself so that your boyfriend loves you more.
- If you feel like you've done everything and have been in a relationship for a long time and he doesn't reciprocate your feelings, ask yourself if this relationship is worth keeping.
Step 3. Don't force him to go too fast
Forcing your lover to move quickly can also harm your relationship. If you make him move too fast and too early, you are preventing him from feeling natural love for you. Give him time to say "I love you". While every relationship has its own timeline, you shouldn't expect him to tell you he loves you in the first weeks, or even months, because you'll scare him off.
- In fact, if you keep pressuring him to go faster and keep asking why he hasn't introduced you to his friends or invited you to dinner at his house, you'll scare him off. Appreciate the fact that he needs time alone to develop his feelings.
- If you realize that you love him in the early weeks of your relationship, think twice before telling him about it. If you think he doesn't feel the same way, you'll actually scare him with this kind of talk.
Step 4. Don't force him to do a lot of things he doesn't want to do
Even though every relationship is about give and take, don't ask your boyfriend to do 1,000 different things that you think a good lover should do if he clearly doesn't want to. If he's not a big walker, you can take him for a hike without camping for two weeks; if he doesn't like some types of exercise, don't force him to take your yoga class. Appreciate the fact that there are some things he doesn't want to do and do things that make both of you happy.
- Don't force him to do something he's not interested in, like paint your friend's house to show his love for you.
- Of course everyone has to do something they don't like to make their relationship work. Your boyfriend may want to play with his friends instead of accompanying your mom on a shopping spree, but sometimes he just has to give in. However, if you feel like you're forcing him to do everything together, you're in trouble.
Step 5. Don't compare your relationship to someone else's
Every relationship is different, and you will get nothing if you keep comparing your relationship to that of your parents, best friends, or neighbors. Just because your best friend and boyfriend married immediately after six months of dating, you don't have to do the same; Just because your parents married at 25 doesn't mean you have to emulate them. If you continue to do what you “should” do in the relationship, you will not be able to enjoy the relationship you are in.
- After all, nothing else will make your lover run away than comparing your relationship to someone else's. He will feel that your expectations are unreasonable and he will never be enough for you.
- You won't be able to really understand the dynamics in another partner's relationship, so you shouldn't think that other relationships can give you the answers to yours. You can ask other people for advice, but you should always remember that the most important relationship is the one you and your lover are in.
Step 6. Don't change yourself for your lover
If you feel you have to change to get your lover's love, you should back off immediately. In the end, apart from trying to do some of the things you can do to make your relationship stronger and to be a more understanding lover, you'll want your boyfriend to respect and love you for who you are, not your perfect, fake self.
If you feel you are behaving or dressing in a different way than you are, you should rethink your motivations. Did you change yourself because it was what your boyfriend wanted, or because you felt that was what he wanted? In the end, the most important thing is to be yourself
Warning
- This article contains only tips for taking care of your loved one. You can't force someone to love you.
- If there is a problem in your relationship, there is nothing you can do about it.
- He may use you to hurt you.
