Are you chatty and noisy, but want to be a very cold, reserved, and introverted person? This article will show you how to become that person.
Step
Step 1. Be calm
That doesn't mean you can't talk at all. It's just that being a loud and talkative person won't make you seem emotional and romantic. Romantic goths usually speak with gentleness and wisdom. Therefore, think before you speak. Think about whether your comments matter. Have the questions asked been answered? Can your statement lead to a good conversation? Try to train your mind to answer these questions before you open your mouth. After that, you can see how calm you are.
Step 2. Be independent
You have to be polite, but don't try too hard to please other people. If you do, there is a chance that you will be taken advantage of by others in the future. Limit your time and presence to others, and set boundaries for others to know about.
Step 3. Keep your stories to heart
It's okay to be friends. Having friends is great, but you have to prepare yourself not to talk to them much. Or maybe you can be a quiet person when you're with people you don't know, but talk a lot when you're with your friends.
- If there are some things that you usually immediately say out loud, arrange them in your mind first. Of course, this is easier said than done.
- If you're still in school and usually sit in a crowd, try sitting in a corner or the back row. During your lunch break, if you usually sit in the middle of the row, sit in the corner.
- If you absolutely must speak, think about what you want to say for (at least) 5 seconds.
Step 4. Be cool, strong, and tough at all times
Step 5. Try to show disinterest or coldness towards things in life
Step 6. When waiting in line or simply spending time with friends, try standing against a wall with your arms folded across your chest (or in your trouser pocket) and one leg bent and pressed against the wall
Step 7. Don't laugh or smile too much
If something is interesting enough, you can only grin or grin, as if you think it's ridiculous. Laughter only makes people think you're an open person, and that's certainly not what you want.
Step 8. Don't watch too much television
Actually, you can just watch television when you're alone. Even though watching television doesn't seem “dangerous” to your image, if you get caught watching a show or soap opera like Ini Talkshow or Tukang Bubur Naik Haji, other people will think that you are just playing with them (and you are, right?). Just make sure other people don't know what you're watching.
Step 9. Practice being unpredictable
Think about your usual reactions to things (in this case, understanding yourself can help you figure out those reactions). After that, determine the reactions that you can still show, and the reactions that you need to change. Maybe you really hate football, but from now on try to watch it with your family and explore it. This may be the most difficult step, but with hard work, you can do it.
Step 10. Read a book or draw a picture
Don't play jump rope, soccer, or anything like that. If you go swimming or ice skating, make sure you're just taking a leisurely swim or looking around you (not playing in the water like kids). Playing rafts or skateboarding is not the right way to make people think that you are a mysterious figure.
Step 11. Don't talk too much about your opinions and feelings, except to close friends and family
Try not to show a lot of facial expressions. If you don't show your emotions clearly, you will appear even more mysterious.
Step 12. Choose activities that can show your dark side
Learn to journal or write. Ordinary poems seem mysterious enough that writing poetry can be a great way to let your emotions out.
Step 13. Read good works
Writers such as Pramudya Ananta Toer, Tere Liye, and Dewi Lesteri have produced quality works. Books like these can help enrich your vocabulary so that you can impress people.
Step 14. Keep quiet, but speak when spoken to while remaining friendly
Don't give the impression that you are rude. You have to be a mysterious figure. This means, if you want to attract another guy's attention, just cast a mysterious glance and disappear into the shadows. He must be after you!
Tips
- When texting, don't use terms like "LOL" or "Wkwkwk". Instead, say "Wow, that's funny." Even though you may be reluctant to do it, it makes you more mysterious and other people will take you more seriously.
- Never insult anyone. If someone is talking to you when you want to talk to someone else, make sure your conversation with them is short, but memorable.
- If you usually say "Wow, this kid is looking for trouble!" out loud (and puts you at risk of getting into trouble) then once you've managed what you're saying into your mind, you can think whatever you want so you don't get into trouble.
- Don't be hopeless or pathetic in front of other people. If you see your enemy, don't let him know that you hate him.
- Being calm is more or less the same as being gentle. Therefore, make sure you can also be gentle.
- If someone comes to you and asks why you never speak, look him in the eye and say, "Why are you never silent?"
- If your friend asks you a question, give him a short answer or response.
Warning
- People may start to feel that you don't like them anymore and will eventually stop bothering you and get back to work (without interacting much with you, of course).
- Being too mysterious can make other people (especially your parents) feel that you have bad intentions. Therefore, do not overdo it in being mysterious.
- People may ask why you don't want to talk.
- Some people may see you as a "weird" person. However, don't take this as an insult. Take it as a compliment.
- Being mysterious doesn't mean you can't have friends. You can still have many friends and become a mysterious figure. It will all depend on how you do it (eg present yourself in front of other people).
- You may be seen as someone with a mood that is always changing.
