You'll agree that ending a romantic relationship is a painful moment, especially if it was due to your ex's bad behavior. When you have to go through a painful transition period, it's only natural if you then arise a desire for revenge within you. Although it sounds fun, the fact is that revenge behavior will often make the perpetrator feel guilty or even more uncomfortable afterward. To avoid making a mistake, try reading this article to find some less risky revenge strategies, one of which is to show that you no longer need them! By responding to the desire for revenge, you will undoubtedly feel much better afterwards.
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Method 1 of 3: Replying to Ex-Girlfriend's Negative Behavior
Step 1. Send a text message to another guy “accidentally
” Make him think that you've turned to another guy by sending a seductive message to his number. Shortly after, call him back to explain that the message should have been received by someone else, not him. By doing so, he will think that you no longer care about him because you have found a new person.
For example, you could send a message that says, “Thank you for asking me out last night. Can't wait to see you again." After that, send a follow-up message that reads, “Oops, sorry wrong number. I'm deleting your contact now, okay?"
Step 2. Upload embarrassing photos of your ex-girlfriend on the internet or somewhere else that can be seen by many people
Remember, only photos that are allowed to be uploaded are not private! After finding the right photo, immediately upload it on your social media accounts or a friend. Alternatively, print the photo or try turning it into a poster, then post the photo in your ex-boyfriend's neighborhood or at his favorite hangout.
- For example, you could post a photo of your ex-boyfriend doing something silly or when his hair isn't in good shape.
- Don't upload obscene photos for any reason!
Warning:
Remember, constantly uploading photos of your ex-girlfriend can be categorized as bullying. If you want to apply this method, make sure you only do it once.
Step 3. Hide his belongings when taking your belongings from his house
Tell your ex-boyfriend that you need to come to his house to pick up your belongings that were left there. While there, try to hide things she likes, like the television remote, her favorite video games, or the Lego pieces she has. Trust me, he won't be able to live in peace until the item is found!
- Do not take his belongings because this can be interpreted as theft.
- Make sure the item is not damaged when hidden. For example, you can hide the television remote between the sofa cushions, but you shouldn't place it in the toilet water reservoir because you risk clogging the waterway.
- Place the item in a location where he will be able to find it. For example, you can put a bottle opener in a different kitchen drawer, but not in the drain hole of the air conditioner.
Step 4. Send an anonymous message containing your ex-girlfriend's bad deeds to her new partner
Chances are, you will be hurt when you find out that your ex has a new partner, especially if that person is his or her cheating partner. Whatever the situation, try not to take your anger out on the new partner, as he may not know the truth. However, you still have the right to tell him bad things about your ex. For example, you can explain the actual situation via email, social media, or a short text message.
- Create fake accounts on social media or use fake email addresses. If you want to send a text message, use an app that allows you to send a message from a fake number.
- You could say, “I heard you're dating Liam, right now. I think you should know that Liam already has a girlfriend when he starts to approach you. He cheated on him and constantly lied to his girlfriend. I'd be more careful if I were you."
Step 5. Let him feel the natural consequences of his actions
In fact, it's the perfect way to get revenge because you don't have to do anything about it! After he's hurt you, you're more likely to feel unfair because he can just walk away from the blame. However, believe that these negative seeds will surely be reaped one day. Therefore, there is no need to do anything and wait for the time when the karma comes to him.
For example, your ex-boyfriend may seem to be living happily ever after with his cheating partner. However, rest assured that sooner or later, his infidelity will be smelled by others, and the condition will surely tarnish his reputation. In addition, since their relationship started from the wrong point, there is a high probability that a crisis of trust will arise between them. Think about the consequences whenever resentment comes back to your mind
Method 2 of 3: Showing You Don't Need It
Step 1. Have fun with your closest friends
After ending a relationship with an ex-boyfriend, most women prefer to stay in their room and cry. While you can do that too, it never hurts to get out of the house and have fun! Invite your friends to have fun together, then upload the fun to your social media accounts to let everyone know that you're doing well.
For example, try getting them to rollerblade, bowling, or miniature golf. If you want, you can also audition at a local theater group with your closest friends, host a game play event at home, or take them to a nearby cafe and sing at a karaoke place
Step 2. Be friendly with other guys when you're around your ex
Even if you don't feel ready for a new romantic relationship, there's nothing wrong with being friendly and flirting with other men. After all, people tend to want something or someone they can't have. That's why seeing you being affectionate with another guy might make your ex-girlfriend jealous! To apply this method, all you have to do is compliment the other guy casually or put a light touch on his arms and shoulders. When seen by your ex-boyfriend, try to get closer to the guy to make the situation seem more intimate.
For example, you could say, "You're so cute, aren't you!" or "That shirt really shows your abs."
Tips:
Upload photos of yourself side by side with other men on your social media accounts, if you think your ex-boyfriend is still opening the account. Even if the guy is only your friend, doing so can make your ex-boyfriend jealous and feel like you no longer need him.
