You've been hanging out with someone a lot lately, but aren't sure if there's something more between you and that person? You can learn common signs that he likes you more than just a friend, as well as what to do if the answer is yes or no.
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Part 1 of 2: Watch for the Signs
Step 1. You hang out a lot, just the two of you
Hanging out is common in friendship, and it's not uncommon for just the two of you to do it alone. If your friend often invites you to hang out together, that's very normal for close friends or starting PDKT, and doesn't always indicate romance. However, if you've been feeling that it's been getting more frequent lately, or more often than usual, it may be a sign that he likes you.
If your friend doesn't want to hang out with other people when they're with you, that's a very clear sign
Step 2. You see him every day
You may see your friends often, but if you feel the need to ask them how they're doing all the time and every day, there's probably something more to it than casual friendships. Does your day feel incomplete without talking to your friends? Do you miss him, even if it's just after school?
Don't forget to send a short message. If the two of you are diligent in conversing through endless text messages, even hundreds of messages a day, it's possible that you both like each other
Step 3. Your hangout time is getting more intimate
Go for a drink alone? Having dinner together, or going out together at dusk? Does he do something out of the ordinary like invite you to do something you enjoy, but don't really like? It's a real sign that your friend cares about you, even really cares. Maybe he likes you more than just a friend.
Step 4. The two of you often do physical touch
If your friends like you, they may start touching you more often. While some people do have a "touchable" nature, an increase in physical touch can certainly be a sign of romantic interest. You may notice that they do it to test your limits, much like dipping your finger in water to check how cold it is. If you feel like it happens quite often, that's a very big sign.
If the touch makes you uncomfortable, you should say so. It's not okay to touch someone inappropriately and for no reason if you don't like them
Step 5. You get a prize
If you receive a gift that is personal, such as a poem, song, or something you really like, your friend may try to express his feelings in bold: I Love You.
Personal gifts and handmade items are generally signs of romantic interest. Compilation CDs? A big sign of interest
Step 6. Lots of flirting
Some people do have a seductive nature. A seducer can seduce all the baristas, waiters, and bus drivers he meets in one day. Of course, you'll notice that your platonic relationship with your friend is suddenly filled with routine flirting, when it wasn't before. They may not be gentle or shy about their crush on you.
If your friends give you lots of compliments, or make a few cheesy comments, you can be sure that they like you and are interested
Step 7. The two of you have no conversational boundaries
If your friends tell you everything–that is, everything–then it is a good sign that you are in a relationship that is more than just friends. You may discuss school situations, your sports team, and other normal matters with friends. But if you are diligent about talking about your dreams, your hopes, your fears, and other serious things with someone? It could be a sign that there is something deeper in your heart.
Discussing serious things is also natural to do with closest friends. If you're just having a nice conversation without noticing other signs, that doesn't mean there isn't something more
Step 8. Your friends are nervous when they are with you
If you're just friends with someone, there's no reason to be nervous in the slightest. If your friend seems suddenly agitated when you're around, it could be a sign that you're starting to feel like more than just a friend to them. Pay attention to their body language and their level of nervousness.
Step 9. Your friend looks dressed up when with you
Does your friend seem to put in extra effort to look good in your presence? If you're just taking her out to the mall, but your friend looks like they're on a date, it could be because she really feels like she's being asked out.
Pay close attention to things like hair care products, makeup, and the fancy clothes she wears. If your friend puts in more effort, you'll notice it
Step 10. Your friend is jealous
Try to bring up the feelings of love that you are feeling. Even if you have to make it up, tell the story as if you were dating someone else and watch your friend's reaction. If they like you, they will feel jealous or a little disappointed. Maybe they will make fun of the person they say you like. These are all signs that they are interested in you.
Ask your friends about their current crush. If they're embarrassed or don't want to talk about it, it could be because you're the one
Step 11. You like your friend
If you're wondering whether or not your friend likes you more than just a friend, it could be you. It's a bit difficult to distinguish between the two. What's the difference between wanting to hang out with someone a lot and wanting something "more"? Maybe not! Every relationship has its own rhythm, and it can be hard to tell the difference.
- Do you think about your friends more often than anyone else you like? If so, you may have deeper feelings.
- Are you physically attracted to your friend? If so, you might like it, but it could also be that you love it even though you've never noticed it before. You may like what you find beneath his physical appearance.
Part 2 of 2: Stepping Forward
Step 1. Determine how you feel
If you notice signs that your friend likes you, it's important to think carefully about your own feelings before taking action. Decide what you're going to do regardless of the outcome, before actually doing something.
- Assume the answer is "yes," and your friend likes you. Do you feel the same? Do you want your friendship to be more than just friendship?
- Assume the answer is "no," and your friend doesn't like you. Does discussing it make your friend feel uncomfortable? If you like your friend and want to have more of a relationship, will talking about them ruin the friendship you've already built?
Step 2. Ask directly
The best and fastest way to find out if your friend likes you is to ask them directly. If you've noticed more than two of the signs listed in the previous section, chances are that your friend really likes you. Sit down together and say, "We've been spending a lot of time together. I just realized it and started wondering – Do you like me? Would you like to be more than just friends?"
- Even if they don't like you, if your friend is a real, caring friend, they won't be offended by your question, or if you discuss whether or not they want to be more than "just" friends.
- If you feel like your friendship will be compromised, and you're not interested in being a couple, you shouldn't ask. Don't worry about whether they like you or not and just keep your friendship going.
Step 3. Ask for advice from your mutual friend and the other person
If you notice a number of signs of interest, but are still unsure, ask. Talk to mutual friends who are trusted and know both of you well. Say something gentle and kind, for example, "I feel like _ seems to be paying a lot of attention to me lately. Do you think there's something more behind it?"
Asking is not the same as "spreading gossip." Don't tell other people that your friend likes you until you talk to them first
Step 4. Say how you feel
If you think he likes you, and you like him too, tell him. Take your chance! You don't know how it will turn out. If you don't like her, and feel uncomfortable about it, it's also important to let her know. You don't deserve to be uncomfortable, and I don't think your friend wants you to feel uncomfortable either.
Even if you don't reciprocate your crush, it's better to be honest with each other and work things out. If you don't feel comfortable dealing with your friend's behavior, it may be that you two need to keep your distance for a while
Step 5. Keep your distance for a while if you feel uncomfortable
If your friend does like you but you don't, or vice versa, it may be a little difficult to continue spending time together as usual. It's sad to think your friendship will be ruined, but in some cases, temporarily distancing yourself is essential so you can stay friends long term.
In some cases, if your feelings are very strong, it will be difficult to stay friends like you used to when you both have different feelings. You both will drift away from each other without realizing it. Does not matter. It is part of the self-maturation process
Tips
- You have to strain your ears and eyes to make sure he likes you.
- If you like him too, give him positive and direct cues. No one likes to get confusing signs from other people.
Warning
- It could be that he is a friendly person, so be careful.
- Whatever you do, don't go up to him and ask if he likes you or you'll put yourself and your friends in an awkward situation.
