Communicating over the phone with a loved one, regardless of who initiates the conversation, can be a truly spooky and unforgettable experience! You admit it too? However, all the anxiety will pay off after you and that person's relationship becomes closer and more intimate, right? Therefore, prepare yourself as well as possible to create a positive first impression, maintain the interest of the other person, and end the conversation well. As a result, the relationship between the two of you can be even closer and fun after that!
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Part 1 of 3: Creating a Good Impression
Step 1. Stay calm
If you have the luxury of contacting him in advance, don't forget to be as prepared as possible. Inhale deeply and steadily through your nose until your body feels completely relaxed. When you feel ready, calm, and in control, grab your phone and call him immediately. If he's the one calling you, take a few deep breaths before picking up.
If your nervousness is too great, don't pick up the phone! Instead, give yourself space and time to cool off, and call him back when you're fully prepared by saying, "Sorry, I didn't see my phone." Don't forget to check voicemail just in case he leaves a message
Step 2. Say a casual greeting
There is no need to say a greeting sentence that is too long. In fact, the greeting is as short as, “Hello, how are you?” is more than enough. After greeting him, try to identify his feelings or emotions through his response. Want to say a unique greeting? It's best to save the greeting after the two of you have communicated a few times over the phone.
Often times, someone's voice will sound different on the phone. Therefore, do not forget to explain your identity
Step 3. Start the conversation with a question
In contrast to face-to-face communication, telephone conversations are generally always carried out with a specific purpose. Unless the goal has been "provided" by the other person, try asking open-ended questions that answer more than "Yes" or "No", such as:
- "What did the class question mean, huh?"
- "The orchestra concert was good, wasn't it?"
- "What do you think of the new Star Wars trailer?"
Step 4. Identify topics that interest him
As you hear the answer, try to find a topic that you can turn into a full conversation. The topic could relate to the question being asked, such as about an academic assignment, or be raised from a completely different issue. If he doesn't respond, try answering your own questions and asking what he thinks.
Part 2 of 3: Keeping the Conversation
Step 1. Discuss shared interests
Try to focus on a topic that interests him. In other words, avoid topics that are personal to you and difficult for the other person to respond to. If you don't know the right topic, try bringing up a topic that "brings" the two of you together, such as your friends, class, or social circle.
- If he enjoys working out, try asking, "Are you ready for Friday's game?"
- If he often contributes articles to school magazines, try saying, “Your last article was awesome! How come you got that topic?”
- If he's taking dance classes or community marching bands, try asking, "What moves are you learning now?"
Step 2. Let him tell the story
Remember, everyone loves to tell stories about themselves, and they'll be happier knowing that someone else is listening to their story. Therefore, listen carefully to his words and try not to interrupt him. As a result, he can enjoy the interaction even more!
Step 3. Respond to the words
After the other person tells you something, try to respond. For example, if he tells you about his favorite band, try discussing some songs you know from the group. If he's telling you about a school event, try to share your thoughts on the event. By doing so, the communication that is established will remain active. In addition, you are able to show interest and concern for their interests.
Step 4. Fill in the blanks with questions
No one likes being interrogated. However, inserting a few questions can actually reduce the awkwardness of the atmosphere and keep the conversation going. If you're having trouble finding the right questions, try asking the other person to elaborate on the information he recently shared.
Step 5. Keep the topic light
Improve your partner's mood before the conversation even begins! The trick is to show your positivity and optimism, even if the other person doesn't do the same, and avoid sentences that sound too negative or critical. If you want, you can make a light joke and laugh to lighten the mood. If it fits the topic, you can also give personal compliments to lighten the mood, but also prepare a new subject in case your efforts don't get to him.
Don't bring up controversial topics, such as politics and religion, unless the person you're talking to is the head of the debate team
Part 3 of 3: Ending the Phone Well
Step 1. End the conversation pleasantly
Try to end the conversation with a fun topic or an interesting joke. This way, the person you're talking to will be left with positive emotions and willing to talk to you again at a later date. If you run out of topics, the conversation is colored with pauses that are too long, or if the other person sounds less interested in continuing the conversation with you, end the conversation immediately. Even though these three don't necessarily mean that the conversation between the two of you is ending badly, keep an eye on it to realize when it's time to stop.
If the two of you are chatting on the phone for the first time, there's no need to talk too long. Generally, 10 to 15 minutes is enough to cement the relationship without making the situation awkward
Step 2. End the conversation politely
Ending the conversation with a straight, polite sentence is a wise option. In other words, just say that you have to go, and thank him for wanting to talk to you. Generally, the other person won't ask the reason behind it, but you can prepare a simple excuse if he or she does, such as "I have to get dinner" or "I have work to do, here."
Step 3. Ask the right time to call him back
Generally, asking someone out after calling them once is not a wise move. However, you can still arrange a schedule to get back in touch with him after that. For example, if you both study at the same educational institution, try saying, "Can we talk later in class?" so that you have a reason to re-engage with them. If not, ask him if it's a good time to call him back or have an online chat with him. In other words, take advantage of the opportunity to re-engage and, if you're lucky, date her.
- If the response is positive, get off his radar for a few days before calling him back, so you don't appear desperate or possessive.
- If the response is negative, don't panic! He may also feel nervous, embarrassed, or disturbed by other events that are coloring his life. Instead of getting desperate, give him some space and time to be alone, and try to get back in touch with him after a few weeks.
Step 4. Take time to cool down
You're more likely to feel euphoria, anxiety, or some other combination of emotions after calling your crush. Whatever the situation, take time to cool off and get back on the ground. Don't stress! Remember, you have successfully stepped closer to your partner's heart, and that condition is certainly worth celebrating.
