Everyone has heard of how scary the friend zone can be. There are so many who clap one hand when loving one's own friend. There is a lot of debate out there about whether friendship can turn into love. Seducing a friend is not the same as luring someone from scratch, and its success depends heavily on the strength of the current friendship. There is a big risk as you may lose the friendship itself in the process. However, if you feel like there's more to it than just a casual friendship, give it a try because if done right, friendship can turn into beautiful love.
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Part 1 of 4: Getting Ready
Step 1. Be a good friend
A good friendship is not just a preparation for flirting. If you are friends, he will interpret your flirting based on your personality, rather than the flirt itself. Close friendships vary widely, but have many similarities.
- Get used to chatting with him. Even if it's just small talk, it's enough to show that you're interested in him as a person and care about the little things.
- Make him happy. We usually choose the people closest to us in life based on whether or not we can make each other happy. That also applies to relationships such as friendships.
Step 2. Make sure the situation is right
If you want to launch a seduction, first look at the timing. If she's just heard bad news and is looking for a place to complain, that's not the time to be flirting. Seduction is also not appropriate if the compatibility between the two of you is still lacking. If you don't think now is a good idea, it's best to wait for a better opportunity.
However, try not to wait too long. If you wait too long for the right moment, someone else may come along and destroy your chance
Step 3. Spend a lot of time together
In general, the more often two people of the opposite sex spend time together, the more likely love will develop. Before you launch a direct flirt, sometimes a call to leave can mean a lot of things. If you don't see him often, ask him to meet. Even if they were just friends, the meeting maximized the opportunity for something more to happen.
Going out with a group of friends is fine too, but there's little chance of anything special happening. However, it's different with being alone because on that occasion you only pay attention to each other
Part 2 of 4: Making Seduction
Step 1. Find quiet moments alone
Appropriate seduction is not made in a public place. To build intimacy, you need a supportive place. For example, at the end of a party one night, or at your house or his. A quiet and private place is very important because you don't want any external pressure to affect the way he accepts your advances. Even though he really wanted to be seduced, he might still feel embarrassed if other friends saw him.
Step 2. Create a relaxed and cheerful atmosphere
Even if he finds you attractive, you'll have a hard time flirting if he's not in a good mood. Highlight your positive side. The trick, decide to be fun. Cheerfulness can open up opportunities for open seduction, consciously or not. Pleasant flirting is usually not too serious.
Step 3. Express interest through light touch
Touch is an important part of seduction. Touch is a way to cross the line between an ordinary friend and something more. You can try hugging him or holding his arm. There's no big risk in that kind of touch between two people who are friends, and by his reaction you can tell if he's going to accept the gesture more.
Start with a gentle flirt just in case you have to back off when he doesn't seem to reciprocate your feelings
Step 4. Look into her eyes
While eye contact in chat is normal, prolonged stares usually hint at something more. Studies show that staring into someone's eyes for a long time can cause intense feelings. Even if you spend a lot of time with this friend, try to look him in the eye when flirting.
Reactions to eye contact can be positive or negative, depending on whether he finds you physically attractive
Step 5. Put flirting into the chat
If he's close enough and comfortable with you, you're sure to have a lot of conversations between the two of you. With such a foundation, try to incorporate flirting into casual chat. You can start with a light, teasing comment. A more obvious way to show interest is a compliment, especially if the compliment is aimed at a body part that you normally find attractive.
An example of a teasing comment is, "Your hair is great today. I think it suits you very well."
Step 6. Measure the reaction
One simple thing that's important to do before making a final push is to reflect on his reaction to your flirtations so far. If he smiles when you touch him or responds to your flirting by flirting back, he may be inviting you to take it a step further. On the other hand, if he seems uncomfortable, he may expect you to back off.
Everyone's psychological state is different. Since he's your friend, you should have an idea of how he reacts to the person he likes
Step 7. Take a bold step
All seduction involves intimacy. Usually, that means a kiss, but sometimes it's just a romantic or sexually charged comment. If he responds well to your first move, you can move on. A kiss on the lips is considered to have exceeded the boundaries between friends. So, once you feel the time is right, do it. However, do not rush. This point may be stressful, but it will not be beautiful if every moment is not enjoyed.
Any bold move is definitely risky. It's good to think about how big your chances are before making a seduction
Step 8. Open yourself up to the possibility of being seduced
Strange indeed, but in seduction sometimes we do not know who is seducing whom. Women tend to play a passive role in seduction, but sometimes play an active role in encouraging the man. If you're a woman and feel a natural attraction, she may be waiting for the right moment to act. Show that he can approach.
