Cancer men are complex members of the zodiac family. Shy and aloof, the Cancer man will only be attracted to you if you first find your way into his life. On the other hand, most Cancer men value women who let them play the traditional male role in the relationship, so you have to let her take the reins if you want the relationship to work.
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Method 1 of 4: Lure from His Love for Family
Step 1. Bring on a feminine aura
Most Cancer men are attracted to women who are very feminine in a traditional way. Unknowingly, the Cancer man looks for a woman who fits his image of the ideal wife and mother. Everything from your appearance to your behavior should radiate femininity.
- Wear something sensual and seductive before you approach her, like a dress that hugs your curves in all the right places. Wearing floral perfumes with classic scents, such as roses, can also create the perfect feminine atmosphere around you.
- Don't try to get on his radar as "one of the guys." Avoid naughty jokes and witty pranks; instead, speak in a soft, loving voice. Avoid acting like the men around him.
Step 2. Show off your household skills
Once you get to know him well enough, take the initiative and show off your ability to take care of the house in a traditional way. One of the easiest ways is to cook. Cook meals or make treats for her, or invite her over to your place to cook complex recipes with you.
But keep in mind that the Cancer man is a bit more aloof and may reject your affection if he feels you are moving too fast. Inviting him to your place for a meal at the first meeting may end in rejection. Wait until you're ready to bond before giving him an invitation to your house
Step 3. Emphasize your love for family
You should talk about the love you have for your family as well as your dreams of getting married and having a family of your own. Most Cancer men dream of having children one day, so if your dreams are in line with theirs then it will help you dramatically.
- When talking about your current family, focus on the mother's side. Talk about things you learned from mom or time you spent recently with mom. Cancer is a quintessential mama's boy, and when you can show your mother a love that rivals her love for her mother, it will be easier for you to connect with her.
- In addition to talking about your mother, talk about fond memories of your family and your childhood.
Step 4. Connect with people close to him
As long as the Cancer man has a functional family, chances are he is very close to them. The sooner you get to know his family, the sooner you can attract him as a potential mate.
- Again, Cancer men tend to be mama's boys. If you can meet her mother and make a good impression, your value in her eyes will increase quickly.
- If he doesn't have a good relationship with his family, it's probably not his choice. A Cancer man who doesn't receive family love from his own family is likely to consider his circle of friends as family. In this case, your best bet is to be on good terms with his friends. However, focus on female friends, because if you get too close to her male friends, she may end up distrusting your feelings for her.
Step 5. Talk about his family in a positive way
Have him talk about his family and bring other topics back to the family as often as possible. Always do it in a positive way, and avoid anything that could sound like an insult to the people he loves.
- For example, if you've met her mother and found they look alike, say so.
- You can also compliment the relationship he has with his siblings or say that you think one particular member of his family might really like the new band/restaurant/book/movie you're talking about.
Method 2 of 4: Attract from the Side of the Order
Step 1. Keep a neat and well-groomed appearance
Cancer is a neat and orderly man. Thus, he will generally think that women who have the same regularity as him are more attractive than frivolous ones. Any space you claim in front of it should be clean. Even if you can't match the level of neatness, you have to try.
In other words, don't invite him if your desk is covered in a lot of paper or if your apartment is full of dirty laundry. You don't need to label everything and organize it in neat little places, but basic cleanliness and no clutter will suffice
Step 2. Ask him to help organize your space
If you do have a messy area, let him know before he finds it himself, by asking him to help you organize the area. The appeal of this request is threefold: you will make him feel needed, you will be attracted to his natural love for order, and you will demonstrate a willingness to reduce clutter and become more organized.
Step 3. Avoid spontaneity
Occasional romantic surprises are okay, but as a general rule, avoid making sudden wild suggestions or asking for something without warning. Cancer men love to maintain order in every aspect of their lives. This includes intangible physical space and time.
Method 3 of 4: Making Him Feel Needed
Step 1. Ask him for help
Cancers love to take on the traditional male role of giver and protector. Give him the opportunity to give you by asking for help. The situation doesn't need to be big, but it helps if you pick a task your dream Cancer is usually good at so he can do it thoroughly and impressively.
