Bullying can be done in many ways, but all of them are still dangerous. Even if there is no physical contact between the perpetrator and the victim, people who are bullied can carry heartache or emotional scars for what they have experienced throughout their lives. This is why it is important for us to stop bullying. If you are being bullied, there are several things you can do to deal with the abuser. If you see bullying happening, there are also several things that can be done to defend victims of bullying. You can also try to raise awareness among your friends and learn different ways to ask for help.
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Method 1 of 4: Dealing with Bullies
Step 1. Stay away from him
If the situation seems threatening or dangerous, it's a good idea to stay away from it. Even if you're not in a dangerous situation, remember that you don't have to listen to the harsh words other people say to you. The best thing to do is to walk away quietly from the abuser. This will show him that you don't want to let him treat you like that.
Try walking toward people, such as teachers or others who won't get involved or allow bullying to occur
Step 2. Tell others to stop bullying
It is important that you report bullying immediately so that it can be stopped. By reporting your abuse to someone, you can defend or protect yourself and show the abuser that you are not going to stand by the violence they display.
- Find a teacher, parent, school counselor, or someone else who can help you and immediately report to them what the abuser said or did to you.
- Try saying, for example, “Jono bullied me. He kept making fun of my weight and wouldn't stop. I've asked him to stop, but he's still making fun of me. I think I need help so he can stop his attitude."
- You can also write a message explaining what happened and send it to the teacher, school counselor, or principal.
- Let others know if the first person you told did not take any action against the perpetrator. Don't let bullying just happen.
Step 3. Look the offender in the eye and ask him to stop
Using direct, firm communication and body language is the best way to deal with bullies. If the abuser keeps bothering you, even after you walk away, show him that you will not tolerate or accept the behavior. Turn around and confront him, then tell him to stop bothering you.
- To use firm body language, stand up straight and face the offender. Look him in the eye when you speak. Don't look down and make yourself look "small," such as folding your arms or bringing your knees together. Keep your body straight so that you appear tall, keep your arms by your side, and stand with your feet shoulder-width apart.
- Make sure your request or command remains brief and uncluttered. You can say, “Stop it, Jojo!” or “Stop bothering me, Badu!” While saying that, make sure you look him right in the eye and speak in a calm, clear voice.
- Do not praise or insult the perpetrator. If you say nice things to him after he insults you, belittles you, or physically threatens you, it will only increase his "power" over you. On the other hand, returning him with insults will only make him angrier and increase his attempts to hurt you.
Step 4. Try to stay calm
The bully's goal is to get an emotional response from you as the victim. Therefore, try to stay calm and don't show him how you feel. Also try not to show your anger, sadness, or fear. Abusers can feel satisfied when they see such emotions and increase their efforts to annoy you.
- Take a deep breath and think about things that make you happy, like the good grades you got on a test, playing with your dog, or other fun things you plan to do with your family for the weekend. This helps you to “step back” from the situation and not react to the emotions you are feeling. Make sure you keep your eyes open and maintain eye contact with the offender while thinking about these things.
- Respond to the perpetrator calmly. For example, you could say, “Jojo, I know you think your actions are funny, but they are not. Stop it." or “Stop acting now or I will ask the teacher for help to keep you away from me.”
- Make sure you tell the other person how you feel when the abuser harasses you. Talk to your parents, school counselor, or teacher.
Method 2 of 4: Helping Someone Who Is Bullied
Step 1. Take action immediately
Don't put off dealing with it. If you see or hear that someone is being bullied, immediately intervene to stop the bullying from happening. If you can't do it yourself, find someone else who can. Adults who want to intervene or stop bullying may also need help from other adults.
- You could try defending the victim and say, for example, "Stop it, Lono!" Do not insult the abuser or use physical force to stop the abuser's violence against the victim of bullying.
- If you can't mediate (or the steps you're taking don't work), ask someone else for help. For example, if you see someone being bullied on the playground, find a teacher or school superintendent and tell them what happened.
- Don't wait to tell others. If you just wait, the victim of bullying may get hurt.
- Tell your teacher or school counselor about any cases of bullying you know of. Some forms of bullying, such as ostracism or indirect insults, may go unnoticed by teachers.
Step 2. Separate the perpetrator from the victim
It is important for you to keep the abuser away from the person he is bullying. Don't force both parties to be in the same room or shake hands and make up. Place both parties in separate rooms, then talk to each party individually.
- Ask each party what happened.
- You can also talk to other children who witnessed the bullying, but don't do it in front of the perpetrator or victim.