Part 3 of 4: Keeping Friends
Step 1. Accept the consequences
The consequences of seduction are sometimes very good, sometimes very bad. Friendships can turn into one-night stands or even long-term relationships. On the other hand, flirting can make things uncomfortable and awkward. If so, the best way to save the friendship (if you want to save it) is to talk about what happened openly. Explain how you feel and why you decided to act this way.
- Better not ask why he refused. Focusing on rejection will only make both parties equally uncomfortable.
- If a friendship is broken, you have to accept the loss. Not everything goes the way you want, including pursuing a relationship.
Step 2. Have a good talk
If the seduction fails, there will definitely be some awkwardness between the two of you. It would be nice if the awkwardness was used as an opportunity to reveal what each party felt. Talking may reduce the impact of the rejection, and is also important if you want to remain good friends with the person. If she wants to act like nothing happened, it's best to just go along and ignore this episode of seduction as soon as possible. Otherwise, talk about what happened as two best friends. Make sure he knows that you care about him as a friend even if you have other feelings for him too.
You can start a conversation with something like, "I know this is confusing. Even though I'm attracted to you, I also value you as a friend. I hope you know how I feel about you hasn't changed because of this."
Step 3. Do what you have to do next
After flirting, you have to move on regardless of whether the seduction worked, you and the other person remained friends, or the friendship broke down. The odds are unpredictable, but in the worst case, there's no point in lamenting. An important part of life is accepting decisions and learning from experience. Even if you regret flirting with your friend, you should immediately forgive yourself. After all, you've taken the risk and it's worth being proud of.
- If seduction fails miserably and the friendship ends, fill the void in your heart with something new. Keep yourself busy. People who can keep themselves busy recover faster from emotional pain. Do not worry about it. Get on with life, and turn your frustrations into energy for self-improvement.
- If the flirt fails but the friendship continues, try to act normal. Friendship can run as usual if both parties can talk about problems. Accept that feelings are not always reciprocated.
- If he refuses at first and the friendship stays strong, he'll be able to see that you really value him. If you put the idea of a love relationship aside for a while, there's a good chance he will change his mind and realize that you're the ideal partner.
Part 4 of 4: Considering Options
Step 1. Consider your opportunity
Since you are already friends, you can estimate your chances of success based on your current interactions with them. Have you two ever flirted with each other? Has he been involved with someone else? Is there the impression that he finds you attractive? If the answer to one of these questions is not very pleasant, it is not necessarily hopeless. You'll have to play the cards right, and maybe change some things about yourself to better fit the image of the partner he needs.
You must have an estimate before taking a step. Even if the seduction doesn't work, at least you know what to do next because the situation will be uncomfortable if you are confused about what to do
Step 2. Realize if he wants to be seduced
Basically, seduction is a form of physical attention and there's no one who doesn't like the feeling of being wanted. Don't think about how he might react later, but consider now that he may be harboring feelings that you're not aware of. If you're flirting without being weird or demanding, at least he knows that your flirting is based on affection.
Step 3. Determine if the seduction is worth the risk
Unlike seducing strangers, the risk of seducing one's own friends is greater. The main risk is the breakdown of friendships. In fact, the failure of seduction can also affect friendships with other people. On the other hand, a fairly strong friendship can last after a failed flirt, as long as there is an open discussion.
- Compare expectations and opportunities, then decide whether or not you should seduce him.
- There are no easy answers to questions like this, but you must be prepared to accept the risk of any decision. While flirting may seem risky, silence is also painful if you really like him.
Step 4. Clarify your expectations
There are varying degrees of success in relation to expectations. If you want a relationship, but seem like it's only possible to get one night's love, then think about whether it's worth it. You also can't expect a one-night stand with someone you might be emotionally attached to after making love.
Step 5. Decide what you want from him
There are many reasons to seduce friends. Maybe you're looking for a serious relationship, or you want a more "friends but love" relationship.
If you're looking for a "friend but intimate" relationship, it's a good idea to seduce a friend who is already open and comfortable with that kind of sexuality
Tips
- Don't forget to take care of yourself. If you can make yourself more attractive, do so to increase your chances of success.
- Changing the impression in the eyes of others can make a difference. Small changes like a new haircut can already make your friends see you in a different light.
Warning
- Do not try to seduce a friend if he already has a partner. That's a bad idea. Your seduction is likely to fail, and friendships are broken.
- Don't judge a friendship based on hopes for more. If that's what you hope for, the friendship will feel empty, and as a result, the chances of a relationship will be slim.
