Admit it, it's bound to get annoying when you see a woman constantly interacting with her partner or even flirting with her! For example, the woman may laugh out loud at her partner's jokes, touch her partner in an inappropriate way, or simply tease her partner in public. On the one hand, you should not immediately accuse your partner of cheating. However, on the other hand you are also very hurt by their behavior. So, what should you do to respond to a woman who seems to be trying to snatch her partner from your hands? Try reading this article to find out the answer! Through this article, you are also taught to take a stand to ensure that you are receiving the security and love you deserve in a relationship.
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Method 1 of 4: Observing His Behavior
Step 1. Observe how to flirt with your partner
Just because she's flirting with your partner doesn't mean she'll want to seize him! In some cases, a woman will flirt with a man who already has a partner to increase his confidence, or because she wants to be friends with him. Is this attitude towards everyone, or just your partner? If it is addressed to everyone, it means that your partner does not have a special place in his heart. If not, chances are he really likes your partner. Some examples of seductive behavior that you should watch out for:
- He puts his hand on the partner's arm or constantly touches the partner.
- He makes eye contact with the partner.
- He laughs at the whole couple jokes.
- He always turns his body so that he faces his partner.
- He always initiates a conversation with a partner.
Step 2. Observe if the woman always wants to spend time alone with her partner
If so, it means that his behavior is not based solely on the desire to have social power or increase self-esteem! Therefore, be aware of the moments when they spend time together. In particular, be aware if:
- He takes couples on trips together, such as to watch a movie at the cinema or have lunch together.
- He asks for personal help (such as changing the lights in his house) so he can spend time alone with his partner.
- He took the couple for a walk together.
- If your partner claims he wants to do something, like fetch a glass of water in another room, he suddenly offers to join in.
Step 3. Observe how often the woman contacts her partner
Does your partner secretly exchange messages with him often? Does the frequency of contacting a partner exceed a platonic relationship? Even though he doesn't necessarily do this because he wants to steal a partner, you still need to be aware of him!
- If you see your partner constantly texting with someone, don't hesitate to ask that person's identity. If your partner seems defensive, he or she is probably texting the woman.
- Because reading your partner's cell phone can be considered an invasion of privacy, don't hesitate to communicate your crisis of trust if you think your partner is lying.
Method 2 of 4: Dealing with Jealousy
Step 1. Acknowledge your jealousy
Acknowledging jealousy is the first step to overcoming it! After admitting it, try to let go of the jealousy little by little. Remember, jealousy in a light dose will actually bring positive benefits in the relationship, especially because its existence will always remind you of the desire to have a monogamous relationship with your partner. However, don't let your jealousy flare up uncontrollably, okay? Acknowledge your jealousy, and try to separate it mentally from other aspects of your life.
Step 2. Understand that jealousy doesn't always have to be acted upon
Jealousy is just an emotion. Therefore, understand that what you think and what happens in the real world are not necessarily in line. Accept the fact that jealousy is just a feeling that doesn't necessarily happen in real life. In other words, separate the jealousy from the feelings you have for your partner and your relationship.
Step 3. Think about your strengths
Each day, write down three things you like about yourself. Whenever you start to feel insecure, praise yourself too! By boosting your self-confidence and focusing on positive characteristics, you'll always remember that you are, in fact, a special person to date!
Method 3 of 4: Expressing Your Feelings to Your Partner
Step 1. Make a list of things that make you feel uncomfortable
Try to think of a specific problem that is bothering you. Does your partner feel more concerned about the woman? Would you like your partner to spend more time with you instead of the woman? Try to pinpoint the situation that bothers you the most, and write it down on the list. Some examples of situations that might annoy you:
- The woman touches her partner in a way she shouldn't.
- On the weekends, the partner chooses to spend more time with the woman than with you.
- Your partner is constantly calling or texting him or her when the two of you are out together.
- The couple and the woman are seen flirting with each other in front of you.
Step 2. Wait at least one day
Don't give any reaction until your jealousy has subsided a little. Also, make sure the issues listed on the list are issues that really bother you. The next day, once you've calmed down, try reading the list again and making revisions if needed.
