If a guy is interested and asks for a number, but you don't like him or aren't interested in him, the best response is to decline outright with a "No thanks." However, it may not be your style to be blunt or you feel more secure with other options. If so, try another number and dodge.
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Method 1 of 3: Outright Reject
Step 1. Say no
No need to give explanations or reasons. You can say you're not interested, or don't want to give him a number. If you use this method, make sure you really don't want to have anything to do with him even if you see him again.
- For example, say, "Thanks, but I'm not interested."
- You can also give him a number to keep in touch as a friend as long as it's stated clearly. For example, “I don't mind giving a number, but just as a friend. Right now I'm not interested in anything else."
Step 2. Try a less obvious approach
If you want, you can take a direct, but less direct approach. For example, smooth out the refusal by mentioning something you like about her. That way, your refusal will be less cruel.
For example, you might say, “I'm flattered, but I'm not in the mood for a date right now. I have to say no." This approach doesn't focus on it so it's less painful
Step 3. Make sure you say the word “no”
In the direct or indirect approach, the word “no” must be included in the refusal. If your refusal is vague and doesn't include the word "no," he may think he still has a chance. Here, you don't mean any harm, just be assertive.
- For example, the words "I'm not sure I want to date right now" still leave a little doubt.
- Instead, make sure your words are clear, such as "I'm not interested in dating, so I have to say no."
- Refuse politely, but firmly. Say thank you for your interest. Say that you are flattered. However, convey that you are not looking for a relationship, and therefore, cannot or are willing to give you a number.
Step 4. Don't apologize
Apologizing is a natural reaction to rejection. Maybe you want to apologize for letting him down. However, there's no need to apologize for not wanting to give a number. Also, an apology will only draw attention to the fact that you're sorry and sorry, which in turn will make him even more upset.
Method 2 of 3: Giving Another Number
Step 1. Provide a fake number
This option is a bit risky because he could just test by calling the number right away to be sure. However, this method can be used to get him to stop asking you out indirectly.
- Also, make sure the number you provide is not someone else's number. You can call the number ahead of time to see if it's connected. Don't give anyone's number to a stranger.
- If you happen to run into him again and he asks why he can't call you, look at the number and say, “Oops, I didn't notice. Turns out I gave another number.” And when he asks for his number again, do the same (and if you see him again, it's best to tell the truth).
Step 2. Provide a hotline number
You can give a hotline number to a guy you just met, so you don't have to give a real number.
You might be interested to know that in America, there are rejection phone numbers. The line explained to the caller that the number he was given was fake as a way to decline with a bit of humor. The number is (605) 475-6968
Step 3. Use a friend to act as a girlfriend
Another option is to go out with a boy friend who is willing to pretend to be a boyfriend. Use him as a shield if you need to reject someone.
You can say, "Oh, I'd love to be alone, but I'm here with my boyfriend." If necessary, take your fake boyfriend's arm when he says it
Method 3 of 3: Avoiding the Problem
Step 1. Use security as an excuse
One way to avoid trouble is to say that you never give out personal information to strangers out of a sense of caution. Of course this reason is true so you are not completely lying.
- Say, "Sorry, I don't give numbers to strangers. I've had bad experiences, so now I don't give random numbers anymore."
- If you explain it in such a way that he realizes that the action is common, he won't feel rejected.
Step 2. Use your boyfriend as an excuse
Even if you don't have a boyfriend, you can pretend you have one to make it easier to refuse. If the person asking for your number thinks you already have one, they won't feel personally rejected.
For example, say, “I can't give you a number. I have a boyfriend." Upon receiving an answer like that, most men will walk away without a second thought
Step 3. Turn the game over
Another way to dodge is to ask for the number. That way, the ball is in your hand, and you can do anything with that number. Make sure you write down the number yourself. Don't give him your cell phone to charge because he may call his own cell phone to get your number.
It might seem cruel to ask for a man's number only to be ignored. However, if he continues to approach you, this may cause him to stop
Step 4. Put safety first
Don't be afraid to leave if you need to. If the guy you're rejecting starts showing signs of being rude, engage security and leave as soon as possible. Better to avoid than sorry.
- If there is no security at the place, report it to management or call the police if you feel threatened.
- You can also go out in groups. When you go to a club, bring some friends.