Step 3. Celebrate all the achievements in your life
Dealing with the end of a relationship with an ex-boyfriend is not easy. That's why it's perfectly natural to feel lethargic or find it hard to think positively right now. To work around this, try making a list of the things you are grateful for in life. After that, share your gratitude with everyone by uploading it to social media or telling it to your closest friends.
For example, you might post an online status such as, "It's great to be able to showcase my work at Good Beans Coffeehouse !" or “Thankful for my friends, my lovely dog, and my fun job.”
Step 4. Take time to improve your appearance
Put on your favorite clothes, do your hair, and put on some great makeup. Also consider changing your hairstyle or getting a manicure at the salon. After that, take a photo to record your new look and upload it to all your social media accounts for more people to see. In addition, you can also invite a friend to travel to places frequented by your ex-girlfriend so she can see your new look.
Don't obsess over changing your appearance or trying to improve it. Remember, even now you look very special
Step 5. Find new activities that can make you more mature
After breaking up with your ex-girlfriend, it's likely that the loneliness that comes with it will make it even more difficult for you to spend time comfortably. To overcome this, why not try to take advantage of that freedom to do the activity you've always wanted to try? Try compiling a list of activities, hobbies, or interests that you've always wanted to try. After that, start doing them one by one to pass the time.
For example, try dining at a new restaurant, learn to paint, learn to play the guitar, or join a casual sports club
Step 6. Stop mentioning her name so she feels like she's been forgotten by you
Since he's hurt you, you're more likely to want to keep telling everyone the bad news. Unfortunately, this behavior will only show how much you still care! Therefore, instead of acting like that, don't mention his name at all so that others think you have completely forgotten him.
If you want to pour your heart out, do so only with those closest to you who you can trust, not everyone you meet
Method 3 of 3: Dealing with Desire for Revenge
Step 1. Allow yourself to feel the emotions that arise
Most likely, your heart is really hurting right now, and that's perfectly normal. That is why, your desire for revenge is understandable and acceptable. Therefore, don't hesitate to accept any emotions that arise and let them go away on their own with time.
Try thinking, “I'm so mad that Seth broke up on Valentine's Day. I think he really cares about me. I really want him to feel the pain I feel.”
Tips:
Feeling guilty for wanting to take revenge on your ex-girlfriend? Suppress those unreasonable feelings! After all, there's nothing wrong with imagining yourself taking revenge on people who have hurt you
Step 2. Imagine yourself taking revenge and the consequences behind every act of revenge that you execute
In many cases, thinking about possible revenge actions is far more satisfying than executing the action through actual actions. So try imagining yourself doing something really mean to your ex, like spray-painting your favorite clothes or pages with nasty words. Enjoy the satisfaction that comes from imagining his suffering! After that, imagine the consequences that you must accept if you actually realize the action.
For example, if your ex-boyfriend cheated on you, try imagining yourself walking out of the house and spraying paint on your ex-boyfriend's car, creating the words "cheating." After that, imagine that your ex-boyfriend feels really embarrassed when he has to drive that car around town. Then, think about the consequences behind the action. For example, her mother may become very angry with you or even ask for monetary compensation and report you to the police
Step 3. Do a relaxing activity to relax and clear your body and mind
Most likely, you're feeling really angry right now and while it's natural, try not to make decisions in an emotional state. Instead, engage in activities that make your body and mind more relaxed and in control.
For example, take a yoga class, color a picture book for adults, go for a walk in nature, go for a walk at the mall with your closest friends, or play with your beloved dog
Step 4. Try telling your ex-boyfriend how you feel
While you may not want to see it again, understand that sometimes expressing your pain to the person who hurt you can make up for the negative emotions that arise. If you feel comfortable, try asking your partner to meet or communicate your intentions via cell phone. At this point, use "I" to describe the impact his or her actions had on you.
- "I" speech focuses on how you feel, rather than on your ex's faults. For example, you could say, "I feel unappreciated by you," instead of "You don't respect me."
- For example, you might say, "I feel betrayed, and it hurts so bad, you know."
Variation:
If you don't feel ready for face-to-face communication with your ex, try explaining your feelings to him via email or text message.
Step 5. Feel sorry for your ex for not being able to be a good and reliable person for you
Right now, most likely the biggest emotion you feel for your ex is hatred. While that's natural, understand that you'll feel better if you can have compassion, rather than hatred, on him. Therefore, try to view him as a weak or fragile person who is unable to sustain his relationship with you. After that, think about how pathetic the situation is.
Try thinking, “That's so sad. Turns out he's just not mature enough to break up with his girlfriend before starting a relationship with someone else," or "He must be so lonely that he feels he needs to have two girlfriends. Sorry, yes."
Tips
Remember, living a better life is the best revenge attempt
Warning
- Don't break the law for your revenge! For example, don't destroy his belongings or steal his car.
- Don't share indecent photos of your ex-girlfriend! Apart from being disrespectful, this behavior is also considered illegal.
- Chances are, you'll feel even more uncomfortable after getting revenge on your ex-boyfriend. Therefore, try changing your point of view. Instead of trying to make him suffer, focus on making yourself happy again!
