Being attractive to the opposite sex is all about highlighting your strengths -- whether mental, physical or emotional -- and having the confidence to get what you want. Remember that being attractive is less about them and more about you -- so focus on yourself first. Be the best you can be and the guys will be coming in swarms soon!
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Method 1 of 3: Have an Attractive Personality
Step 1. Be confident
Confidence is one of the most attractive personality traits a woman can have, so the first step to being attractive is learning to love yourself, your imperfections and your whole being!
- Think about it -- how can you expect a guy to think you're beautiful, smart and cool if you don't believe you are beautiful, smart and cool?
- Stop worrying about your flaws and focus on all the things you love about yourself -- make a list or repeat positive affirmations if that helps!
- Another suggestion with "fake it until you finally make it." This means pretending that you are confident even when you are feeling shy or nervous. Eventually self-confidence will come naturally!
Step 2. Be humorous
Having a good sense of humor is always a good thing, especially when it comes to dating. Nobody wanted a serious Sally. In addition, you will look more attractive when you laugh or smile.
- Having a good sense of humor doesn't mean you have to be a stand-up comedian (though being able to make guys laugh is a bonus). You should at least be able to laugh at yourself and not take life too seriously.
- Imagine a guy accidentally spills his drink on you. Did you yell at him for ruining your dress, then attack him? Or do you laugh at it and tell him to buy you a drink to make up with you? Which version do you think a guy will feel more attracted to? (Hint: The second version.)
Step 3. Be Kind
Sometimes women think that being mysterious and aloof will make them look attractive to men, but this is wrong. If you want a man who is kind and sincere, it's safer to be nice.
- Be nice, this means being polite and virtuous and not treating a potential matchmaker like cleaning something from the bottom of your shoe (unless the guy is a jerk).
- If you're having a conversation with a guy, try to avoid talking about yourself all the time. Express your interest in him and try to really listen to what he has to say. This increases his ego, and subconsciously makes him more attracted to you!
- Even if you're not interested, you should try to slowly change the guy. Think about how you would like to be treated if the situation were reversed.
Step 4. Be Smart
Let's get one thing straight -- you shouldn't, try to make yourself look stupid just to make yourself seem attractive to a guy.
- This tactic isn't just about attracting the right guy, because every experienced guy finds it attractive to have intelligence or vice versa!
- The right guy will be intrigued by your intelligence, he will appreciate your ability to have meaningful conversations and be genuinely interested in your opinion. So don't just sit there with a blank expression, nodding like a ball head!
- If you feel you need to highlight your speaking skills, the best thing you can do is stay up-to-date on current events -- try reading the newspaper or watching the news (if you haven't) and you'll never find yourself running out of conversation material.
Step 5. Be yourself
You must have heard this a million times before -- be yourself, be yourself, be yourself. Well, you're about to hear it again, because it's really really important - just be yourself!
- Don't try to play a certain personality just because you think it will make you more attractive. This rarely works and will only end up exhausting yourself. Besides, if you think a guy won't like who you are, then what's the point? This won't work!
- Of course, it's okay to spice things up a little bit - "Sure, I love red socks!" "Yeah, I always go rock climbing every weekend!" As long as you don't lie right away, a little exaggeration is acceptable for the sake of an interesting conversation.
Method 2 of 3: Becoming Physically Attractive
Step 1. Wear clothes that make you feel comfortable
No one denies that; what you wear is important -- the clothes you wear tell the world how you want to look.
- That's why it's important to wear clothes that make you feel comfortable -- that express your personality as well as make you look good.
- Men aren't just attracted to women who wear modern clothes, wear tight dresses and stomp around in high heels -- although that's not a bad thing!
- The right guy will be attracted to a woman who feels good about herself, no matter what she's wearing -- a formal suit or a dress with a lot of paint on it.
- But there's nothing wrong with bragging about how you look by wearing clothes that highlight your best assets -- be it your brightness, green eyes, tiny waist or plump butt.
Step 2. Dress up
Make-up is a fantastic tool for highlighting your best features, covering blemishes and generally helping you feel more confident about your appearance.
- The right foundation can cover many skin problems -- acne and redness, dark spots and under-eye circles. A little outline can make a round face look slimmer, or elongate a short/tiny face. Some experts apply mascara to "open" your eyes, making them look bigger and brighter. And many other things.
- Make-up shouldn't stick like a mask -- make-up is used to highlight your best features and camouflage the parts of your face that you're less proud of. And remember -- it's not just the make-up that makes you look more attractive to men -- but the confidence you put on it!
- Of course, if you don't wear make-up often and you're happy to wear no make-up at all, we don't recommend doing the opposite! That's a good thing for you!
Step 3. Style your hair
Beautiful, shiny, well-groomed hair can be a big consideration for men, so it is important to pay more attention to it.
- First and foremost, try to have your hair shampooed as often as possible. Can you imagine walking into the man of your dreams on a day when your hair is greasy? Embarrassing. If you have a very busy lifestyle, try carrying a bottle of dry shampoo in your bag -- then you can give yourself a quick spray in a pinch.
- Get your hair cut regularly, so that it looks healthy and well-groomed rather than unkempt and unkempt. If you dye your hair, don't wait too long to go to the salon -- you definitely don't want your root color to show!
- Experiment with different styles to find a style that suits you and highlights your best features. Can you try a pixie cut? Or try an ombre hairstyle? Ask your stylist for some ideas for your hair if you're not sure.
