Today's technology can make people connect with each other and hide their activities more easily than ever before. Checking your partner's activity almost always includes surveillance activities, from watching their actions and behavior to monitoring their activities on the internet. Your partner can access the internet from a computer, tablet, or cell phone which can make it difficult for you to monitor their activity. It would be better if you talk about the problem you are having with your partner instead of spying on him. If you're looking for information on how to catch students cheating on the internet, check out the wikiHow article "Detecting Plagiarism."
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Method 1 of 6: Watching Your Partner's Behavior
Step 1. See if your partner looks different
Cheating partners will look different in a number of ways, including physically distancing themselves or becoming disinterested in sex; keep away secretly; always invites to fight, always criticizes or behaves badly; or completely absent from your life. Watch for his online activity, which could indicate that he is hiding something, such as: closing his internet browser when you enter the room; request privacy when using the computer; spend a lot of time on the internet after you sleep; create a new email account, and other activities.
Step 2. Make sure that it doesn't do anything else
Someone who distances himself or behaves strangely doesn't necessarily mean he's cheating: he may be too busy with work or family matters. He or she may also engage in dangerous activities, such as buying or selling drugs, or gambling on the internet. These issues are serious issues that can have a dramatic impact on your relationship and they should be resolved with the help of you, an expert and a group of people who care about your partner.
Step 3. Keep a journal of your partner's activities
Keep track of his movements as much as possible, including internet activity, travel, overtime at work, ATM withdrawals, incoming calls, e-mails, and so on. This will help you track down important details to prove that your partner is trying to hide something.
Step 4. Prepare yourself for what you will find
Plan what you will do when you find out your partner is cheating on you. Knowing this information can damage your relationship-not only between you and your partner, but also between family members, children, and friends. This can also have a bad financial impact on you. Find out where you stand on infidelity and its boundaries. At what level of physical contact would you consider infidelity?
- Have storytellers. Choose a close friend or family member who will listen to your voice. If possible, choose someone who won't be mistaken for your romantic partner; your relationship may be closely watched.
- Create a support group of family and friends who can help you get through this problem. In an infidelity situation, family and friends will be torn in two. To whom should they remain loyal? Think about who has supported you the most.
- Consult a family or marriage attorney. You will also need advice from a family attorney if you are married or share your wealth with your spouse.
- See a counselor or therapist. If your suspicions are correct, you will have to make a decision that will change your life. This process can be emotionally traumatizing and an expert can help you through it. Ask your trusted friends for recommendations to find a counselor who suits you. It will take several visits with several different counselors until you find one that suits you.
Method 2 of 6: Monitor Your Spouse's Activity on the Internet
Step 1. Check the internet history
This can let you know what websites your partner visits frequently. Every web browser has a history function. If your partner is really afraid of being caught cheating, he will delete his browser history, and this can make it difficult for you to determine what websites he has visited.
Step 2. Check the email
If you have your spouse's email address and password, you can check their messages. Or, you can try logging into the email account if the email password is already saved in your browser. You should be aware of the laws in your country regarding electronic privacy, as different countries may treat this activity differently.
Enable cookies on his computer. If your partner's email account password isn't saved in their browser, they may not have cookies enabled on their computer. Go to the settings section of your web browser to enable cookies that will store information and passwords. The computer will be ready for your partner to use, and passwords and other information can be saved
Step 3. Try communicating on the internet with your partner using a pseudonym
If you feel that your partner often chats or discusses in online forums, you can also enter the forum using a pseudonym. Talking to and flirting with your partner or engaging in online conversations will show hints of his recent activity and lure him into being unfaithful.
Some people create fake Facebook accounts to spy on their partners, although you should be careful when using this method as it can damage your relationship and the trust that you both have built
Step 4. Install the keylogger program on your partner's computer
The keylogger program is used to track frequently used key combinations on a computer. This program can track your own computer usage as well as that of others. This program will show you a username and password that can be used to access your partner's email or other accounts. Computer programs like this vary according to their quality; some programs can be downloaded for free, such as Free Keylogger Pro, while other programs are paid services, such as All in One Keylogger, The Best Keylogger, or Total Spy, with prices varying between Rp. 450 thousand to Rp. 1 million, even more than Rp. 1 million.
Step 5. Install surveillance software on your partner's computer or cell phone
There is a lot of software, varying in reputation as well as price and effectiveness, that can be purchased and installed on a computer or mobile phone. These programs, such as WebWatcher, Stealth Genie, or Spector Pro, can track usage activity as well as location (if installed on your phone). The program features social media surveillance, email and chat recording, and other functions. This program has various prices, starting from Rp. 1.2 million to Rp. 1.4 million.
Make sure you understand the laws on electronic surveillance and privacy in your country before taking this action
Method 3 of 6: Checking Spouse Phone Activity
Step 1. Investigate where the unknown phone number came from
If your partner has a phone number that you don't recognize on their cell phone, you can reverse a phone number lookup, or reverse an internet email search.
