Explaining who you are is a difficult process to deal with when you're journaling, answering interview questions, or simply wanting to be happier and enjoy life. However, you must explain who you are to yourself before you can explain it to others. What exactly makes up a person varies depending on the beliefs you follow, but you can look for the fundamental part of you that defines who you are. For example, you can use the skills, interests, personality, and values you believe in as a way of defining who you are.
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Method 1 of 3: Deciphering Personality and Life Values
Step 1. Try an online personality test
While not all personality tests are created equal, there are some that can tell you who you are. For example, the Myers-Briggs test will divide you between two choices in four categories. You can also try the Big Five personality test.
- Use the result. Once you get the results, you can use them to find out how you make decisions and who you are as a person. Test results also help you understand how you interact with other people and why you respond to specific situations in certain ways.
- For example, if you are an introvert, this knowledge will help you understand why you feel tired after a party and know what steps you can take to manage your energy.
Step 2. Consider your greatest accomplishments
Write down three things you consider your greatest accomplishments. What do the three achievements have in common? Then, consider what you think is the biggest failure. What do they have in common?
Step 3. Identify what you have learned
From accomplishments and failures, think about what you did to get there or any other action you are taking now. If one of your greatest accomplishments is getting a degree, it means that you consider hard work and dedication to be important. If one of your biggest failures was getting drunk and cheating on your boyfriend, then you believe you have a problem with drinking and not keeping your word, and want to change.
Step 4. Look at the people you admire
Think of the person you admire the most. What do you admire about them? What qualities would you like them to have? What value in life do they have? Chances are you also want to have those values in life.
Step 5. Ask yourself what is most important to you
To know the value of your life, you must consider what you think is most important. Maybe what matters most to you is family or maybe friendship.
One way to find out what your life is worth is to ask yourself. For example, what would you save if your house caught fire (other than family and pets)? What would you do to change the world, if you could? What excites you? The recurring themes in the answers can help define what your values are in life
Step 6. Put what you have found into a value statement
For example, you realize that hard work is important. That is, hard work is one of your values. And you discover that self-restraint and loyalty are also important and part of your values.
Step 7. Use these values to guide decisions
Those values can be silenced. However, who you are as a person is determined by how you act on those values. A person is considered to have integrity if he follows his values, so if you want to have integrity, you must follow what you believe.
Step 8. Let the values you believe in define who you are
You are incomparable and your values determine your actions. For example, for you family occupies the highest position than anything else. That is, you will choose family over, say, work or other obligations. However, if you are concerned with work, you may choose not to have a family at all, and that is also a valid choice. What you do defines who you are.
Once you realize how your values define who you are as a person, you can put them into words. For example, if you value family above all else, you might consider yourself a "family lover," while if you value work, you might say, "work is my passion."
Method 2 of 3: Finding Interest
Step 1. Think back to what you loved as a child
For example, if you enjoy coloring, you may have an interest in design. If you enjoy building toys, such as block blocks or wood, perhaps your interest is in architecture or construction.
Don't just remember what you used to love. You should also think about why you like it. For example, it turns out that you like stacking blocks because you like to see neat rows and colors, which means you like their order
Step 2. Think about what you would do if money weren't an issue
For example, suddenly you inherit enough money to not have to worry about rent or food, how are you going to spend your time? Don't just answer lazing on the couch and watching television. Are you going to pursue a hobby? Volunteer work? Visiting a library or museum? What you will do shows what you are most interested in.
Step 3. Notice when you forget yourself
Have you ever had that moment of forgetting time because you were so deep into what you were doing? That's the moment you should pay attention to because you clearly like what you're doing at the time.
Step 4. Consider what you don't like
Knowing what you don't like is as important as knowing what you like. One of its uses is to show you what to avoid when exploring interests and looking for work.
Start with an activity that you are afraid of. What scares you? Why are you afraid? Once you've answered these questions, you'll start to see themes in these activities, such as maybe you don't like tidying up or maybe you're not a very social person
Step 5. Create a platform for the things that inspire you
You can spill inspiration into a journal, poster, or board. Try incorporating phrases, photos, and ideas into the tool. Once those inspirational tools are full, a theme will appear that identifies some of your interests.
Use anything you can include for inspiration, from the internet and spam emails to old magazines
Step 6. Make curiosity a part of your day
When you're curious about something, take the time to do some research. You may find interest in a subject just by following an idea. Use the internet or the library to indulge your curiosity.
Step 7. Answer "yes"
When life invites you to try something new, try to follow. For example, if you get a chance to try something new at work, agree. When your friend invites you to have a new experience, give it a try. You never know what you will really like.
Step 8. Explore all the options
One way of exploration is to try different things. You can go to the library and read a book on a topic that interests you. Try joining a community or taking a class offered by the recreation department at the office. However, you don't always have to leave your house to start exploring. Try drawing or gardening. Be open to every possibility.
Step 9. Let your interests express who you are
Interests are a means of showing who you are to the world. Interests also define you as a person because what you are passionate about will direct your life. That's what makes interest so important. If you have an interest in art, you can express yourself through art, either by creating art or supporting people who do.
Method 3 of 3: Finding Skills
Step 1. Think about the areas you are good at
What have you done well in the past? For example, remember a high-scoring lesson. Also, think about what you naturally do for your friends and family, what help they ask for because you're good at it. Watch what you are good at.
Skills are part of identity because many people will recognize you by what you do
Step 2. Consider what skills you developed on the job
There are types of jobs that teach certain skills, whether they realize it or not. For example, if you work in a fast food restaurant, you learn to deal with drama quickly and efficiently.
- Jobs in fast food restaurants and retail stores also teach skills to deal with different types of people.
- Similarly, people will also associate your work with who you are. A lot of time is spent working, so work has become a part of you.
Step 3. Try an online skills test
There are many websites, particularly job search and part-time job sites, that offer the opportunity to take a skills test. This test will help you assess proficiency in a specific area, usually related to the job market.
Step 4. Ask friends, family and colleagues
Colleagues can judge how good your skills are, and since you've already proven yourself in the outside world, you can ask for reviews of those skills. Your boss can also tell you how good you are in certain areas. You can also ask friends and family if they think you're good at a specific thing.
Step 5. Define yourself based on the skills you have
As you get older, skills will define you professionally. When looking for a job, you are basically a list of skills and experience. That's how you are represented to the world. While it can't really describe who you really are, skills are a part of who you are.