Step 4. Scent
Of course, not only do you look good, you should also try to appeal to as many male senses as possible! That's why finding your scent and having it smell great is so important!
- It's obvious that the first step to having an alluring scent is to take care of personal hygiene. Find some scented shower gel to use in the shower and then apply a lotion with the right scent -- this will help the scent last longer.
- Choose a scent that fits your personality and the season at hand -- do you want a light and fruity scent, warm and floral, or a rich, musk scent? Don't make a quick decision when shopping for perfume, go to the store and test a sample first. Use the perfume throughout the day to see how the scent develops. If you still like the scent, then buy the perfume.
- Don't overdo it when you apply the perfume – you don't want the guy to smell the pungent scent. Apply a small drop of the perfume to each of your pulse points -- the inside of your wrist, behind your ear, on the crook of your elbow and on the inside of your thigh. Then he'll get a mesmerizing scent every time you walk!
Step 5. Stay fit and healthy
You don't have to be slim to attract a guy, but you do need to maintain your weight and pay attention to your health.
- Men are very attracted to confident women who feel happy and have healthy skin -- that's a fact.
- So when you're forcing yourself to run the last mile or trying to convince yourself to order a salad instead of a pizza, think of the man of your dreams -- it will provide some motivation.
- Try to find an activity that you enjoy, then the benefits of exercise will be an added bonus. Take a dance class, practice riding, learn to surf -- anything that gets you excited and motivated. This will also be something interesting to talk about when you are chatting with the guys!
- Remember that attracting a guy isn't the only or even reason to eat well and exercise (you should do it for yourself), but if that's what keeps you motivated, do it.
Method 3 of 3: Making Temptations
Step 1. Smile as often as possible
Smiling is an important part of flirting. Research shows that smiling makes you look more attractive to the opposite sex -- so what are you waiting for? Blink your pearly white eyes!
- Smiling and laughing also make you seem more approachable to men. Good for you if you've been waiting for the guy across from your bar to come and talk to you!
- Smiling will also make you feel happier and more confident, two feelings that are very important in flirting.
Step 2. Make eye contact
Making and maintaining eye contact is a classic flirting technique that is as effective today as it was hundreds of years ago!
- There's something intimate about looking someone in the eye, so making eye contact is a good way to communicate your interest without saying a word.
- One trick that guys find really attractive is to stare at the object that grabs your attention until he sees what you're staring at. Hold eye contact for a moment, then smile and look away (if possible, blushing). He will be captivated!
Step 3. Be a good conversationalist
No matter how beautiful you look, how good you smell or how beautiful your smile is, you won't be able to hold a man's attention if you can't have a conversation.
- Ask lots of questions -- it gets men to talk about themselves and gives them a chance to brag about themselves, which is something men love. It also prevents you from talking about yourself too much, which can give you the impression of being a selfish person.
- While you're chatting, try to include the guy's name in as much of the conversation as possible. It looks simple, but this is actually something that is core to men and can create intimacy between you and the man.
- Try to find some common ground, whether it's your passion for black and white films or your support for the local ice hockey team. This shows him that you are compatible with each other and allows the conversation to flow more easily.
Step 4. Break the barrier against touch
If you're having a good conversation with the guy you're interested in, you can make him even more infatuated by breaking the touch barrier.
- By making physical contact, you are sending a signal of your interest as well as tickling him and making him want you more.
- Contact can be made slowly -- a light touch on the arm or shoulder, "accidentally" rubbing your hand against him, or leaning gently on his shoulder.
- If you're more adventurous, you can open up a little more by pretending to fix the collar, tie or hair so you can touch your finger against his neck or forehead. This provides an excuse to draw closer to him, so take advantage of smiling and making eye contact while you do this.
Step 5. Leave him to make him want something more
One of the most important tricks of flirting is to always leave a man wanting more. This makes you a little mysterious and unattainable and allows men to experience the pursuit of you.
- Don't wait until the chat gets awkward or boring, try to leave things on a different note. This requires serious self-control, but the results are worth it.
- Take the initiative and give the guy your number before you leave. You can write on a piece of paper and tuck it in his pocket, or you can take his cell phone and enter the number into your contacts. Men love forward-thinking women who are willing to go after what they want.
- When you leave, lean on him as if to leave a kiss, but at the last minute turn your head and whisper "I had a great time" in his ear. With those words he's already in your hands and he won't be able to resist contacting you on a date!
Tips
- When a guy gives a compliment, don't deny it. Be grateful.
- Keep candy or gum away.
- Men love it when you laugh at their jokes, even if they aren't funny. Just don't laugh at all their jokes or you'll be the one who just goes along with it.
- Encourage the man when he needs it.
- Walk into a room like you own the place. Lift your head and think "magically and gracefully."
- Even if you think the guy likes someone else, be good friends with him. You may find that you are the one he is after.
- Don't look like a tease, you'll soon get a bad reputation.
- Socialize but don't too social. Get attention and be confident but don't act like it's all about you.
Warning
- Be careful not to be the one who just goes along with it, that person will only become an annoying person.
- Do not be too confident! Like saying things, "Aren't I hot?" and "You should be grateful to have found a perfect girl like me!" Okay, Miss Arrogant! There is a fine line between self-confidence and arrogance. Don't cross it! Being confident means that you are not a doormat and that you are willing to share your ideas. Being arrogant or pushy means that you 'walk' above other people and silence other people's ideas. Do not do it. Be confident and polite.
