Often people around you feel jealous or jealous of the success you have achieved. Although we hope they can be happy too, but keep in mind that jealousy has become a common thing for us. You can overcome this by paying more attention to them, being humble, and adapting. Here's what you can do if you want to better understand your friends, relatives, and coworkers who may be jealous of you.
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Method 1 of 3: Understanding Envy or Jealousy
Step 1. Understand the causes of envy
It will be easier to determine the attitude when we know what the original cause of envy was. Some people have obvious reasons for envy, but sometimes other reasons arise when they think your life looks really good. Others are jealous that you spend more time with others. Based on the cause under certain conditions.
Step 2. It is common for people who work or are in the same field to be jealous of each other's success
For example, when you are an actor who just got an important role, then there is a possibility that other actor friends will feel jealous, right? Even so, this kind of envy only lasted a short time.
- Another cause of jealousy is attention. Just like when you spend a lot of time with a new friend, your sister may feel jealous. However, usually things like this are easy to overcome.
- Some forms of jealousy can last a long time. Especially when the jealous person is going through a difficult time, it is likely to be very difficult to restore the condition as before until the cause of the jealousy becomes clear.
Step 3. Adjust yourself to any situation by using a different point of view because sometimes it's hard to get along with people who are easily jealous or envious
Jealousy or envy is an emotional outburst where a person can be very annoying and selfish because sometimes they like to seek attention. However, if you want to maintain a good relationship with that person, then you have to be able to understand them. Try to imagine a time when you were jealous or envious of someone. Do you feel weak? Nervous? That's how they feel and it's not an easy thing to deal with. Try to understand their feelings.
After understanding the explanation of what jealousy or envy is, is there anything you can do to help them?
Step 4. Beware of their fake behavior
When they get out of control, they can act as they please to make themselves better. They may try to pit you against other people, make you look bad, or indirectly criticize to lower your self-confidence. There's nothing wrong with trying to empathize with them, but the thing to remember is that they can harm you at times.
Step 5. If there is a person with excessive jealousy type, then he can dominate the situation
It will be very difficult to overcome, so it needs to be addressed as soon as possible before it grows bigger.
Method 2 of 3: Coping With Jealousy Or Envy
Step 1. Don't talk too much about your accomplishments
For example, envy can arise when you talk about your success, even if you tell about a happy family you have. It's okay to share stories of things or our successes with friends and family, but try not to talk too much and be more sensitive to their feelings. Even if you need to, talk less about yourself to keep your feelings in check.
- For example, when you have a coworker who has no children, and at the same time you find out that you are pregnant, then don't talk too much about your pregnancy. It would be better to talk to people who are not too sensitive about it.
- Be grateful and stay humble with your success. For example, when you get an award at work, then accept the award and praise accordingly.
Step 2. Praise him often
Giving praise or flattery is the best way to reduce negative feelings. Jealousy or envy stems from insecurity, so boosting self-confidence is the perfect way to deal with it. When a friend is asked out on a date, or a coworker is successful in sales, don't spoil the fun.
Step 3. Be sincere
If you want other people to be truly happy with your happiness, then do the same with them.
Step 4. Give him special attention
Most people feel jealous when they get so little time and attention. Like when you may be too busy with activities at school to not contact your friends as usual. If you want to maintain a friendship, then it's a good idea to take the time, just meet up for coffee, call, or write an email and let them know that you've rearranged your schedule.
If your friend gets jealous when you go out with a new friend, try asking her out next time
Step 5. When your partner feels neglected because you are too busy with work, arrange a special date, give him your full attention, and don't forget to turn off the phone
Step 6. Deal with him gently
When you have free time, use it to talk to him. It's not easy to admit to being jealous, so choose the right way to start the conversation.
Step 7. Don't say "I think you're jealous" because that will offend her
Try to say that you've noticed him, and you feel that he's distant or agitated, then say that you want to do whatever it takes to help him.
Tell him that nothing lasts forever, therefore nothing is perfect in this world. A person is sometimes at the top and sometimes he is at the bottom. Even so, tell him that you will always be there to help him
Step 8. Try to ignore it
If you don't want to deal with him, then just ignore him and wait for the person to change without your intervention. Let the dogs bark, the caravan goes by. When everything is conducive as before, then by itself he will stop his jealousy, and return to being a good friend.
Method 3 of 3: Finding Out How Much Jealousy Is
Step 1. Find out whether envy is some kind of poison or not
When jealousy becomes an obsession, it can be toxic to a relationship, and can even lead to abuse or cursing. If the jealous person is fierce, dominant, and sometimes unreasonable, then there's not much you can do about it. He will feel that your success is a setback, so he tries to bring you down.
Step 2. Decide if your relationship is worth keeping or not
If you feel he will bring bad things with all his jealousy, then try to reconsider whether you still want the relationship. Chances are he will do bad things that will complicate your life.
- If he is your partner, then reconsider whether you still want to continue the relationship with him.. When there is excessive jealousy in a relationship, there is a crisis of trust in it.
- If he is your co-worker, then it depends on whether you will respond to him or not. If so, then there will be enmity between you.
Step 3. To end a relationship, say that you are hurt by his behavior and have finally decided to separate because your relationship is beyond repair
After that, stop contacting him and try to turn away. Ending a relationship is not easy, but excessive jealousy can be a big obstacle.
Tips
- Jealous people sometimes feel like hanging out, have an attractive face like you, but they stop comparing themselves and either admire you or hate you, maybe even both.
- When someone is jealous, it means they want something you have.
- You have the right to remain stable. Do it if it's best.
- It's a shame if maybe you are an attractive, beautiful, and friendly person that makes people jealous of you easily.
- Love them regardless of any feelings they have. However, be careful with them. Also pay attention to the time you spend with them until they stop being jealous.
- When he tries to put you down, say "I believe you are actually a good person".
- Giving them support is a good way to reduce jealousy or envy. However, it would probably be useless if they were stubborn people.
Warning
- Look back at your coworkers. Maybe he's pretending to be your best friend, in reality he's just trying to find a way to bring you down. They are good at twisting your words to complain to superiors.
- Jealous people will bring you down to level with them.
- Someone who is jealous doesn't mean they care about you.
- If your partner is always jealous for no reason, often blames you, maybe you are in trouble.
- If you're feeling overly jealous and want to crush it, ask for help.
