Do you want to ignore the guy you like so he likes you even more? Or, do you want to ignore someone you have to leave (even though you still like them)? With a few simple tips and discipline, you can either ignore the guy you like in order to lure him or let him go.
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Method 1 of 3: Lure Men by Ignoring Him
Step 1. Don't reply to the message right away
When you get a text message from a guy you like, it feels really good. You may want to reply right away. However, don't go too fast! If you keep him waiting, he will be more likely to come after you.
- Wait approximately one hour (if the message contains a direct, specific question) to one day (if the message only contains a “hello”) before replying.
- You may need to set a reminder just in case you forget.
Step 2. Don't start the chat
If you like a special man, anything can remind you of him. Maybe you're prompted to call him, mention a song you hear, or ask him to do something fun. However, wait for him to contact you, don't start the conversation just yet.
- Maybe you need to jot down some things you want to chat with him.
- That way, when he invites you to chat, you'll already have some interesting comments to work with.
Step 3. Seduce others
If you and your crush are at the same party, try flirting with someone else. Let him see you dancing with another guy, or put your hand on someone's shoulder. Let him see you laugh and have fun. This will make him want you more.
- Approach your friends and say something funny.
- Find extra reasons to stand close to someone, or find reasons to touch them.
Step 4. Let him know that you are busy
You'll be more attractive to him if he sees that you don't need him to keep himself busy. Find fun ways to spend time, like hanging out with friends or joining a club to keep your schedule full. Get him to fit into your schedule if he wants to enjoy your time with you.
If he calls you to ask you out on a Saturday night, say, “I would, but I already have plans. How about Saturday afternoon?”
Step 5. Give him space
If he'd rather play basketball with his friends than go to the movies with you, don't be offended in the slightest. Just relax and do something with your friends too. When he realizes that you give him a lot of space, he will be attracted to you.
- If he has plans with someone else and you get angry, talk to one person (who you trust), then forget about it.
- Make sure he doesn't cancel the promise he made with you. If you and he already have a plan together and he changes it (and this has happened more than once), it's probably best to just ignore him forever.
Method 2 of 3: Ignoring Men in More Subtle Ways
Step 1. Wait a few days before responding
If you want to ignore a guy in a more subtle way, one option is to wait a few days if he asks you to meet. If she wants to meet outside of work or school hours, please say you're interested, but should find a time when you can.
- If he asks you out, say that you'll call him later.
- Wait one to three days for confirmation.
Step 2. Get him to fit into your schedule
If the guy you like wants to ask you out, get him to fit into your schedule. Don't change your life to accommodate his wishes. This is a method that can be used both to tame pigeons and to subtly ignore men.
- For this method to work, you must always be busy.
- Fill your time with regular activities, such as weekly trips to the salon with friends or going to the bookstore to find new books.
Step 3. Make him jealous
Another effective way to ignore men is to pay attention to other men. Making him a little jealous is a great way to remind him that you're important to him and encourage him to give him the attention you deserve.
- You can make him jealous by sending or texting someone else.
- Another method is to let him see you chatting and having fun with other people.
- Be careful not to overdo it. Make him jealous just a little, don't overdo it so he stays away.
Step 4. Give a signal that you want to separate
If you and this guy are already in a relationship, but he's not treating you the way you want him to, you may want to signal that you want to separate. If he really loves you, he will try and make sure you stay with him.
- Talk about your vacation plans (as if you didn't involve him).
- Maybe you're thinking about spending your vacation camping or out on the town with your family.
- When talking about the future, try saying things like, "Well, we don't know what will happen to us in the future."
Method 3 of 3: Ignoring Men Forever
Step 1. Say that the relationship is over
If you've decided to end the relationship forever, make sure he knows that. Speak in person (not on the phone) and be as clear as possible. Don't make her think that the breakup is only temporary because she may be waiting.
- You can say, "Our relationship didn't work out. That's all there is to it."
- You could also say, "This relationship has come to an end. I'm ready to try something new."
Step 2. Delete the number from your phone
If you want to get over a guy (even if you still have feelings for him), you just have to ignore him. Start by deleting the number from the phone. If you can't call or text with the press of a button, you're less likely to contact him.
- If you'd like to write down the number elsewhere, go ahead.
- However, if you have your phone in your hand and want to call or text it, you'll have to find the number first and enter it manually.
- This extra step should be enough to break the contact and get you to put your phone down.
Step 3. Ignore him on social media
If you want to forget a guy, you have to avoid him, even on the internet. You should ignore him completely on social media. If you don't want to "unfriend" him, you should at least "hide" or "unfollow" him. This will give you room to recuperate.
Step 4. Don't try to fix
When you're heartbroken, you tend to imagine ways you could have made the situation better. More than likely, you will be tempted to call your ex and try to fix the situation. However, if you've decided to ignore him, don't bother thinking about fixing what happened. Remember, you're not obligated to fix things or make her feel better. Your job is just to take care of yourself.
- If you really have to fix something, just write it down.
- You can also talk about it with close friends.
Step 5. Don't say goodbye on any occasion
You may be tempted to send a message of congratulations on his birthday, Eid, Christmas, New Year, or any other celebration. Do not do it. You will only open doors that are best kept closed.
It's a good idea to say hello to the other person, then put down your phone
Step 6. Get busy
The best way to ignore your ex is to keep yourself busy. This means a variety of things, for example by going out with other men, enjoying quality time with friends, or staying at home and watching a movie while eating pizza. No matter what, make sure you stay busy, so you can ignore your ex easily.
Step 7. Temporarily distance yourself from the same friends as your ex's friends
If you and your ex have a lot of friends in common, you may need to step away from the group for a while. Find other friends who are also fun. By staying away from the same group of friends, you are less likely to run into your ex so you can get over them more easily.
- Maybe this means you won't be attending parties or other fun events, but only temporarily, in time your sacrifice will be worth it.
- This method may open up opportunities for new friendships.
