Talking to your crush can be both scary and stressful. You can be awkward around him. However, don't be afraid! You can talk to your crush easily. Start by introducing yourself so he knows who you are and can talk to him. Stay calm and show confidence, then find a topic of conversation to make your conversation more fun. Gently ask for her number so it doesn't turn awkward, then send her a funny message. You can also use social media to communicate with your crush and get to know him better.
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Method 1 of 4: Introducing Yourself to Your Girlfriend
Step 1. Tell your crush your name so he knows who you are
If you have a crush at school, work, or anywhere else, start by saying hello and introducing yourself. This way you can talk and interact with him in the future instead of as a stranger.
- Do not maintain prestige and distance yourself from the crush. Your crush may feel confused and think you don't like him so he doesn't want to talk to you.
- Just act casual and say something like, “Hi! I'm Arief, it seems we haven't met yet."
Step 2. Make small talk so that your conversation feels comfortable
Small talk is a great way to start a conversation that can get you talking to your crush so you may have another conversation in the future. Whenever you greet your crush, make small talk to get him to talk.
Give a short comment about the weather. This may sound boring, but it can provoke a response from your crush
Tips:
If there is a big incident, give a short comment about it. Try saying something like, “Oh my gosh, yesterday's match was really fun, wasn't it?”
Step 3. Say hello to your crush whenever you see him so he will remember you
If you want to talk to your crush, make him remember you and show that you are happy to see him. Give him a big smile and greet him whenever you see him.
- If you see your crush every morning at school or work, say something like "Good morning, Tasya!"
- Read the situation when you greet him. For example, if your crush just got into a big problem and seems frustrated, don't look happy. Try to say something casual, but considerate, like “Hey, I heard what happened. Are you ok?"
Step 4. Befriend your crush on social media so you can interact with them
After introducing yourself and getting your crush to interact with you, make friends on social media. You can browse their social media content to find friends you both know or hobbies that you both like to talk about with your crush.
Don't ask your crush to be friends with you on social media if you don't know him or her or he will be afraid and reluctant to talk to you
Method 2 of 4: Live Conversation
Step 1. Stay calm and positive whenever you talk to your crush
You have to get your crush to talk to you. He's more likely to want to interact if you're positive and aren't surprised or nervous every time you meet.
- Take deep breaths to calm yourself down before talking to your crush.
- If you're having a bad day or if you get upset about something while talking to your crush, try to be honest about it without being annoying. For example, you could say "Hey Arief, sorry if I'm a little weird today, I'm worried about my best friend's health."
Step 2. Make eye contact while talking to your crush
Your crush is more likely to want to chat if you seem interested in what's being said. Making eye contact with him while talking shows that you are listening and paying attention.
- Don't stare at him from afar because it's scary.
- Don't stare at your crush.
Step 3. Ask your crush about the day so that your conversation continues
If your crush is comfortable talking to you, you can ask him how he's doing and how he's been doing. This way he will talk about himself so you can get to know your crush better and make him start trusting you.
- Pay attention and listen to your crush when he or she is talking.
- For example, if your conversation with your crush starts to lose momentum and there is an awkward silence, try asking something that keeps him going, like “So how are you today? Any interesting events to tell?”
Step 4. Talk to your crush about things you both like
When you try to get to know your crush, you will find something you both like. Use this to talk to your crush. You can also talk about things you do at school, work, or use people you both know as conversation starters.
For example, if you and your crush both love Noah's band, tell us about your favorite song or a concert you've been to
Tips:
Pay attention to your crush's social media accounts to see his hobbies so you can talk about it with him.
Step 5. Give your crush a compliment at the right time
If you feel comfortable and confident talking to your crush, try to compliment them every now and then to make them like you even more. Don't shower him with compliments, but offer sincere compliments at the right time.
- For example, if you notice that your crush has changed her hairstyle, say something like “Hey! I love your new hair!”
- Don't act lewdly and inappropriately by commenting on one or more of his body parts. This may discourage him from talking to you again.
- You don't have to compliment him every time you talk. Your compliments can be meaningless if your crush feels you're not being sincere.
Step 6. Seduce your crush every now and then to see if he flirts back
Once you've built a friendship with your crush, try flirting with them every now and then. If he's flattering or teasing you back, it could be a sign that he likes you. If he likes you, he will want to keep talking to you.
- Try to deliver compliments that are a little more intimate, but casual. For example, you could say something like "You look so cute in that dress."
- Don't overdo it or your crush won't talk to you anymore.
- If your crush doesn't respond or doesn't seem to like it, stop the action for a while. You can try again another day, but don't ruin your chances.