Ask him for help when you move into a new office or apartment, or if you want to buy a new car. But if nothing is dramatic enough in front of you, look for smaller excuses. For example, ask his opinion about a dilemma you have at work, even though you are secretly solving the problem yourself
Step 2. Quench his thirst for love
While Cancers enjoy taking on traditional male roles, they are also emotionally connected. They crave love on an emotional level, so don't be afraid to shower them with affection. The more your actions show affection, the more likely he will respond in the same way.
Step 3. Praise him
Give him compliments about his looks, skills, or the way he makes you feel special. Compliments make a Cancer man feel good about himself, and he appreciates a woman who gives him the same kind of encouragement as you whenever she says she's amazing.
Make sure your compliment is sincere and subtle. If a Cancer guy suspects that you're just trying to flatter him, chances are he'll become uncomfortable and will start pulling away from you
Step 4. Share your feelings
Since Cancer men tend to be on the emotional side, they also have a tendency to feel attracted to women who express emotions in the same way, if not more so. Also, showing a willingness to open up proves how much you want or need him in your life.
Remember Cancer tends to feel insecure. The quickest way to establish emotional security with the Cancer of your dreams is to instill emotional confidence first
Step 5. Try not to argue with it
Everyone can be wrong, and Cancer men are no exception. However, because Cancers are so emotionally reactive, they tend to attack when directly contradicted or corrected in a harsh way.
- When you need to correct it, choose wisely and persuasively. You should only rely on common sense to get your point across and try not to get emotional or reactive.
- Similarly, when he's upset or angry, don't strike back in response. It's better to wait until he calms down on his own than to force him to calm down.
Method 4 of 4: Encourage Him to Trust You
Step 1. Stay in his sight
Often times, with a Cancer man true attraction is not something instant. You need to enter his field of vision regularly before he begins to notice your presence.
Step 2. Move first
Cancer tends to be shy, so muster up your courage and approach him first. The key is to carry yourself in a non-aggressive way. Introduce yourself and stick to your presence in his mind, but never force your way into his personal circle, especially if he seems uncomfortable.
You have to be bold, but not direct. Perseverance is important here. Show that you are genuinely interested in him by continuing to make an effort to approach him. The Cancer man can feel insecure at times, but once you can calm those insecurities and show that your attraction is real and lasting, he'll feel comfortable enough to develop attraction and affection for you
Step 3. Never admit your feelings directly
Dealing with a Cancer man can be very tricky and may be a test of patience. As someone who enjoys playing the traditional male role in a relationship, he's likely to want to be the first to confess his feelings and will find you less attractive if you tell him first. On the other hand, you should make your feelings clear so that he has very little reason to doubt your interest in him.
Step 4. Listen
Cancer men are usually attracted to women who share their feelings, but you will be more attractive if you show a willingness to really listen to what she has to say. She needs to open up at her own pace and maybe slowly, but if you want to be a woman in her eyes, you have to be a trusted presence every step of the way.
At times, you must clearly demonstrate that you are actively listening. Remember his birthday or any other special day he told you. If he says something he experienced at work, after a few days ask how it goes now that the event has passed
Step 5. Don't arouse his jealousy
You may be tempted to whip up his affections by flirting with another guy, but that will destroy or kill the budding attraction he already has for you. Cancer men need to feel they can trust their partner completely. If you give him even the slightest reason to hesitate, he may cross your name as a potential mate.
Step 6. Prepare yourself for his possessiveness
Once a Cancer feels attracted to you, they are likely to become more possessive. If you want to nurture his growing interest, you'll need to find ways to deal with his invasion of your personal space. If you push him away, he may be gone forever from your life.
Of course, you should think about your own needs when pursuing a potential relationship, even if that could drive a guy out of your way. If possessiveness is dangerous or frightening, walk away and don't look back. Even if your possessiveness is pure and harmless, you should still take a step back if you're not feeling comfortable or happy
Step 7. Prepare yourself for a long term relationship
If you're hoping to lure a Cancer guy for just one night, maybe you should aim elsewhere. His dislike of fast and wild actions and his dedication to family make the Cancer man an unsuitable candidate for a momentary love. If you want to lure him in with the hope of establishing a long-term relationship, you're likely to have far greater success.