- Take the time to think through the details of the incident. Don't try to jump to conclusions or jump to conclusions. Talk to both parties, ask witnesses questions, and consider the information.
Step 3. Take bullying seriously
Bullying is a serious problem that can escalate and lead to danger if not stopped. Take any cases of bullying you hear about seriously. You may need to call the police or emergency services in some situations. Sometimes, you may need to involve the police or seek medical attention for the victim if:
- The perpetrator used a weapon.
- Perpetrators make threats.
- Violence or threats are motivated by hatred, such as racism or homophobia.
- The victim suffered serious injuries/injury as a result of the perpetrator's actions.
- Perpetrators commit sexual violence.
- Perpetrators commit illegal acts, such as extortion or robbery.
Method 3 of 4: Be a Good Example
Step 1. Make sure you don't exhibit bullying behavior or start bullying at school
Watch how you treat your classmates. Is there someone you bullied or bullied, even by accident? During this time, everyone might be throwing harsh words at each other, but if there is someone you tend to annoy more often, stop what you say or do, even when you don't think you're bothering them. Make it a habit and rule for yourself to be friendly and kind to other people, even if you don't really like that person.
- Don't tease or prank people unless you know them well enough and understand their sense of humor.
- Don't spread bad news or gossip about others. This is a form of bullying.
- Don't leave or ignore someone on purpose.
- Never share photos or information about other people on the internet, without their permission.
Step 2. Stand up for others who are being bullied
If you see someone being bullied at school, stand up for that person. Not getting involved in bullying is not enough. Make sure you actively defend the victim so he doesn't get more serious injuries. You can mediate the situation by talking to the perpetrator (if the situation is safe enough), or notifying the school/board of the bullying case you see.
- If your friends start talking about someone, make it clear that you don't like getting involved in such things. Try saying, for example, “I don't like gossiping. Can we talk about something else?"
- If you're part of a group that intentionally leaves or shuns someone, tell your group members/friends that you want to include anyone in your class friendship because it's the right thing to do. Try saying, for example, “I think we should be nicer to Cantika. He must have had a hard time being a new student at our school.”
- If you see someone being bullied/harassed and are concerned about their safety, notify the school immediately. You could say, for example, “I'm worried about David. I saw some seniors bothering him when he came home from school."
Step 3. Spread the word to stop bullying
Many schools have launched anti-bullying campaigns led by students who want to create a safe and friendly school environment. Join such a group (or try to create one) to spread awareness about the problem of bullying and find ways to solve it.
- Try talking to your friends about bullying. You could say, for example, “Are you aware that bullying still occurs in our schools? I think this is a bad thing and I want to do something to stop it."
- Talk to your teacher or school counselor about steps you can take to stop bullying. For example, you may be invited to give a presentation about bullying in your class. You may also be able to help organize events to raise awareness about the dangers of bullying.
Method 4 of 4: Asking for Help
Step 1. Talk to the school board/authority
Because bullying is a fairly common case, each school has its own policy to deal with such cases efficiently and effectively. Talk to the principal or school counselor about the current situation/case of bullying so that the bullying can be stopped as soon as possible. Some steps should be taken to punish the perpetrator or mediate to resolve the issue.
- Be aware that there are other children at your school who are having the same problem. Also, be aware that rules and procedures are set by the school for good reason.
- For parents, hold a meeting with the school instead of handling the situation yourself.
Step 2. Report cyberbullying to the internet service provider/site manager
This form of bullying is becoming more and more commonplace so that telephone service providers and other services (eg internet or website administrators) also have programs/regulations to deal with violence that occurs. Contact the internet service provider or site manager to report the bullying that occurred so that the perpetrator can be dealt with immediately and his account is blocked so that he can no longer contact you. In addition, you can also send phone recordings or emails to the service provider.
Step 3. Contact the authorities in your city
Certain forms of bullying are quite dangerous. In fact, there are several forms of bullying that are categorized as criminal acts. If the bullying you experience involves any of the elements below, contact the police immediately.
- Physical abuse. Bullying can encourage physical violence. If you are concerned that your health or safety is in danger, contact the police immediately.
- Surveillance and intimidation. If someone destroys your personal space and oppresses you, it is considered a crime.
- Threats of death or threats of violence.
- Unauthorized distribution of shameful photos or videos, including photos or videos that show clearly sexual elements.
- Hate-related acts or threats.
Step 4. Take legal action
Continued bullying (and causing emotional and physical injury) can be a good reason to take legal action. If the steps taken by the school and the perpetrator's parents are not sufficient to resolve the problem, you can involve a lawyer to handle it.