Step 2. Check the messages on your partner's phone
If there is any suspicious chatter that isn't between you and your partner, he or she may be having an affair with someone else. Check the chat history on your partner's cell phone to determine how long the affair has been going on. However, he may have deleted the messages and the message history was deleted as well.
Step 3. Install the GPS tracking software on your partner's phone
Many new technologies and software can track the physical location of a cell phone via GPS. You can track your partner's travel route and his exact location if he has his cell phone with him. Compare his actions and words to you. If there is a discrepancy, you may have caught him lying to you.
Step 4. Use surveillance technology that can remotely activate a microphone on a cell phone
Some technologies and software can turn on the microphone in your phone so you can hear and record sound from it. Basically, cell phones work like small microphones that can record conversations or other sounds that sound near the phone.
Step 5. Determine if your partner uses more than one SIM card
Different SIM cards will hold different information, including contact lists, but the person can still use the same phone so it won't raise suspicion.
Step 6. Check your partner's browsing history on the internet
If your partner has a smartphone, he or she will have a search history. This can help you figure out what websites you visit the most. Every web browser has a history feature. If your partner is really afraid of being caught cheating, he will delete his browser history, and this can make it difficult for you to determine what websites he has visited.
Method 4 of 6: Researching Unknown People on the Internet
Step 1. Investigate where the unknown email is coming from
If your partner has an email from someone you don't know, you can reverse an internet email search, or reverse a phone number search.
Step 2. Search for the name in online search engines to learn something about the person
If you suspect that your partner is having an affair with a certain person, or you suspect a name, you can get a lot of information about that person by searching the internet. Online search engines can also be useful for finding out the person's interests, occupation, family condition, and how much money they have.
Step 3. Pay for a background check
When a simple internet search returns no results, you can pay for a more thorough background check. This examination is quite affordable, between Rp. 200 thousand to Rp. 550 thousand, or more. Some of these services are more trusted than others, so do a little research on them to see what feedback you get.
Method 5 of 6: Hire a Private Investigator
Step 1. Decide if you are the type of person who should hire a private investigator or not
A person with a certain personality type is better off leaving this task to an expert. You should let someone else examine your partner if you have any of the following traits:; jealous by nature; paranoid; have excessive imagination; or tend to overreact in certain situations.
Step 2. Hire a professional service to keep an eye on your partner in cyberspace and the real world
Make sure you hire a trusted private investigator who works within the confines of the law. If you have to go to court with evidence that the investigator has collected, this evidence must be admissible to the court. This is especially important if the evidence is obtained from online surveillance; Laws surrounding electronic privacy tend to be convoluted, so private investigators have more experience and understanding of these laws. An expert can also present neutral observations that can help you make wise decisions when deciding on your next move.
Step 3. Be prepared to pay
Private investigators are not cheap and the hourly pay is around Rp. 1 million to Rp. 3 million. Explain how long you want the investigator to investigate your case. Also consider the payment method for this service. Do you want to keep it a secret? Keeping a bill of this size a secret is even more difficult if you have the same bank account.
Step 4. Reduce your expenses by doing some self-checks
Gather some information about your partner's online activity, such as monitoring their internet history or checking their email first. Provide the investigator with basic facts and preliminary information, which can reduce her time finding out and focus more time on getting to the root of the problem.
Method 6 of 6: Confronting Your Partner
Step 1. Face your partner to see if he is cheating on you
One of the most obvious ways to determine whether someone is having an affair or not is to ask them directly. However, not everyone will tell the truth, and they may continue to lie. Spying on him on the internet will contribute to the enmity between the two of you and will weaken any remaining trust.
Step 2. Choose the right time to talk
Try to choose a time when both of you are not busy and can make time to have a conversation. You may want to catch your partner cheating on you, but this may not be the way to go.
Step 3. Don't be aggressive or accuse her with your questions
Having a conversation in a serious but calm manner will result in a more honest conversation than you being aggressive and demanding answers when asking where your partner is from and with whom.
Step 4. Suggest meeting a marriage counselor together
Ask for recommendations from your trusted friends or from a specialized agency that deals with marriage problems in your country, for example in the United States the "American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy". Not every marriage counselor will be right for you and your spouse, and it may take several meetings with more than one counselor to find the best fit. Be patient with your partner in this process, especially if he has confessed to you that he is having an affair. If you are committed to improving your relationship, you both need to forgive and compromise.
Warning
- Accessing and reading your spouse's email may be illegal, depending on your activities and the laws of your country. Make sure you fully understand how your country handles cases of electronic surveillance and wiretapping (listening to recorded conversations or from telephone conversations) before taking such actions. Courts have different interpretations of your spouse's reasonable expectation of privacy, so some jurisdictions will be more stringent in protecting your spouse against this case than others.
- If you spy on your partner, you run the risk of losing their trust, especially if you don't find anything out of the ordinary.
- Be careful when downloading software to spy on or perform surveillance on your computer or your partner's computer. Many programs carry viruses that can damage your computer's data storage.