Step 7. Ask your crush for help so you can talk to him
If you work with your crush or go to school with them, you can ask them to help you with an assignment or project you're working on. If he agrees, you can interact and talk to him more.
- If you don't have a project or task to work on with your crush, you can ask his or her advice or opinion on something so that he or she will want to talk to you. For example, you could say something like “Hey, I'm having a hard time choosing a gift for my parents' wedding anniversary. Do you have any ideas?”
- Asking your crush to help you do something shows that you are interested in their thoughts and opinions.
Method 3 of 4: Sending a Text Message to Your Girlfriend
Step 1. Ask for your crush's phone number casually
After you introduce yourself and talk to your crush, you can casually ask for his number. Ask for a phone number in a way that's not awkward or flirty so you can text him.
- Try asking for a phone number so you can call each other if you need anything. For example, you could ask “Hey, do you have a number to call if I ever need help?”
- Don't make the situation awkward by asking him for a phone number the first time you meet him or he will be afraid and won't give it away.
Step 2. Send a text to your crush so he has your number
After getting the phone number, send a short message with a greeting. Include your name and a short message so he can recognize and save your number for contacting each other.
- Send a friendly tone of message, such as “Hey, this is Arief. I have your number saved! Thank you."
- You can include a laughing face emoticon with your short message to make it seem friendlier.
Step 3. Send your crush a funny meme to make him laugh
Making your crush laugh is a great way to get him to talk to you. Send memes or jokes that might make him laugh so you can continue the conversation or start a new conversation.
Send him something that fits his sense of humor so he can know that you understand what he likes. For example, send a funny meme about something you both talked about
Tips:
Make your own meme that relates to your crush's preferences. For example, you could use his photo and add words to illustrate funny things he said or did.
Step 4. Start a group conversation with your crush and friends you both know
You can talk to your crush without pressure or coercion by starting a group conversation that includes your crush and some friends, classmates, or coworkers. You can send jokes, funny memes, or use group conversations to plan special gatherings and events for the group.
- Use a reasonable excuse so as not to be weird. For example, if you are in class with your crush, create a group conversation and start with something like “Hey guys, this is Sarah, has anyone done any homework from Mr. Budi? I'm having a hard time doing it wkwk.
- Your crush may think that you only see him as a friend if you only communicate via group messages, but this is a great way to show your cute and friendly side. If you want to talk to him more intimately, message him privately.
Step 5. Invite your crush to a casual place to chat
Take advantage of the habit of having casual conversations via text and invite your crush to meet face-to-face. Keep things casual and stress-free so it doesn't feel awkward and you don't seem pushy.
- For example, send a message like this to your crush “Have you tried that new ramen shop? I'm in the mood for noodles right now, wanna come?"
- If your crush refuses your request, don't take it to heart. Say something calming and relaxing, like “It's okay! Next time then."
Method 4 of 4: Using Social Media to Communicate
Step 1. Like your crush's posts on social media so they can see you
One of the simplest ways to communicate with your crush is to like their photos and social media posts to let them know you're paying attention. Don't overdo it and like all of his posts at once or you'll be seen as a stalker.
- For example, don't like old posts or photos that were uploaded before you became friends with them or they'll know you're browsing their social media posts and won't talk to you.
- Don't like your crush's comments on other people's posts or he'll think you're obsessed with him.
Step 2. Comment on your crush's post on social media
When you've chatted a few times with your crush, you can comment on their social media posts. Make sure your comments are light and friendly so they feel comfortable commenting on your social media posts.
- Don't write comments that are too long. Make sure your comments are short and sweet.
- Don't attack anyone who comments on your crush's posts. You don't know what that person has to do with your crush. So, it's rude to throw a comment.
- Don't flirt or send excessive compliments or you'll look weird and creepy.
Step 3. Tag your crush's account in funny and interesting social media posts so they can comment
Social media is a great way to start a casual conversation with your crush without appearing aggressive. Send something you like, then tag his account. Tag her account in posts she might like. He can comment and you can continue the conversation.
- If your crush loves animals and you see a funny post about animals, like a fat cat or another animal doing cute things, tag your crush's account so they can see and respond.
- Tag your crush's account based on what he likes, don't tag his account on things that are too cliché or intimate or he will stay away.
- Use social media like Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram to tag someone's account.
Step 4. Send a direct message to your crush to talk to them
Most social media like Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram have a feature to send direct messages to other people. Message your crush to talk to him, but don't overdo it or he could block you so you can no longer send direct messages.
Don't try to seduce someone when you're just getting to know them or they'll move away and you won't be able to talk to them anymore
Tips:
Don't send direct messages in a rush. Your crush probably hasn't checked his account and you don't want to appear aggressive or overly dependent on him.
