When you are insulted, you may feel embarrassed, hurt, or frustrated. Wherever it comes from, whether it's a boss or a parent, insults can be dangerous. Accepting malicious comments or responding aggressively will both make the situation worse. The best way is usually to ignore, but maybe you don't know how. Silence the haters by ignoring their insults, thinking up smart responses, and finding ways to end the negativity.
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Method 1 of 3: Try not to be distracted
Step 1. Ignore insults by fantasizing
When someone insults you, let your thoughts fly elsewhere. Think about what you want to eat later or think about the last vacation. Once you focus your attention on the conversation again, you will feel more positive.
Step 2. Get away for a while
For insults that can't be ignored, you can walk away. There's no need to sit around listening to insults if you don't want to. If leaving feels too rude, say that you need to go to the bathroom.
If your boss or parent is insulting you, staying away may not be the best option. Listen and ask them what they want you to do
Step 3. Put on headphones
To ignore people, listen to music or watch something on your phone or tablet. The sound from the headphones will drown out the insult.
This method is perfect if you are on the bus or walking somewhere
Step 4. Do another activity
Do your job. Is your sister starting to get frustrated? Ignore him by washing the dishes. Have any friends started getting rough? Take out a book to read. By showing that you are not listening, he will stop saying bad words.
Step 5. Pretend you didn't hear
While insults can't be ignored, you can pretend you weren't listening. If he asks if you heard him, say no. If he repeats, say, “When did you say that? I didn't hear?"
Step 6. Don't respond to insults online
If someone is mean to you on social media, delete the comment. Don't reread it, but block the message or unfriend it. Turn off your phone or laptop, and take a break from gadgets. Raise your irritation to a friend or talk about what happened to your mother.
Step 7. Stay calm
The most important way is not to be emotional. Once you show emotion, the bully will know you were affected and the insult will be even more cruel. Lower your voice, try not to cry, and take deep breaths. If you feel like you can't calm down, walk away until your emotions have calmed down.
Step 8. Watch yourself
Humiliation can affect mental and emotional health. So take some time each day to relax. Pay attention to physical health by running and eating nutritious foods. Take care of your mental health by meditating or joining a spiritual community.
Plan something relaxing, like a hot bath or watching a favorite TV show
Step 9. Reframe the insult you received
While you can ignore the insult for a while, your brain may subconsciously absorb and digest it. If not processed internally, insults can develop into negative thoughts. Remove the power of insults by thinking of positive or even funny responses, even if only to say to yourself.
For example, if someone insults your clothes, reframe the comment by asking how important that person's opinion is. She is not a fashion expert so her judgment is not important. If you don't care much about fashion either, say to yourself, "Hey, at least I'm not wearing pajamas out of the house!"
Step 10. Make a list of compliments people have given you
To beat the negativity of insults, make a list of the good things about yourself. Is your haircut receiving compliments? Enter in the list. Do people say you are good at math? Include that compliment too.
Write this list down in a memo app on your phone and read it to improve your mood when insulted
Method 2 of 3: Finding Solutions
Step 1. Avoid people who insult you
Do you have to see him often? If not, just avoid it. Find another route to the destination. Don't sit near him on your lunch break. Do whatever it takes to get away from him as long as it's comfortable for you.
If you can't avoid it, you can ignore him, talk to him, or report his behavior
Step 2. Ask a friend for help
If you have to meet an insulting person, find a friend to support you. Tell them what happened and ask the friend to support you if the insults start to emerge.
Say, “Remember I told you about Tasya? He's also coming to the party tomorrow night. You want to come with me? I don't want to face him alone."
Step 3. Solve the problem openly if it is affecting your life a lot
While ignoring the problem can help, sometimes insulting people need to be confronted head-on in order to stop. Talk to him face to face. Say that you want him to stop insulting you.
Say, “Thank you for wanting to talk to me. Every time I meet, I notice that you often insult my work. While I appreciate constructive criticism, your comments today are not helpful. Can you be more positive? Otherwise, don't criticize my project."
Step 4. Set privacy on social media
Avoid random comments on your posts and photos by restricting access and only being friends with people you know well. Create a private page so that other people can't access your information.
Step 5. Report him if he's always bothering you
If the person continues to harass even though you did nothing to harm him or her, report it. If you get anxious every time you go to school or work, report it to your teacher, supervisor, or other authority figure. Make a report to the school or HR department.
Method 3 of 3: Respond Smartly
Step 1. Just laugh
Instead of getting angry at being insulted, just laugh it off. Laughter implies to the insulter that his words can't intimidate you. Laughter also shows that you don't care about the comments.
However, if you're dealing with a boss or parent, don't laugh. Instead, say, "Why do you feel that way?" or “So what should I do?”
Step 2. Change the topic
If you feel the insults are coming out, change the subject. Discuss the latest music, movies, or TV shows. Talk about a new story or task at work.
Say, “Oh, I forgot to say. For the first time I watched Game of Thrones yesterday! I like. I remember you said you liked that series too.”
Step 3. Make a joke out of the situation
Laughter can lighten up even the most tense moments. If someone insults you, find the funny side. No need to insult back. Jokes are enough to brighten your heart.
For example, if he mocks your glasses, say, "I've been wearing these glasses for seven years. Did you just pay attention? Maybe you should borrow my glasses."
Step 4. Accept the insults and move on
If you don't choose to walk away or make a joke, just accept it and forget about it. Respond briefly and quickly to let him know that you are not affected. Say “OK” or “Thank you”.
Step 5. Give praise
Another way to silence an insulter is to say something nice about him or her. Compliments will make him speechless because it was completely unexpected. Try to give compliments related to insults to you.