Step 3. Invite your partner to discuss in a calm and controlled situation
Set a time and location for the discussion to be minimally distracting, and don't invite her into a discussion when you're angry. Instead, make sure the communication process takes place when both of you are really calm and able to think rationally. There are several ways you can start the discussion process:
- "I feel like you've been spending more time with him in the last few weeks. I feel insecure because of that.”
- "I'm glad to see you happy with your friendship. However, some of your interactions actually make me uncomfortable.”
- "I'm really happy with our relationship. However, it seems that there are things that need to be changed so that I can feel more valued and important.”
Step 4. Set boundaries in the relationship
Remember, every couple has their own “rules of the game”. In other words, some couples object if one party watches a movie at the cinema with the opposite sex. However, there are also couples who do not mind if one of the parties makes physical contact with the opposite sex. Therefore, you should have an open discussion with your partner to determine what behaviors you can and cannot do. Be clear about your needs to let your partner know that your friendship or relationship with another woman is really bothering you.
- Try defining these boundaries with your partner. For example, you could say, "I'm not asking you to stop being friends with him. But, I'd really appreciate it if you stopped texting her when we're alone together. Can't you focus more on me?"
- Don't create ambiguous or manipulative boundaries. For example, a sentence like, “I want to spend more time with you” isn't really specific. Instead, try saying, “I want to be alone with you more often. Can we plan a date night in the near future?”
- Say what you can and can't tolerate. If you are uncomfortable seeing your partner massage the woman's back, make it clear that this behavior is not appropriate.
- Open yourself up to listen to your partner's perspective and boundaries.
Step 5. Use “I” speech
Convey the hidden complaints about the relationship between the couple and the woman. Don't accuse him of having an affair right away! Instead, focus on making constructive efforts to improve your relationship. Use specific language to ask your partner to change his interaction pattern with the woman. Some examples of sentences that you can convey to your partner:
- “I really feel uncomfortable if you prefer to watch a movie with him on a Friday night. I also want to go with you. Otherwise, I'd prefer that you guys go with someone else too."
- "I feel hurt when you keep texting him and laughing at your internal jokes when you're with me."
Step 6. End the discussion on a positive note
Close the discussion by complimenting or showing your affection for your partner. If you're both having problems and are willing to work out a solution together, congratulations, because it means that your relationship is moving in a more positive direction! Some examples of compliments you can give to your partner:
- "I really love the quality moments we spend together."
- "I had a feeling you would really listen to me when I was having trouble."
- "You make me feel happy and supported."
Method 4 of 4: Strengthening Relationships
Step 1. Do new things with your partner
Sharing new experiences and memories can strengthen your relationship, you know! Some things you can try with your partner:
- Take a Zumba class.
- Cook dinner.
- Go somewhere new on the weekend.
- Drive a few hours to the nearest mountain, then climb the mountain.
- Learn to surf.
- Volunteer at an animal shelter.
- Take a photography class.
Step 2. Have some “quality time” each week with your partner
If necessary, schedule a special time, however short it may be, to spend quality time with your partner. In that moment, focus on each other and get rid of irrelevant distractions! For example, you can invite your partner to cook dinner together, watch television, or just tell each other how busy they are that day. Remember, making time for each other is the perfect way to cement your relationship!
Step 3. Ask the right questions
Make your partner feel loved and appreciated by practicing appropriate and effective communication. Here are some sample questions you can ask to make the conversation between the two of you more productive:
- "Is there anything I can help you with, isn't there?"
- "What do you like about our relationship?"
- "What 'simple thing' can I do to show my affection?"
Tips
- Do not pay too much attention to women who are suspected of wanting to win the heart of a partner. Remember, you should focus on trying to strengthen your relationship with your partner, not on your perception of what they are doing to your partner.
- Always respect your partner or woman who might want to win her heart. Even if their behavior annoys you, never lose control!
Warning
- If your partner admits to having an affair, think carefully about whether the relationship still needs to be continued or not.
- If your partner seems unresponsive or caring when you hear your complaints, try to reconsider, is it true that your relationship is really healthy and happy?
